Amanda Tooms Therapy and Wellbeing

07/05/2026

So many people come to therapy worrying that they are too complicated, too emotional, too damaged or that their experiences won’t make sense to someone else.

But therapy is not about fitting you into a box.
It’s about understanding you.

Every person who walks into the therapy room brings a completely unique story, history, nervous system, way of coping, personality, fear, hope and pain. No two people experience anxiety, trauma, low self-esteem, relationship difficulties or eating disorders in exactly the same way.

That’s why my real specialism is always the person sitting in front of me.

Not judgement.
Not assumptions.
Not trying to “fix” you as quickly as possible.

But offering compassion, curiosity, attunement and a space where you can finally exhale and feel fully heard.

Sometimes healing begins in the moment someone realises they no longer have to edit themselves to be accepted.

Therapy can be the first place where you feel able to bring the parts of yourself you’ve hidden for years. The overthinking, the fear, the shame, the anger, the exhaustion, the people-pleasing, the self-doubt and still be met with warmth and understanding.

You do not need to arrive perfectly articulated.
You do not need to have everything figured out.
You just need to arrive as you are.

If you’re looking for therapy for anxiety, trauma, eating disorders, low confidence, relationship struggles or emotional overwhelm, I offer a compassionate, non-judgemental space where your story matters.

05/05/2026

Most people don’t come to therapy because everything has fallen apart.

They come because something keeps niggling.

You’re holding it together on the outside but your mind doesn’t switch off.
Your relationships feel harder than they should.
Your confidence isn’t where it used to be.

And you keep telling yourself:
“it’s not that bad”
“I should be able to deal with this”
“other people have it worse”

But here’s the thing if it keeps showing up, it’s worth paying attention to.

Therapy isn’t about proving how much you’re struggling.
It’s about being honest about what’s not working anymore.

You don’t need a perfect explanation.
You don’t need a crisis.
You just need a starting point.

If something in your life feels off, heavy, or harder than it should be…that’s enough.

Online & in-person sessions
Enquiries via link in bio

04/05/2026

Grief can feel incredibly lonely, but connection can gently change that.

Tomorrow evening we hope to see you at our new Location in Newington Care Court Home, Keycol Hill, Sittingbourne, ME9 7LG.

Our support circle is a space where you can:
✨ Be heard without judgement
✨ Share (or simply sit quietly)
✨ Connect with others who understand

With a new location starting tonight in
Newington Care Court home,
Keycol Hill,
Newington
Sittingbourne,
ME9 7LG
we are opening our doors to even more of our community.

Held with care. Open to all. FREE to attend.

This is not a counselling service and you must be over 18 to attend.

We’re here when you’re ready.

Warmly,
Debbie Jane Clay and Clare Cavalli
Piece Of Wellness- CIC - Community Interest Company

03/05/2026

Hello, I’m Amanda 😊

If you’ve found your way here recently, or you’ve been quietly following for a while, I wanted to reintroduce myself and share a little of why I do this work.

I’m a psychotherapist, counsellor, and clinical supervisor based in Kent, working in private practice. I support people with trauma, anxiety, personality struggles, disordered eating and emotional overwhelm.

But I didn’t come to this work through textbooks alone…
I came to it through my own experience of being a client.

There was a time in my life where things felt incredibly low. I remember leaving a therapy session one day and sensing that something had shifted in me. I felt lighter… not because everything was “fixed”, but because I was finally being seen, heard, and held in a way I hadn’t experienced before.

And I remember thinking:
“If this is possible for me, I want to help create this for others.”

That moment shaped everything.

Now, I sit alongside my clients as they begin to make sense of their own experiences. Together, we gently explore what’s going on beneath the surface, the patterns, the pain, the parts that might feel confusing or hard to put into words.

Therapy with me isn’t about having the “right” words.
It’s about having a space where you can show up exactly as you are.

Sometimes there’s deep pain.
Sometimes there’s laughter.
But always, there is compassion, curiosity, and a focus on you.

If you’ve been thinking about therapy but aren’t sure where to start, or even what you need that’s okay. We can figure that out together.

🤍 You don’t have to have it all worked out to begin.

If this resonates, you’re very welcome to reach out or explore working together.

01/05/2026

We’re four months into the year.

If you’ve been working through anxiety, trauma, low self-esteem, or relationship struggles in therapy you might not feel “there” yet. But pause for a moment.

Look back at where you were in January.

Not the goals you thought you should hit…
…but the quiet, often unseen work you’ve been doing.

Have you noticed even the smallest shifts?

Maybe your inner voice has softened.
Maybe you’ve paused before reacting in anger.
Maybe you’re starting to understand your patterns in relationships.
Maybe you’ve found words for something that once felt impossible to say.

That is progress.

Because healing from trauma, anxiety, depression, grief, and emotional dysregulation isn’t linear and it’s rarely loud.

Over the past few months, I’ve supported clients navigating:
low self-esteem, relationships, depression, childhood trauma, sexual trauma, ADHD, ASD, identity, menopause, grief, PTSD, anxiety, and EUPD.

And what I see, again and again:

People showing up.
People staying.
People trying, gently, bravely, imperfectly.

If your healing feels slow, you’re not behind.

You’re in it.

And if you haven’t started therapy or counselling yet, you don’t need a perfect moment, just the right support to begin.

🍃Save this for the days you feel like you’re not making progress.

26/04/2026

“I’m not sure what I want or what I need… but I think therapy can help.”

This is one of the most common things I hear.
And it’s more than enough to begin.

You don’t need the right words.
You don’t need a clear goal.
You don’t even need to know what’s “wrong.”

Therapy is a space where we gently begin to explore what feels confusing, heavy, or hard to name.
Together, we start to notice patterns, emotions, and experiences that may have been pushed aside, misunderstood, or never fully processed.

We might explore:
✨recurring thoughts or worries
✨relationship dynamics
✨feeling overwhelmed or emotionally stuck
✨anxiety that doesn’t seem to have a clear cause
✨past experiences that still feel present
✨a sense that something just isn’t quite right

Over time, things begin to make more sense.
What once felt tangled starts to unravel.
You begin to understand your needs, your feelings, and what matters to you.

Therapy isn’t about having the answers.
It’s about creating the space to discover them.

🍃If you’ve been thinking, “I don’t know what I need, but I know I need something”…
that’s often the perfect place to start.🍃

24/04/2026

You don’t have to stay in the darkness.
When you’re living with grief, anxiety, or depression, everything can feel heavy, unclear, and exhausting. Even small steps can feel overwhelming.

Therapy offers a calm, supportive space to slow things down, understand what you’re holding, and begin to move forward gently and at your own pace.

Healing doesn’t usually happen all at once.
It often looks like small shifts:
🍃feeling a little lighter,
🍃breathing a little easier,
🍃seeing things a little more clearly.

Over time, those small moments can help you step out of the darkness and into something brighter, steadier, and more manageable.

If you’re struggling right now, you don’t have to do it alone.

If this resonates with you, you’re welcome to reach out.
Send me a message, or save this for when you need the reminder that things can feel different.

22/04/2026

16/04/2026

✨ The golden thread of my career… and how it shapes the way I work with you.

Across performing arts, education, leadership, and therapy, one thing has remained constant:
I’ve always been drawn to understanding people beneath the performance, beneath the pressure, beneath the “I’m fine.”

That golden thread now sits at the heart of my work as a therapist.

It means I don’t just focus on symptoms.
I’m listening for the patterns, the meaning, the story and the person at the centre of it all.

Whether you’re experiencing:
• anxiety or overwhelm
• trauma or loss
• relationship difficulties
• disordered eating or emotional coping patterns
• burnout, identity shifts, or life transitions
• pressures within performing arts, education, or caring roles

…my transitional skills help me meet you with both clinical understanding and human compassion.

Because therapy isn’t about fitting you into a box.
It’s about understanding your story, your experiences, and your way forward.

If you’re feeling stuck, carrying too much, or simply need a space that is calm, thoughtful and non-judgemental 🍃I’m here.

✨ My specialism is you.

If this resonates:
• Save this for when you need it
• Share with someone who might benefit
• Or reach out to explore working together

03/04/2026

Spring often brings a sense of growth, sometimes quietly, but meaningfully. 🌿

This month has given me space to reflect on the different ways growth shows up in my work.

One thing I’ve noticed in particular is an increase in male clients reaching out for support.

This feels significant.

For many men, accessing therapy can still carry layers of stigma, expectation, or uncertainty. So when someone takes that step, often quietly, often after a long period of holding things alone, it matters.

It speaks to a gradual shift in the accessibility and openness around men’s mental health.
And it’s something I feel privileged to witness and support.

Alongside this, I’ve continued to grow my clinical supervision work holding reflective space for other professionals, and beginning conversations around broader, more accessible ways of offering that support.

Connection has also been a theme this month.
Spending time at WIBN (Women in Business Network, Medway) has been a reminder of the value of shared space, of stepping out of our individual roles and into conversations that support, challenge, and connect us.

And, as always, underpinning all of this is the importance of professional boundaries.

Not as barriers but as the structure that allows this work to be safe, ethical, and consistent.

There is always more happening behind the scenes than is shared here.
And that feels important to hold.

But within that, there is also growth.
Connection.
And a quiet sense of progress.

If you’ve been considering reaching out for support, whatever that might look like you don’t have to have it all figured out to begin. 🌱