Nicky Anstey, Hypnotherapist & NLP Coach, Mind Body Wellness

27/07/2025

Human beings are so good at making excuses not to do things... It's in our makeup 🙅‍♂️🙅‍♀️

In fact, humans find the familiarity of wallowing in problems oddly comforting.

It gives them an excuse to get out of doing things, gains attention from others, allows them to prove they have a bigger problem than others and many more secondary gains that their unconscious mind relies on in the short term. 🙇‍♂️🙇‍♀️

But note, your unconscious mind is like a 2-3 year old. So, would you trust a toddler to make the right choices for you? 🧒🚫

In order to feel different, you have to do something different from what you have been doing that's kept you stuck.

Is it time to take control of your inner toddler? ‍👶

Hence, if you've been hoping you will feel better on your own, with no change of focus, effort, guidance, or time dealing with it, then you will sadly remain feeling that way and achieving (not achieving) the same. 😔

So, although change may seem overwhelming, impossible, and scary, you need to ask yourself...
"Will I regret not making the change happen long term?" 😣

If this triggers you, I urge you to make it happen, as regret of the past and the feeling of loss of fulfillment will eat at you. 🔥

Whereas change can lead to true happiness, health, and success long term, resulting in inner contentment and feeling of true self-fulfillment!

If you are ready to make a change and invest in yourself to be your best, then feel free to get in touch for a chat. 🤝

24/07/2025

Good communication isn’t just about speaking clearly, it’s about being understood.

For a long time, I thought communication was the key to strong teams and relationships.
But what truly unlocks connection and collaboration? Comprehension.

You can explain, teach, or lead all you want, but if the other person doesn’t understand you, the message gets lost.

That’s why I work with individuals, teams, and organizations to build self-awareness and mutual understanding because when we know how to read ourselves and others, we communicate with clarity, compassion, and purpose.

🧠 Comprehension fuels connection.
📈 Connection fuels performance.

20/07/2025

Sunday reminder:

You’re not just living life, you’re crafting it.

You’re the writer, the editor, the director, and the star.
What story are you choosing to tell yourself today?

This week, lead with intention.
Make room for what lights you up. Nurture the version of you that feels calm, confident, and strong.

You have the power to shape what’s next. Why not make it something amazing?

17/07/2025

One simple thing you can do today to create a huge positive shift in your life:

Stop instantly reacting to your feelings. Step back and see the bigger picture.

Feelings don’t prove there’s a problem, they’re rarely based on reality. They’re shaped by your perceptions, beliefs, and past experiences.

Instead, let your feelings be signals to examine:

what you’re thinking and perceiving

what you’re doing

what habits you’ve slipped into

what behaviours you’re repeating

how you’re judging others and yourself

how you want to move forward

and how you can change for a better outcome for everyone.

Your feelings aren’t the final story. They’re just information. Use them wisely.

10/07/2025

Remember emotions never prove there's an insurmountable problem, they are just a signal to change.

Never be ruled by your negative emotions, as they will take you down an unproductive, dark path to the pity pool of doom. 🌑😔

Remember you can be in control of your mind, thoughts, and feelings! 💪🧠

If you need some help with negative emotions, drop me a message.

06/07/2025

This is what I wish I understood decades ago. 🕰️

In the past especially, I had the need to please others and not let anyone down, by putting others above myself and doing, what I thought was the right thing, by saying "Yes" to everything. 😅

However, this strategy took its toll on my mind and body on several occasions, in the past, resulting in my body and mind forcing me to stop. 😓

I would develop physical problems, 🤕 that often resulted in surgery. Ironically, unknown to me, my unconscious mind🧠 saw this as a benefit, as gave me permission to stop and reenergise. 💡

Once I realised this, and rewired my mind , I now take relaxed breaks at spas or walks in nature 🌳 and have some fun away from it all to recharge and replete.

This is so much more beneficial for not only me, but also those around me. 👥

Please, don't make the same mistakes as me, and be a martyr as you only have one mind and body, 🧠🏃 so you need to look after yourself, if you expect it to do the same for you.

03/07/2025

🌞 Happy New Month & Welcome to Q3!

The second half of the year is here, and this is the perfect time to check in with yourself.

🧠 One thing I always tell my clients at the very beginning: You are responsible for your own growth.
It’s not a burden, it’s empowering.

💜 Imagine what could shift if you decided to do things differently from today...
What if being happy, healthy, and successful is just a few new choices away?

🫵 The power has always been yours. When you stop clinging to outdated beliefs and start reprogramming from within, you unlock your full potential.

🌱 So, what choices will you make this second half of the year to support your long-term wellbeing and success?

🙋‍♀️If you're ready to take control and rewrite your story, I'm here to help guide you.

17/06/2025

How do You Reignite Your Energy and Productivity? 2 Key factors!

I’ve just come back from a weekend in Wales feeling completely reenergised. sun, fun, family and friends (yes Wales can be sunny!😂)

I celebrated my fabulous, fun aunt turning 81 — a woman who lives like she’s decades younger and is off on yet another holiday today!

She’s my role model when it comes to mindset: focus on what you want, how you want to feel… and go get it.

I also reunited with my oldest school and nursery friends ❤️

— one of whom I hadn’t seen for years, yet we picked up as if no time had passed.

That kind of connection is priceless. No masks. No pretence. Just true, authentic relationships.

It reminded me how much joy, grounding, and strength comes from choosing your mental focus and surrounding yourself with people who energise you.

Whether in life or business, we thrive when:

🌿 Our mindset aligns with our intentions

💬 Our relationships are rooted in authenticity

🧠 Our energy is managed, not drained

The most successful, fulfilled people I work with aren’t just chasing revenue or recognition — they’re building a life that supports their health, happiness, and longevity. And it starts with mindset and connection.

So, I wonder if you can keep that in mind this week and perhaps consider:-

➡️ What are you choosing to focus on this week? Is it going to be kind, productive, appropriate and make you happy?

➡️ And who are you surrounding yourself with? Are they supportive with your positive plan?

Have a great Monday all

31/05/2025

He's still got it!😄

"Human beings are the most fascinating creatures on this planet. Don’t you agree?

I had the incredible opportunity to meet Ross Kemp recently, and let me tell you, the conversation was nothing short of inspiring.

Ross, as you probably know, has spent years diving into some of the most complex, challenging, and raw human experiences through his documentaries. From war zones to gang territories, he’s seen humanity at its most vulnerable and its most resilient.

What struck me most about Ross wasn’t just his stories (which are mind-blowing, by the way), but his deep curiosity and respect for people.

He reminded me of something I’ve always believed: every person has a story, and if you take the time to listen, you’ll uncover lessons, insights, and perspectives that can change the way you see the world.

We talked about how understanding people—truly understanding them—is the key to everything. Whether it’s building a business, leading a team, or simply connecting on a deeper level, it all comes down to empathy and curiosity.

One thing Ross said that really stuck with me was this: ‘The more you understand people, the better equipped you are to make a difference.’ And isn’t that what we’re all here to do?

So here’s my question for you: What’s the most valuable lesson you’ve learned from truly listening to someone’s story? Drop it in the comments—I’d love to hear your thoughts.

And if you’re curious about the lessons I’ve learned from my own journey of connecting with people, let’s chat. Because at the end of the day, it’s the human connection that drives everything we do, and helps us grow to be even better. Right?"

Final remark - Ross not only looks and acts hard facing fears, on screen, head on, he really does do it in real life.
I'd definitely "Get aurt of his pub!" if he told me to!!!!!!😜 But what a lovely guy!

07/05/2025

Did you know there are 2 types of communication...

Literal and inferential?

Literal listeners need clear, concise, to the point information.📌

Inferential listeners like detailed, longer explanations and reasoning.📝

When communicating in a different style to the way that they listen, it can cause all sorts of misunderstandings! 🤔

Note, if someone is a natural literal communicator and a bit harsh with their directness, never assume they like the same in return, as those who appear insensitive and unemotional with their communication can often be highly sensitive to hearing that style back at them, leading to the break down of relationships unnecessarily.

If unsure of their style, ask them how they like to be communicated to e.g. detailed or concisely.

Or, assume literal and be to the point whilst softening the edges of what you say and then ask if they'd like more detail, in order to cover both options.📝

Happy communicating and remember you only get a win if both parties get a win-win.👍👍

04/05/2025

Worried about what others think of you?

Here’s a powerful reminder: Perception is projection.

How people see you often says more about them than it does about you. Their beliefs, insecurities, and experiences shape how they interpret your actions.

If you've acted with good intentions and followed the KPA Checklist (Kind, Productive, Appropriate), then you've done your part. If others still see something negative, that’s their mirror to look into, not yours.

At the same time, if you’re triggered by someone else’s behaviour, try holding up that same mirror. Ask yourself: “What is this teaching me about me?”

We’re human, we get it wrong sometimes. But if your heart was in the right place, give yourself grace.

Learn if needed, grow if possible, but always be kind to yourself and keep becoming the best version of you.

What are you proud of in yourself today?