23/04/2026
So many of our families see this after school. You are not alone. Plan for it and put a routine in place to support your child to decompress. This could be messy play, visiting the park, allowing a shut off with a tablet or TV show or quiet time alone in their room. Its totally individual to your child. What do they need in that moment? Then speak to the school, how can they release their feelings safely throughout the day?
After school restraint collapse isn’t misbehaviour — it’s what happens when a child has held it together all day and finally feels safe enough to let go.
What you see at home is often the release of everything they’ve been managing quietly at school.
When we understand the “why,” we can respond with connection instead of correction — and that’s where real support begins.
If this resonates, my After School Restraint Collapse Toolkit is linked in comments below ⬇️ or via Linktree Shop in Bio.