22/03/2026
Sometimes I feel sad that I’m never going to say “we’re celebrating 50 years together” or “20” or “10”. But I’m proud to have a few healthy, long-term friendships.
With the number of near death experiences I’ve had as well as living with chronic health issues I now quantify my life in days and hours rather than weeks or years.
Sometimes I feel sad that I’ve had so much pain, dysfunction, confusion and dissatisfaction in relationships and myself.
They say your parents f**k you up but it’s not just that. It’s patterns in society, school, the workplace; everywhere that makes us who we are and what we believe and attract.
Every single time a need is not met. Whenever we feel disrespected, dismissed or rejected. We drop deeper into a pit that we eventually have to dig ourselves out of.
I fully understand what “the body keeps the score” means now and how essential it is to care for ourselves first and limit access to anyone who is harmful in any way to our emotional or physical health.
Some of us are here to face and transmute some of the worst patterns in this world. It often means isolation, which goes against our most basic needs as humans for connection.
So for my friends who know what I’m talking about and who are learning to love themselves even at the expense of the tribe: we are doing important, valuable work.
We have to face some of the deepest fears of basic survival and that takes huge courage and strength.
We are here to learn and to evolve. It is a privilege to be on a challenging path, to be marginalised, to not fit in, to do things differently from everyone else.
Those of us healing ourselves, being authentic and feeling the full range of emotions in order to become our best selves are collectively healing the dysfunctions in society.
We are never alone, even on our loneliest days. And it is good to acknowledge how far we’ve come 💚
