23/03/2026
Seven years old.
That’s about the age when so many of the beliefs still quietly steering our lives today got quietly downloaded.
Not usually from one big dramatic event. Just… everyday stuff. Watching how people reacted, soaking up the room’s energy, clocking what earned love or praise, what got dismissed or shut down, what felt safe versus scary. Tiny us were like little sponges, picking it all up without a filter.
I catch myself thinking about little Tina sometimes…the quiet conclusions she reached about who she was, what she deserved, how the world worked. Stuff she carried for years (decades even) without realizing it was there, influencing who I dated, how hard I pushed at work, the way I talked to myself when things went wrong.
And here’s what always softens me: she was trying her hardest. We all were. Those beliefs weren’t wrong back then…they were smart survival tools for a kid’s world, ways to feel okay, belong, stay safe.
But friend… we’re not kids anymore.
Why does this even matter now?
Because those old tapes are still playing in the background. They show up when you hesitate to ask for what you need, when you feel “not enough” no matter how much you achieve, when the same relationship patterns keep repeating. They’re not who you really are…they’re just outdated code from a seven-year-old’s perspective.
The beautiful flip side? Our brains aren’t stuck. Those early lines can be updated. Not wishful thinking…actual science on neuroplasticity shows we can form new connections, shift perspectives, and rewrite beliefs through awareness, practice, therapy, whatever works. We get to install better software that fits who we are today.
We’re right at the edge of the best part. Hang in there with me…the next piece in the series is where it all starts locking together. I’m genuinely buzzing to share it. 💛
Drop a 💛 if something pops up right now—a belief from little-you that you’re still noticing in your life today. I’d love to know I’m not the only one. 👇