19/08/2025
I will be taking a much needed break from carrying out anymore readings. After a few difficult readings with sitter's, I thought I would leave a wee note about 'expectations' when booking in for a mediumship reading (please note, this is not about any particular person but rather an observation on my part in recent months).
Its important to be realistic when booking in for a reading with me as a medium. I have recently experienced a few readings where the sitter has inadvertantly placed 'expectations' on me to perform in a specific way because they were seeking specific information to help resolve their personal issues, wanting to hear from a specific spirit person or tell them about future related issues. I feel its important to talk about placing 'expectations' on the Medium when booking in for a reading.
Having expectations can profoundly impact the mediumship reading, often in ways that are counterproductive to the experience. It affects you, the sitter (the person receiving the reading), me as the medium, and the flow of information from the spirit world.
A sitter's expectations often create a rigid frame of mind were information from the spirit realm must fit, otherwise it's dismissed. Many people go into a reading with a mental checklist of things they must hear to believe the connection is real. For example, you the sitter may think "My father must mention his nickname for me. If he doesn't, it's not him". It may be that you only want to speak to a specific person in spirit. As the medium I say, "I have a grandfather figure here, he's showing me a pocket watch." You the sitter, wanting only your mother, replies, "No, I'm here to talk to my mum'.
Often, another spirit will come through first to "open the door" or because they have a stronger connection. By dismissing them, you create a block that can make it harder for any other spirit, including the one you want, to connect.
A spirit person will bring forward what you NEED to hear and not what you WANT to hear. When you are fixated on a certain outcome, a connection to a specific spirit person or an answer to your earthly problems, it can inadvertently place a pressure on me to 'perform'. I am not immune to your energy and expectations and this can halt the flow of communication.
As a medium I can feel your expectations. This creates a pressure on me to "get it right". When this happens, it pulls my mind away from the energetic link with the spirit realm or the spirit person I am trying to communicate with, inevitably losing the spirit link. I will try to move my mind back into the energetic link to reconnect with the spirit person. If I feel I am struggling against your expectations, impacting the reading, I will call the reading to a halt and end the reading.
Its important to understand that I am just a regular person behind the mediumship. I do not have the answers to your problems, I am not a fortune teller, nor can I tell you what to do with your life. All I seek to do as a medium is create a bridge between you and your loved ones in spirit to bring forth evidence of who I am connecting with so that you may recieve a loving message of support and guidance.
I hope this helps to clarify how to get the best out of you mediumship reading with me. ❤️❤️❤️