19/12/2024
Hello,
I'm pretty shocked to see that my last update went out a year ago!!
What can I say? I'm always wanting to send them and then life with clients' sessions and a hubby with ADHD takes me over. I'm so hoping to be more in touch with you lovely people next year.
If we're healthy and fit, we are likely to get a fair quantity of life. It's definitely good to think we'll be long lived but it's the quality of life that really matters the most.
A couple I saw recently said "We have the perfect life, lovely children, a beautiful home, enough money for special treats, BUT we're not really feeling connected, other than on a rather mundane surface level. We get all the jobs done, take great care of the kids and all the rest of the practical stuff...BUT neither of us is feeling close to the other one. We hardly ever cuddle and have pretty much forgotten what s*x is!
This couple have the quantity but are deeply suffering on the quality front.
Underneath all the doing-ness, they do feel loving to one another but it's as if there is no real space for the actual loving itself or what I call "expressions of love".
And yes, it takes making the space to actually create the closeness that is so needed. It takes motivation too and awareness and some degree of risk.
If you are both waiting for something to happen, you might both wait a long time. Often there is a stuckness that's got far too settled in place alongside habits that never get talked about, let alone assessed for their outdated-ness. And apathy can all too easily take over and that's not easy to step out of, especially after a long period of time.
Perhaps every now and again, one of you says "We haven't had s*x for two years!" "We need to" or "I need to" or.....
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Hello, I’m pretty shocked to see that my last update went out a year ago!! What can I say? I’m always wanting to send them and then life with clients’ sessions and a hubby with ADHD takes me over. I’m so hoping to be more in touch with you lovely people next year. If we’re healthy ... Read...
