Best of You Consultancy

13/04/2026

https://theabp.org.uk/projected-helplessness-a-practitioner-framework-for-understanding-and-responding/

The Home & Voice of Business Psychology

04/04/2026

https://amzn.eu/d/0170rsN3

Parenting the Girl with ADHD Practical strategies, understanding, and hope for raising happy, confident girls with ADHD Girls with ADHD are often misunderstood. Their symptoms may be less obvious, masked by coping strategies, or mistaken for shyness, anxiety, or daydreaming. As a result, many gi...

04/04/2026

CPD Accredited Practitioner Training

The Soma Thera Release System®

The Soma Thera Release System® is a structured, trauma-informed approach designed to support nervous system regulation through somatic practice.

Developed through six years plus of applied therapeutic practice, the Soma Thera Release System® has been used in client work and has now been formalised into a practitioner training programme.

This one-day intensive practitioner training provides a comprehensive grounding in the Soma Thera Release System®, equipping practitioners with the knowledge, structure, and competence required to apply the model in practice.

This is a specialist practitioner training designed to build depth, confidence, and competence in somatic, trauma-informed work.

The training focuses on how the autonomic nervous system responds under stress, including the role of the vagus nerve in regulation and dysregulation. It explores how patterns of suppression and overload develop, and how somatic processes can support regulation, processing, and integration.

This is a practitioner-level training designed for individuals who already hold a therapeutic, psychological, or related professional framework, and who are seeking to integrate a somatic, trauma-informed approach into their existing work.

Participants will develop:

• a clear understanding of autonomic nervous system regulation and dysregulation
• insight into the role of the vagus nerve in states of safety and threat
• the ability to identify patterns of dysregulation and suppression
• applied knowledge of somatic processing and integration
• confidence in delivering the Soma Thera Release System® within scope of practice
• practitioner competence through guided, experiential learning

The training is both experiential and applied, ensuring practitioners can translate the model into real-world settings in a way that is safe, attuned, and ethically grounded.

On completion, participants will receive CPD-accredited certification and will be able to practise as Soma Thera Release System® practitioners within the scope of their professional role.

The founding cohort will take place in May, with limited places available.

Course fee: £995

01/04/2026

https://bestofyouconsultancy.co.uk/blog/f/neurotangent-when-action-moves-in-parallel

You start one thing.

01/04/2026

https://bestofyouconsultancy.co.uk/blog/f/off-on-a-neurotangent

You know that moment when you start talking about one thing…

31/03/2026

There’s a particular kind of frustration that doesn’t come from what was said, but from what it turned into.

26/03/2026

Why this works (the science bit)

1. Your brain has a built-in negative bias
The brain, particularly the amygdala, is tuned to detect threat more than safety. It’s a survival mechanism - it prioritises what might go wrong.

That means good moments are often:
• noticed less
• stored less strongly
• forgotten more quickly

Writing them down interrupts that bias.

2. You’re strengthening memory encoding
When you write something down, you engage the hippocampus, the system responsible for consolidating experiences into memory.

Even more importantly:
• attention + emotion + repetition = stronger encoding

So when you:
• notice a good moment
•.write it
• revisit it

you’re essentially telling your brain: this matters, keep this.

3. You’re training your attentional system
Your reticular activating system (RAS) filters what you notice.

When you start recording positives, the RAS adapts:
• it begins scanning for more “good data”
• you become quicker at spotting safety, success, connection

In simple terms:
what you track, your brain learns to find

4. You’re regulating your nervous system
Revisiting positive experiences activates parasympathetic pathways - the “rest and restore” system.

This supports:
• reduced cortisol
• increased sense of safety
• better emotional regulation

Over time, this helps shift baseline state from threat monitoring → resource awareness.

5. You’re building evidence against distorted thinking
In stress, the brain can default to:
• ‘nothing is working’
• ‘I’m not doing well’

Your nutrients book becomes objective counter-evidence.

Not forced positivity-
stored reality.

25/03/2026

When you speak too fast but your emotions don’t agree when they catch up!

When your words arrive before your feelings

22/03/2026

Have you ever noticed how a dog will shake off whatever it experiences… in real time?

A sudden noise.
A moment of stress.
A near miss.

Or even something simple, like when a dog sniffs where another dog has been.

They’re taking in information.
Reviewing it.
Working out what it means, processing the data. And then…

they shake.

They process it somaticaly through the body, and they move on.

No rumination.
No holding onto it.

Just a physical reset.

Children do something similar.

After crying, you’ll often hear it:

A series of sharp, catching inhales…
followed by a long, releasing breath out.

That’s not random.

It’s the body regulating itself.

A natural reset of the autonomic nervous system.

As we grow older, we often lose access to these instinctive resets, and we tend to cry less.

So we sometimes hold tension instead of discharging it.

We override the body rather than listening to it.

Then the system stays activated for longer than it needs to. This builds and can become stress, anger, tension, even health issues can develop.

One of the most effective ways I support clients to reset after a Soma Thera release system TM session, is a:

stacked physiological sigh

It builds on what the body already knows how to do.

What it looks like:

A series of short, sharp inhales through the nose
(2, 3, sometimes 4)

followed by a long, slow exhale through the mouth

Why it works:

Those short inhales help to:
• reopen the lungs
• increase oxygen exchange
• interrupt the stress pattern

The long exhale:
• activates the parasympathetic nervous system
• stimulates the vagus nerve
• signals safety to the body

Together, it creates a rapid shift from activation… to regulation.

It’s simple.
But it’s powerful.

Because it’s not something we’re teaching the body.

It’s something we’re reminding it of.

And importantly, it’s not about doing it perfectly.

In real life, regulation is rarely neat.

Sometimes it’s three breaths.
Sometimes it’s four.
Sometimes it sounds messy.

But if you’ve ever listened closely to a child settling after crying…

you’ll recognise it.

We don’t always need complex strategies to reset the nervous system.

Sometimes, the body already has the answer.

We just need to notice somatic release is needed,

and give the body permission to reset.

Then maybe eat a little grounding chocolate!

21/03/2026

Hormones aren’t just a “women’s issue.”

We’ve become much better at talking about cycles, fluctuations, and how they affect mood, focus, and regulation.

But men have a hormonal profile too.

It just looks different.

Instead of monthly shifts, there’s often a gradual change over time. From around the 30s, testosterone tends to decline slowly, often around 1% per year.

Not dramatic.
Not always noticeable at first.
But still influential.

Because the neuroendocrine system is always at play.

It’s shaping:
• energy
• motivation
• emotional regulation
• cognitive clarity

So when something feels “off,” it’s not always just stress, mindset, or behaviour.

Sometimes it’s physiology quietly shifting underneath.

Men need access to this understanding just as much as women, to make sense of it.

Because regulation isn’t just psychological.
It’s biological too.
What helps regulate the system?

Hormones don’t operate in isolation. They respond to the environment we create for them.

That means small, consistent shifts can make a meaningful difference to how the neuroendocrine system functions.

For both men and women:

• Sleep first, not last
Hormonal regulation is heavily sleep-dependent. Poor sleep disrupts testosterone, cortisol, insulin, and mood-related neurotransmitters.

• Stability before intensity
Regular routines, eating, sleeping, waking- support a more predictable internal environment.

• Stress matters more than we think
Chronic cortisol can suppress testosterone, disrupt cycles, and impact dopamine regulation.

• Move your body in a way that supports you
Strength training, walking, and gentle movement all support hormonal balance in different ways.

For men (gradual shifts)

• Resistance training supports testosterone
• Adequate protein and nutrition matter
• Sunlight and circadian rhythm regulation play a role
• Reducing chronic stress protects baseline levels

The key message: this isn’t fixed decline - it’s modifiable physiology

For women (cyclical shifts)

• Tracking patterns (not perfection) builds awareness
• Adjusting expectations across the cycle can reduce challenges.
• Supporting sleep and nutrition in the luteal phase is particularly helpful
• Reducing overload during lower-capacity phases protects regulation

The key message: this isn’t inconsistency - it’s a predictable rhythm

Not everything we experience is purely psychological.

Sometimes it’s the body asking to be understood.

And when we start to work with the system, rather than against it, regulation becomes a little more accessible, for everyone.

21/03/2026

If you struggle with hormones and have or suspect ADHD. Read this.

For many women with ADHD, it can feel like everything shifts.