Emma Toms - The Confident Wellness Coach

17/04/2026

Had an excellent workshop with Emma Toms - The Confident Wellness Coach discussing WHY you're stuck 🤔🤔

Thank you so much to everyone who attended; your participation made the experience so enjoyable!

Watch this space for our next adventure 🫶🏻

17/04/2026

Tonight we didn’t try to fix anything.
We slowed it down.
We listened.
We got honest about what’s really going on underneath the patterns.

Because you’re not stuck for the reasons you’ve been told.
You’re not lazy.
You’re not lacking discipline.
You’re not broken.
Your body is protecting you.

We explored what that actually means — how the nervous system chooses the familiar over the unknown, even when the familiar is exhausting, frustrating, or keeping you small.

We spoke about the stuck states:
– the part that pulls back just as things get good
– the part that overthinks everything
– the part that keeps everyone else comfortable
– the part that avoids, delays, or disappears

Not as problems to fix but as patterns that once kept you safe. Things shift when that lands.

The moment blame softens.
The moment people realise:
“My body isn’t working against me.”

From there, we came back to what actually creates change:
Not pressure.
Not force.
Not “trying harder.”
But safety.

Safety in the body.
Safety in the moment.
Safety to feel, to pause, to choose something different.

Because real change doesn’t happen when you push.
It happens when your system finally feels steady enough to let go.

Thank you to everyone who came, shared, reflected, and showed up as you are.

This work is quiet.
But it changes everything.

If you’re ready to go deeper — to move beyond awareness and into real, supported change — our 1:1 work is open.

No rush.
But the door is there.

Rose and Emma 🙏

17/04/2026

Food. Gut health. Nutrition.

But not in the way you might expect.
Not another list of what to cut out.
Not another set of rules to follow.

Instead, we’ll be exploring the deeper picture:
✨ The difference between dieting and true nourishment
✨ How gut health and digestion are influenced by stress and the nervous system
✨ Why emotional eating patterns (restriction, binge cycles) are so common
✨ The role of perfectionism and “all or nothing” thinking
✨ How food, inflammation, and stress are all connected

Because it’s not just about what you eat…
it’s about how your body is able to receive it.

This is a space for honest conversation, shared experience, and understanding your body in a way that goes beyond quick fixes.

If this is something you’ve been struggling with, you’re not alone — and you’re very welcome to join us.

📍 Knightswood Community Centre
🕖 7–9pm

Come as you are

Email me emma@emmatoms.com with any questions

16/04/2026

There’s a frustration I hear again and again.

“I’ve been told my bloods are fine… but I don’t feel fine.”
“I don’t recognise myself anymore.”
“I feel anxious, low, wired… and I don’t know why.”

This research simply confirms what many have been living for years.

Autoimmune conditions don’t just sit in the body.
They shape the nervous system.
They influence inflammation, hormones, energy, and emotional regulation.

And yet— care is still often split into parts.
You’re sent here for your thyroid.
There for your mood.
Somewhere else for your stress.
But the body doesn’t compartmentalise like that.

In my work, I don’t start with “what’s wrong with you?”
I start with what state your system is in.
Because healing doesn’t come from forcing change.
It comes from creating the conditions where change is possible.

That’s slower.
More honest.
And far more effective.
If this resonates, you’ll know.

16/04/2026

I post quite a bit about this it's nice to see this in the BMJ

Risks higher in women than in men with the same condition Chronic exposure to systemic inflammation may explain associations, say researchers Living with an autoimmune disease is linked to a near doubling in the risk of persistent mental health issues, such as depression, generalised anxiety, and bi...

16/04/2026

You don’t just end up in the same place by accident.
I used to think I did.

Different situations. Different people. Different circumstances.
But the feeling underneath it all was always the same.

Pressure.
Tension.
That sense of having to hold everything together.

It took me a while to see it clearly.
It wasn’t just what was happening around me.
It was how I was responding to it.

There’s a pattern most people don’t realise they’re in:
You feel something →
Your system recognises it →
You interpret it through what you believe about yourself →
You respond in a familiar way →
And that response reinforces the belief.

So it loops.
Not because you’re choosing it.
Because it’s familiar.
And what’s familiar feels safe to your nervous system—even when it’s exhausting.

This is why insight alone doesn’t always change things.
You can understand your patterns.
You can explain them.
But if they’re still being held in your body…
you’ll keep finding yourself back in the same place.

This is the work I do now.
Not just looking at behaviour, but working with what’s underneath it.

The emotional imprints.
The identity patterns.
Because when those begin to shift…
The loop loosens.

You don’t force a new response.
You just don’t react in the same way anymore.

If you want a place to start, ask yourself:
What do I keep experiencing, even when the situation changes?
What do I believe about myself in those moments?
And how do I respond?

You might begin to see the pattern.

I’ve written more about this on my website and Substack.
Longer reflections, not quick fixes.
Because this work doesn’t sit on the surface.

Link in bio

15/04/2026

Everyone is looking for the breakthrough.
The big moment.
The one session.
The thing that finally fixes everything.

But healing… doesn’t work like that.
It’s quieter than that.
It’s built in the small moments most people overlook.

Resting when your instinct is to push.
Pausing when your mind wants to spiral.
Feeling what’s there instead of escaping it.

Again.
And again.
And again.

I didn't find one magical tool.
I learnt to recognise when I was in survival.and gently bring myself back.
Over and over.
I still do.

That might look like:
– placing a hand on your body and actually feeling it
– slowing your breath when everything in you wants to rush
– stepping away instead of forcing yourself through
– allowing rest without guilt

Not as a one-off.
As a practice.
Because the nervous system learns through repetition, not intention.

Most people are stuck not because they don’t know what to do but because they only do it when things get really bad.

Healing asks for something different.

Consistency over intensity.
Awareness over force.
Safety over performance.

And this is exactly where deeper work matters.
Because if your system doesn’t feel safe, you won’t repeat what helps.
You’ll default to what’s familiar.

That’s where IEMT, SSP, and somatic work come in.
Not as another thing to “try” but as a way to change what your system believes is safe in the first place.

Drop me a DM or email emma@emmatoms.com for more details

14/04/2026

Last month at our thyroid support group, the conversation kept circling back to food.

Gut health.
What to eat.
What to cut out.
What might finally “fix” things.

And I could feel the weight of it.
Because everywhere right now, the message is the same:
Fix your diet.
Heal your gut.
Balance your hormones.
Sort your cortisol.

As if the body is simple.
As if it just needs the right plan.

But here’s what I see every day:
People are trying.
They are following the advice.
And still… they don’t feel well.

So what happens?
They don’t question the advice.
They question themselves.
They restrict more.
Push harder.
Try to be better.
And the body becomes more stressed… not less.

Because digestion isn’t just about food.
It’s about the state of the body receiving it.

When your nervous system is overwhelmed:
– digestion slows
– absorption changes
– the gut becomes more reactive
– cravings increase
– fullness cues get overridden

And then come the patterns:
“I’m good all week…”
“I lose control at night…”
“I’ll start again Monday…”

This cycle isn’t random.
It’s learned.
Often from early experiences with food, stress, and control.

And it’s reinforced by something I see so often in autoimmune conditions:
perfectionism.

So instead of asking:
“What’s the perfect diet?”

Try asking:
What state am I in when I eat?
What does my body actually need right now?
Am I nourishing… or controlling?

This is the shift.
From diet → to nourishment.
From control → to connection.
And it changes everything.

If this resonates, you’re not alone.

Our next Thyroid UK support group is on Wednesday 22nd April, 7–9pm in Glasgow (Knightswood Community Centre).
A space for real conversations. No quick fixes. Just honesty and support.

Thanks to for the space

14/04/2026

You don’t just “get ill.”
You get caught.
Caught in a cycle that is quiet at first… and then relentless.

Stress rises → the body tightens → symptoms appear → fear follows → the system braces harder → inflammation rises → symptoms worsen → and round you go again.

Your body has learnt to survive… not to feel safe.
I know this cycle intimately.
I lived in a body that was constantly on edge.
Hyper-aware. Overriding. Pushing through.
Trying to fix myself with the right diet, the right routine, the right discipline.
And still… the symptoms stayed.

Because no one tells you this clearly enough:
👉 You cannot outwork a dysregulated nervous system.
👉 You cannot out-think a survival response.
👉 You cannot heal while your body still believes it’s under threat.

The exit is not more doing.
It’s learning how to come back into the body safely.
Slowly. Repeatedly. Honestly.

That’s the work.
Not glamorous.
Not quick.
But real.

And when the system begins to feel safe again… everything else starts to shift.
This is the foundation of what I do with my clients.

Not surface change.
Not temporary fixes.
We break the loop at the level it was created.

Email me at emma@emmatoms.com or DM me to find out more about what I do and how I can support you

13/04/2026

This weekend, Eilidh and Susan completed their journey with me — stepping into Reiki Master Practitioner and Master Teacher.

And I couldn’t be prouder.
They have shown up to this work with honesty, care, and a willingness to go inward — not just to learn, but to embody.
They will make excellent Reiki Master Teachers.

This is what has always mattered to me.
Not just learning the practice…
But becoming steady within it.

My own journey with Reiki has been long. And like most meaningful paths, it hasn’t been linear.
It has twisted.
Turned.
Changed shape with life and experience.
And it still continues.

Because this work — when it’s real — doesn’t end at a certificate. It deepens as we do.

To every student who has trained with me over the years — thank you.

You’ve been part of something that was never about perfection, but about presence. About learning to meet yourself, and others, with honesty and care.

If you are one of my past students and feel called to continue your journey — I’m always happy to guide you, support you, or connect you with a teacher who feels aligned for where you are now.

This isn’t a door closing.
It’s a transition.

One that feels full of gratitude for what has been… and steady in where I’m going next.