Meltdown Mumma

16/02/2024

16/02/2024

How often do you find yourself at the bottom of the priority list?

Between work, finances, relationships, parenting, and all the day to day responsibilities, how often are you at the bottom?

Do you make time to prioritize your needs? Replenish your tank? Get a break and time to breathe?

If you like many others are saying “there’s no time”, I challenge you to get as simple and small as you can to bring micro care into your day.

Enjoy the extra sip of your favourite drink just a little longer; hold it in your mouth and savour the flavour for just a second.

Go into another room for 2 minutes and focus on your breath; slow it down to help regulate your nervous system.

Close your eyes and listen to the sound of the wind for 2 slow breaths.

Give yourself a pause to inhale deeply, and exhale fully by pushing the air out; replenish and reinvigorate the whole breath.

Set a timer and do 2 minutes of planks or squats, or anything! 2 minutes a day is 730 minutes a year, and anything more than zero is a win.

Celebrate 1 victory today or one thing you’re proud of.

Connect with your favourite person even if it’s just to tell them that they are.

Self-care and self-prioritization doesn’t have to be big. It can be, of course, but ultimately micro moments of prioritizing ourselves whenever we can fills our cup and puts us back on our priority list. It can even make it easier to put us at the top, because prioritizing myself for 2/5/10 minutes here and there is better than zero minutes. It’s better than building resentment; it’s better than burnout; it’s better than being snappy; it’s better than not getting our needs met but constantly trying to meet the needs of others.

Even when it feels impossible, find a way to prioritize yourself.

Self-care doesn’t have to be big or lengthily. It can be, but it can also be tiny. Whatever it is make it sustainable and replenishing.

16/02/2024

For all people pleasers, consider this a gentle reminder to set boundaries as needed, and protect your energy and your time. Making mistakes and finding your way is part of the path. It’s a process and that’s OK. True safety is not found in compromising your essence for others, but in trusting your sense of what is right for you.

Drop some ✨✨✨ if you resonate.

16/02/2024

Many people have not fully matured out of the adolescence and teenage developmental stages where the body and appearance are a core focus. So, we grow up hearing adults comment on each other’s bodies or compare on a regular basis which normalizes the behavior.

Ideally (if given the chance) we mature to understand appearance is a superficial part of life. That how we actually feel, interact with the world, and live in our values is what’s actually important.

If you’re working on your own emotional maturity, just notice the critical voice in your mind that wants to say something about another person’s appearance. Then don’t act on the impulse. As you practice this, the same critical voice you have towards yourself will also silence.

Remember, those who insult the appearance of others are also deeply critical of themselves. The way to heal the pattern is to practice out of it. Our value is not from what we look like, it’s from how we live.

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16/02/2024

EMOTIONAL MANAGEMENT

Many people with BPD experience intense emotions and have trouble regulating them. Emotional dysregulation is a core symptom of BPD, and it may explain other characteristics of the condition, like unstable relationships, risky or impulsive behavior, and stress-related changes in thinking. 🌀😩⛈️😖

Emotion regulation skills develop during childhood. As we grow, we learn strategies to help us understand what we're feeling and self-soothe when we're distressed. 😥

Several things can negatively impact this process, including:

🚫 Childhood stress or trauma
🚫 Punitive or controlling parents
🚫 Differences in brain structure
🚫 A lack of secure attachment to parents

While emotion regulation allows us to navigate setbacks, someone experiencing emotion dysregulation will have trouble understanding their feelings and responding to them in a healthy way. This is key in BPD, as people with the condition often experience significant distress in emotional situations. 🥺

Our capacity for emotion regulation plays a major role in the way we respond to events in our lives. For example, if someone with emotion regulation skills goes through a breakup, they will likely feel sad and even somewhat depressed, but they will still be able to control their emotions and carry on with their daily routines. 💗

However, if someone with BPD goes through the same situation, they may become depressed to the point of not functioning. They may cope by engaging in destructive or violent behaviors, or in impulsive activities like casual and at times reckless s*x. 💔

Here's a step to step guide on how to deal with those reactive emotions. It takes time to learn to take a step back when highly emotional, but with practice and patience you will learn better ways to respond when someone crosses a boundary and how you feel about it. 🖤🤍



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16/02/2024

Some of The signs of a trauma bond are 👇

❥ Constantly worrying about something that would upset them

❥ Going out of the way to protect them

❥ Ignoring abusive behaviours when they are pointed out by others

❥ Knowing they are deceptive and abusive but feeling unable to let go

❥ Continuous or regular thoughts about them through the day

❥ Hiding emotions from people (changed from your emotions)

❥ Feeling addicted to them

❥ Compromising to please others deleted yourself

❥ Feeling unworthy and less valuable

❥ Craving crumbs of love and attention

❥ Feeling stuck and unable to leave

❥ Developing OCD tendencies

❥ Difficulty sleeping

❥ A sense of mental confusion and doubt

❥ Easily startled and over-reacting to everyday situations

❥ Constantly check your phone in case they have contacted you

❥ Experiencing panic attacks, nightmares, frequently reliving past abuse, or fear leaving home.

Please Know you are not alone, there are so many Strategies & techniques available to help manage the symptoms of trauma bonds, there are also 100s of services available to help you. & your Dr can also support you or redirect you to services who can help you. Please Don’t suffer in silence. You want the change, you need the change but you must ask for it. Everyone is here to help you through 💚

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16/02/2024

Self-love tips….…

💚 Enjoy your alone time.

💚 Dream bigger

💚 Validate yourself

💚 Be kind

💚 Protect your peace

💚 See the best in yourself & others.

💚 Accept yourself.

💚 Develop a growth mindset

💚 Learn to self-regulate

💚 Embrace your quirks

💚 Focus on your joy

💚 Prioritise your dreams

………… Because simply you’re worth it!!!

09/02/2024

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