19/02/2026
Just because you can carry it
doesn’t mean it was yours to carry.
A lot of people learned early:
be the easy child
be the strong one
don’t add pressure
don’t need too much
So you adapted.
You anticipate everyone’s moods.
You fix problems before they’re spoken.
You stay calm when you’re actually overwhelmed.
You show up even when you’re exhausted.
And people praise you for it.
But here’s the quiet truth:
competence can become a coping mechanism.
Over-functioning often starts as survival —
in families where someone had to hold things together,
in relationships where your needs weren’t safe,
in spaces where love felt conditional.
You didn’t become “strong” by accident.
You became reliable because it felt safer than being cared for.
Healing sometimes looks like:
letting someone else be disappointed
not solving everything
asking for help
resting without earning it
You are allowed to be supported too.