Charlotte Sarre Support for Girls & Women

09/06/2025

Every Spiral.In circle starts with a brief opening circle so we can hear every woman's name and get a flavour of who's in the room. I usually offer a question for this and am often inspired by the seasons or our centre piece. The morning of last month's circle, something caught my eye and I decided to try something different. I placed this little succulent in the centre of our circle and invited everyone to share what they saw, what words came to them 🪴 I hadn't thought this through properly and had no idea how and if it would land but I went with it anyway, trusting my gut.
The response was mindblowingly beautiful.

Every woman in that circle shared incredibly vulnerable and courageously and I was struck by the wisdom and depth we went to straight from the start. Our opening circle became a gorgeous foundation for the rest of the morning.

I shared my thoughts as well and explained that we have a whole bunch of succulents and cacti sitting on the windowsill in our bathroom. Another cactus was blooming too so at first glance, you would assume these plants were pretty happy 🌵🌼 However, we had really neglected them and although succulents and cacti are pretty sturdy, we hadn't watered them in so long I feared that some may not survive. And yet, all of a sudden this little succulent put out one shoot with beautiful delicate flowers at the top. To me, it seemed that it was so close to death, it put all its energy in attracting a pollinator so it could live on elsewhere.
And in the sadness of this act, came forth the sheer beauty of it. Because where was this dried up, almost soporous, little plant getting the energy to create this wondrous thing? It showed me the strength of the life force that all living things carry ✨️ Including us. It showed me hope and trust. It showed me that, just like this plant, we too can conjure up one last ounce of strength in moments where we think we have nothing left. We too can tap into this life force within, something that will always support us and push us forward. Through hardship, darkness and pain, towards our successes and our dreams.

Who knew that a little succulent could offer such reassurance? 🌱

26/05/2025

Today I turn 40 and that feels big, in a good way ✨️⁠
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I sense I might be approaching the threshold from Mother to Maga. Not yet, but I don't think it's far off.⁠ In many ways, I can't wait, because I imagine this next season in life full of expansion, like a peony in full bloom. I imagine that all the riches I've accumulated over the years will be gathered in a tight bundle that I'll carry with me wherever I go. When I need it, I'll open my bundle, reach in and pull out quiet confidence, wisdom, simplicity, compassion, joy, pleasure, community and belonging. I know more treasure will be waiting for me along the road, the bundle forever growing.⁠
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About five years ago, when motherhood cracked me open and sent me down a rapid of self-exploration, I started adding a lot of stuff to the bundle. One component was that I started to recognise and obey the voice of my intuition. Recently, I was thinking about a good way to describe this and I came to "Listen within and not..." I got stuck here. And not "to others"? And not "to the outside world"? It didn't really sound right. What is the opposite of "within" I thought? ⁠
Without. The dictionary describes this word as "in the absence of" so it might remind us of solitude, we might be without others. However, the archaic interpretation of "without" is "outside". With out. With the outside world. With things outside of ourselves. With others' opinions, judgements, expectations.⁠
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So listen within and not without. ⁠
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When the noise around you is deafening, listen out for the quiet voice within, the one that knows. When the world bombards you with "shoulds", listen out for your soul whispering "I could". You are a deep well of wisdom, don't let anyone poison the water. Listen within and not without 💛

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12/05/2025

We belong outside 🌱

It's the place where we often feel most alive, most ourselves and most at ease. It's the place where we can breath and rest our heads, where we can release, be held and soothed.
When we step into nature, we return to the Great Mother, the place we came from and where we often feel most connected, to ourselves, others, our plant and animal kin and to life itself.
Children are intuitively drawn to the outdoors and if you are lucky enough to have bubbas in your life, you'll know that going outside in a moment of overwhelm or upset is like pressing the reset button.

I read something the other day about 'soul places'. Places where you feel closest to your true self, where your soul sings. Places that nourish and replenish you and where you feel the land supporting you, places where you feel you belong 🌄
Over the years, I have found a couple of these places and the one pictured here, close to the Ashdown forest in Suss*x, is one I cherish deeply. Although this is not the land I came from, it feels like a long time ago I did, and it certainly is the land where I became. 🌳
It's hard to describe this place but the Bluey song 'I know a place' always takes me straight back there. Give it a listen and let me know below, do you have a soul place? ✨️

02/05/2025

Sometimes things happen that cause a crack in your life ⚡️ It could be a gradual and slow process, like yarn tearing under the strain of being overstretched, or it could be sudden and volatile, like a stress crack in ceramics.
The latter happened to me a couple of months ago and the world seemed to stand still and move faster all at once. Life felt different, heavy and impossible, but on the day everything changed, I also got a glimpse of life's great cogs ⚙️ I got to see, even for a couple of moments, the nuts and bolts of how this precious life works and unfolds, always turning, flowing, moving. And all of a sudden, I fully understood the meaning of that saying 'the cracks are needed to let the light in'. Not only on a personal level, but on a way bigger level. Grief and pain really are the sisters of joy and peace. One is needed to be able to feel the other 🪢
When the crack appeared in my life, I looked up and was almost blinded by life's light, it shone directly on me and warmed my heart, allowing me to feel everything all at once and be at peace in the midst of it ✨️ Source, God, Spirit, whatever you want to call it, spoke directly to me, lovingly holding me through the process of tending to the broken pieces that lay scattered on the floor of my existence.
That day, I wrote the following words. I hope they can be a balm to others who are also learning to love the cracks in their world. You are loved, always 💛

"And so it must be, that a life is like a bubble. A pocket of air encapsulated by rainbows, glistening in the sun, floating up and away. Until a simple thorn, a whisker, the tip of a finger or the mere willing of an end, makes it pop. The pocket of air rejoins the everything, droplets of life and longing linger on our faces, leave impressions on our hearts and become part of our very breath. The only solace then, the knowing that all this, the bubble, that one life, lives on in the beauty all around us. We simply have to look."

12/03/2025

I've been quiet on here, not feeling pulled to post much and allowing my creativity to nurture other things. I know that, in this online world, that's not doing me any favours, leaving this account seemingly non-existent. Isn't it funny how the theme of our modern society runs through everything: if you don't join the hustle, don't keep up with the fast pace, if you're not loud and visible, then you are forgotten, deemed unimportant. Without the roaring and crashing waves, it's easy to forget the depths and beautiful complexity of a still ocean 🌅

I also know that for you who follow me on here, it doesn't matter how many reels I post a month or how many likes my posts get. You all know Spiral.In is here for you, to welcome you home, always. And it works the other way around too, I know this community is always here, to come back to, to get inspired by and to be witnessed by.

And so here I am, being witnessed whilst living life intensely. The arch of its pendulum wide, swinging from deep grief, utter exhaustion and frustration to blissful presence, sweet joy and heartfelt gratitude. Like the pendulum of a big clock, time marked by feelings and moments of rupture and connection. Incredibly, I've felt my body stretch and swell to accommodate this wide spectrum of experiences, allowing my capacity to expand beyond what seems physically possible into something bigger and bolder. We are so much more than meets the eye ✨️

How are you I wonder? Living life under a sky full of big astrological energies and shifts, on this earth that's carrying a heavy weight. Where is your place, your home? I'd love to hear your story. So come sit with me and tell me about you 💛

25/02/2025

🌻 I’m excited to share I have a couple of places left on my spring 2025-2026 Girls Journeying Together programme 🌻
Sessions run on Sunday morning (10am till 1pm) in Peckham, starting on March 23rd. PM for details. Fully funded places are available.
Rites for Girls is about building up trust and friendship with each other, helping girls to show up as themselves however that feels. Having the space to ‘just be’ with permission to grow up into the woman they want to be in the time that’s needed and right for them.
Girls Journeying Together is for girls aged 10-12 years old (school year 6 & 7) and offers support through the transitions of primary to secondary school ànd puberty.
Do get in touch if you’re lucky enough to have a pr***en girl in your life 💛

17/02/2025

Being present in the moment can be as simple as this 💫

Allowing yourself to be swept off your feet by something as simple as raindrops on a fallen leaf in a children's sandpit. Raindrops like blinding jewels, reflecting the morning sun, a whole universe in the beauty of such a simple thing.

Whatever it is that pulls you in, soak it up, marvel at it and let wonder, appreciation, love and gratitude for this sweet life seep in. Store it somewhere inside you for those times you feel life isn't kind and you can see only darkness around you. Store it so that in those moments, you can pull it forth from deep within your heart and let it pull you forwards, a guiding star to follow, back into the light.

Being present can be as simple as that.

10/02/2025

🌻Worried about your daughter starting secondary school?🌻

In less than a month you’ll know what secondary school your daughter will be going to and for many, this comes with some feelings of apprehension and worry. It’s a big deal and girls can use all the support they can get to help them make this important transition.

Girls Journeying Together groups support year 6 and year 7 girls in establishing healthy friendships, helping them to know when and how to stand up for themselves and when to step back. This is a time when friendship groups can shift and a Girls Journeying Together group gives your daughter the experience of making friends based on accepting each other, being liked for our uniqueness and difference (so they don’t have to change anything to fit in), and the girls often make long-lasting friendships that support them right through their teen years. Together we explore the physical changes that puberty brings, how to deal with spots, greasy hair and periods. We experiment with tools for managing the increased intensity of emotion in adolescence, as well as sharing our hopes and fears and values.

Girls Journeying Together group supports your daughter’s social and emotional blossoming at a pivotal time in her life.

I have a couple of spaces left on my Sunday morning group in Peckham and fully funded places are available. We start the 2nd of March so do get in touch if you would like to gift this support to your daughter…and yourself!
Take a look at our website www.ritesforgirls.com for more info or DM me for all the info 🌻

03/02/2025

"Within your heart, keep one still, secret spot where dreams may go."

Words by Louise Driscoll I love so much because I can almost see it, that spot. It's a place deep within your heart where there's always light, even when the rest of you feels shrouded in darkness. A tiny flame or a roaring fire, something you can trust will never go out. I suppose it's not just fire, it's also a place of water, the well of our creativity. From this place, new paths are forged as we water those dreams and take tentative steps towards them. And then it must be air too, a whisper of our connection to Spirit and all the unseen, the very place where dreams are born. And because dreams can only sprout and take root from a grounded place, this place holds rich soil as well, fertile earth we can call home.

A pretty magical place, where everything comes together and where not only your dreams can go but you too. To rest, to recharge and to explore who you really are underneath all the layers and stories.

So if you can, visit that place. Regularly. Tend to it. Get familiar with it. Let the dreams be wild and free and keep them alive. In whatever way works for you. Dancing, writing, sitting in stillness, singing, cooking, gathering... Dare to be alone with yourself, your tender heart and that place of light and possibility. It's where you'll find you.

29/01/2025

Yes you read that right, Steve Biddulph has written about our Rites for Girls Girls Journeying Together groups ✨

My new groups are starting next weekend (eep!) so get in touch now (like right now😁) if you’re interested in a spot for your daughter!

DM me with your questions or visit our website www.ritesforgirls.com 🌻

"If you are the parent of a girl, it is likely that even from the first moment you learned what s*x she was, you felt a clutch in your heart about the world she was being born into. And worried about how to equip her – especially as she grows into adolescence, the age when for millions of girls today, it all seems to unravel."

Steve Biddulph's Raising Girls tells us about the concept of in our Early Spring issue (starting to arrive later this week!) 🧡

Subscribe today from just £16 and receive the new issue, along with your choice of free gift!* bit.ly/subscribetoJUNO

Rites for Girls

26/01/2025

Here I am again lol 🙈😉 Just wanted to invite you to our training taster day, the perfect opportunity to figure out whether our facilitator training is for you or joy! 🌻

20/01/2025

The first circle of January has been had and when I tell you it was a good one... ✨️⁠
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I dream up a different meditation for each circle and in the days leading up to this particular circle, from somewhere within me, the image of a black panther came to me 🐆 (yes, I'm aware the emoji ànd the image are in fact not of a panther but you get the vibe 😉). The panther was moving through the shadows of the rain forest, comfortably and confidently. I was hesitant about weaving the image into the meditation, getting too much in my head: is it a bit lame, a bit obvious, too much... I was unsure about the panther but following my gut, I included it anyway.

The panther turned out to be the one thing every single woman in the room connected with. Because it became a visual representation of the strength and knowledge we all carry underneath the layers. The layers of our stories, our past, our circumstances and the labels that society has given us, which brand us weak, abnormal or inconvenient. The panther became a representation of our authentic self ✨️ And although there was a lot of vulnerable and raw sharing, the energy in the room lifted as we all felt our inner panther appear. A shared embodied experience and felt sense of finding strength in our vulnerability.

If you've been to my circles, you'll know I love a good metaphor and the panther became a great one for our intuition, our inner knowing, our fierceness. Something to trust and follow. However, we also acknowledged the reality of living in our modern society, which rarely allows or supports authentic connection, and the difficulty of figuring out how to follow our gut whilst living within the tight structure of the overculture ⛓️
Sometimes we'll be unable to feed our inner panther enough and her coat might grow dull and her movements slower. But we can always return to her, an endless well of confidence and power, and the more we let her lead, the more we choose to feed her instead of the distracting voices around us, the more her strength will return and the more she will take us to where we really want to be.

Are you ready to unleash your inner panther? 🐆 Circle is a wonderful space to practice letting her out. Who knows where she might take you...

(Image by Geranimo on Unsplash)