Dr Darshan Kaur- Clinical Psychologist

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I am a HCPC registered Clinical Psychologist working in West London and Berkshire, providing psychological therapies to enhance emotional/psychological well- being.

We’re often told:“Make the voice in your head strong, powerful, kind.”But here’s a quieter truth:Most of the voices we h...
17/12/2025

We’re often told:
“Make the voice in your head strong, powerful, kind.”

But here’s a quieter truth:

Most of the voices we hear inside us…
aren’t actually us.

Fear.
Guilt.
Pressure.
Self-criticism.
Comparison.

They speak loudly because they come from survival, conditioning, and old wounds.

In Sikhi, these are described as the Panj Chor -
the inner thieves that hijack the mind and masquerade as our own voice.

The voice we hear the least
is the one that is actually ours.

✨ The voice of the Atma.
Steady. Loving. Clear. Fearless.

It doesn’t shout.
It doesn’t argue.
It doesn’t compete.

It speaks in stillness.

And this is why Simran is so powerful.

Simran isn’t about forcing positivity
or repeating words to change yourself.

It’s about bringing attention out of thought
and into sound, presence, and awareness.

When you listen to your Simran -
the sound of your voice, your breath, the vibration of the Gurmantar -

the noise settles.
The nervous system softens.
The Panj Chor loosen their grip.

And in that quiet space…
your true voice becomes audible again.

Not as words.
But as clarity.
As intuition.
As a deep sense of “I know.”

✨ The voice you’ve been searching for
has never been missing.
It was just waiting for silence. ✨

If this resonates, sit… listen…
and let Simran bring you home.

—

This passage is a little window into my new book on marriage, releasing February 2026.So many couples, myself included, ...
09/12/2025

This passage is a little window into my new book on marriage, releasing February 2026.

So many couples, myself included, have lived a life where they are trapped inside their vichar (thoughts, beliefs) — trying to win, trying to be right, trying to make the other think the same way.

But Gurbani invites us into an entirely different paradigm: one where we don’t have to merge with our thoughts, attach to our thoughts, where we can anchor in the Aatma, the still presence beneath the mind.

When we meet each other from that space, arguments soften, defensiveness dissolves, and compatibility becomes less about sameness and more about awareness.

If these words resonate, this book is being written for you — for anyone ready to bring Simran, consciousness, and true inner work into their marriage.

Thank you for walking this journey with me. More soon. 🤍✨

We often imagine the Panj Chor as the obvious things — anger, attachment, ego, greed, desire.But some of the most powerf...
29/11/2025

We often imagine the Panj Chor as the obvious things — anger, attachment, ego, greed, desire.

But some of the most powerful thieves
are the ones that enter dressed as devotion.

They whisper in holy language:
“Wake earlier.”
“Do more paath.”
“You’re not good enough.”
“You should be better by now.”
“Others are more spiritual than you.”

They feel spiritual.
But their vibration is fear, not love.

And because they come from old conditioning, trauma, or shame,
they feel so convincing —
as though they’re guiding us toward “being better.”

But Gurbani teaches something radically different:

**Every breath is a new opportunity**

Guilt, shame, perfectionism cause us to be trapped in the past or the idea of a future outcome. The punj know that whilst we are in past or future we cannot connect to Love, wisdom, Vaheguru.

But when , we hear that wisdom of Aatma come through, we choose to spend that precious breath, our spiritual wealth in service of connection and deepening love with the Divine.

We understand that Guru does not ask us for perfection.
Only presence.
Only sincerity.
Only one breath of turning.

When harsh inner voices arise —
self-criticism, religious pressure, guilt, comparison —
this is not your aatma speaking.
This is the panj chor wearing religious clothing.

Freedom begins the moment we recognise:

“This is not me and instead of obeying that voice,
we return to the vibration of Naam —
where the chest softens,
the heart reopens,
and love becomes the guiding force again.

Because in the end:

**Love is the only discipline

that our True mother and father asks of us.**
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I was asked a thoughtful question:“If we lean into Naam instead of analysing trauma, isn’t that spiritual bypassing?”It’...
19/11/2025

I was asked a thoughtful question:

“If we lean into Naam instead of analysing trauma, isn’t that spiritual bypassing?”

It’s an important question — and the answer is no.
Here’s why, with compassion and clarity:

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**1️⃣ Spiritual bypassing means avoiding your inner world.

But turning toward Naam actually brings you closer to it.**

Bypassing is when we jump over our pain, deny it, minimise it, or try to stay “positive.”

But anchoring in Naam does the opposite:

It gives us the stability to feel what we’ve never been able to feel safely before.

It brings us into the body, into truth, into awareness.

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**2️⃣ Analysis is often the real bypassing.

When we stay in the head — thinking, dissecting, explaining, replaying —
we avoid meeting the raw emotion stored in the body.**

Most “processing” is not actually processing.
It’s circling the pain instead of feeling the pain.

We think we’re doing deep work,
but we’re just activating the same cycles again and again.

Gurbani does not ask us to intellectualise suffering.
It asks us to meet it with awareness, not with analysis.

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3️⃣ Naam provides the anchor the nervous system never had.

Without an anchor, emotion feels overwhelming —
the body learned long ago that feeling = danger.

But when emotion is met from connection:

✨ with breath
✨ with Shabad
✨ with grounding
✨ with the presence of the Guru

it stops being threatening.

The body learns:
“Emotion is safe. I can stay here.”

This is not bypassing — it is repair.

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4️⃣ Deep Simran naturally dissolves subconscious patterns.

You don’t need to relive every story.

When attention settles in Naam,
layers of conditioning soften on their own.

This isn’t avoidance.
It’s integration happening through stillness.

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**5️⃣ Gurmat is not escapism.

It is the most intimate meeting with reality.**

The Guru does not pull us away from humanity —
the Guru holds us steady within it.

This path invites us to meet emotion fully,
but with the support, clarity, and love that the unanchored mind never had.

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**✨ This is not spiritual bypassing.

This is finally meeting yourself — with the Guru by your side.** ✨

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Most of our suffering comes from one thing:The mind only knows how to pay attention to matter.Thoughts, emotions, roles,...
14/11/2025

Most of our suffering comes from one thing:

The mind only knows how to pay attention to matter.
Thoughts, emotions, roles, problems, sensations, memories —
the dense world of 3D experience.

But Gurbani points us to a deeper truth:

Reality is not made of matter.
It is made of space.
And that “space” is not empty — it is Divine Presence.

Quantum physics now confirms what the Gurus taught:

99.9999999999999996% of an atom is space.
Matter is the illusion.
Presence is the truth.

And so we are slowly moving away from the old idea of
“God in the sky” — a distant being somewhere above us.

Gurbani gives us a far more intimate reality:

Waheguru is not far.
Waheguru is the subtle field we are already living in —
the space between thoughts,
the stillness inside breath,
the Sunn permeating every atom.

As Gurbani says:

“sab gobind hai sab gobind hai,
gobind binā nahi koee.”
All is Gobind, all is Gobind;
without the Divine, nothing exists.

This is why the mind struggles to experience the Divine when it is stuck in analysis, fear, and emotional noise.
The analytical mind can only perceive matter, not subtlety.

But when your attention shifts to space —
the space around you, within you,
the space between breaths —

the mind drops out of 3D density and awakens to its true home.

In that moment:

✨ the nervous system regulates
✨ fear dissolves
✨ divine guidance rises naturally
✨ Naam becomes audible to the inner ear
✨ the ego softens
✨ and you feel connected to your true home

This is Dhiyan.
This is Sunn.
This is the shift from matter to the subtle field of Naam.

And you don’t always need long meditations or silence to access it.
Even in the chaos of daily life, whenever you place your attention on space:

You take yourself into Vaheguru’s realm
You are resting in the Divine Presence that was always here.

This practice has been my lifeline as a busy mother of four.
A way to remain connected throughout the day —
not by force,
but through awareness.

✨ May we all learn to live from that space —
anchored, awake, and held in the subtle field of Naam. ✨

✨ When the Storm Hits — The Sikhi Way to Sit with Emotion ✨In Sikhi, emotion isn’t something to suppress or escape — it’...
12/11/2025

✨ When the Storm Hits — The Sikhi Way to Sit with Emotion ✨

In Sikhi, emotion isn’t something to suppress or escape — it’s a doorway to deeper awareness.
But how we meet that emotion makes all the difference.

When we meet emotion from disconnection, the mind gets swept into old patterns —
conditioning, fear, and stories from the subconscious that tell us what’s safe or dangerous.
This isn’t true wisdom — it’s memory replaying itself.

Yet when emotion is met while anchored in Naam,
the vibration of Naam gives us clarity — discerning wisdom —
so we can sense what that emotion really needs.
Does it need to be expressed? Released? Or simply witnessed in compassion?

And as our Simran practice deepens,
much of that stored subconscious patterning dissolves naturally.
The mind becomes clearer, lighter —
and emotion no longer threatens to pull us away from centre.

Through Naam, emotion transforms from chaos into guidance.
The storm becomes sacred.

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The next time emotion presents itself in your system, turn towards it gently with curiosity, with warmth, with awareness and see your relationship with emotion transform

✨ Shabad Guru — When the Sound Current Guides the Mind ✨On this sacred day of Guru Nanak Dev Ji’s Gurpurab, we remember ...
05/11/2025

✨ Shabad Guru — When the Sound Current Guides the Mind ✨

On this sacred day of Guru Nanak Dev Ji’s Gurpurab, we remember the gift that Guru Nanak Dev Ji gave us- of Shabad Guru — the inner sound current that awakens us to Oneness.

Guru Nanak Dev Ji revealed that the Divine is not distant, but resounding within all creation as Naam.
When we tune our Surti (awareness) to this vibration, all fear, hate, and illusion fall away.
This is the path of Prem Bhagti — the pure devotion that connects us back to Ik Oankar, the One Light within every being.

May we all be blessed with the strength to turn inward, listen deeply, and live from the harmony of Naam. 💫

Shadow Work — The Sikhi WayWe all carry shadows — the unhealed emotions, fears, and patterns that quietly shape our live...
29/10/2025

Shadow Work — The Sikhi Way

We all carry shadows — the unhealed emotions, fears, and patterns that quietly shape our lives.
Modern psychology calls it shadow work.

In Sikhi, it’s the same inner journey —
but instead of analysing the darkness, we bring it into the light of Naam.

When we sit in Simran, and our attention rests in the sound of Waheguru,
the noise of thoughts begins to fade.
What arises is not suppression — but transformation.

The five thieves — kaam, krodh, lobh, moh, ahankar —
start losing their power.
The mind begins to die into the internal shabad/Naam—
and what remains is light.

“One who dies into the sacred vibration of Naam lives in eternal bliss.”
— Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji, Ang 364

This is the true inner battle —
not fought through resistance,
but through surrender to the Divine Presence within.

Through Naam, the Guru fights for us.
This is the real shadow work — the Sikh way.

🌙 Next we’ll go deeper… into Sunn — the stillness beyond mind.
Where even the battle ceases,
and the mind rests in its original peace.

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24/10/2025

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✨ Bandi Chor Divas — Liberation from Within ✨Today, on Bandi chor Divas, we remember Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji,who walked ...
21/10/2025

✨ Bandi Chor Divas — Liberation from Within ✨

Today, on Bandi chor Divas, we remember Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji,
who walked free from Gwalior Fort — but refused to leave until 52 princes were freed with him.

This isn’t just a story of the past —
it’s a living reflection of what happens inside of us at any given moment.
Because the greatest prison is not built of walls —
it’s built of the subconscious mind.

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🌿 The Inner Prison

Our mind, too, is trapped —
not in a fortress of stone, but in a fortress of habits, beliefs, fears, and traumas

We are held captive by the Panj Chor —
lust, anger, greed, attachment, and ego —
and by the subconscious patterns they create within us.

We long to live illuminated by divine light and wisdom,
but our conditioning pulls us back into old ways of being.

“Dukh sukh darwāje dūe, tis vich āvai jāe.”
Pain and pleasure are two doors — through them, the mind keeps passing back and forth.
— Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji, Ang 1526

This is the real prison —
when the mind moves endlessly between seeking pleasure and experiencing pain,
forgetting the stillness and bliss of its true home.

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🔥 The Real Bandi chor

Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji is called Bandi chor— the Liberator.
And within us, that same Divine Power — Naam — is what frees the mind today.

When we meditate on Naam,
the vibration begins to touch the subconscious layers.
Every repetition of Waheguru loosens another chain —
fear, attachment, ego, old stories.

Through Simran, the Guru doesn’t just open an outer gate —
He opens the inner gates of consciousness.

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🕊 Real Freedom

True freedom isn’t doing whatever the mind wants —
it’s being free from the mind’s compulsions.

When the light of Naam and Aatma shines through,
the Panj Chor lose their power,
and the mind that was once imprisoned
becomes radiant, peaceful, and free.

✨ Bandishor isn’t just history —
it’s a living truth within you.
Every time your mind connects with Waheguru, is in alignment with Naam
you become your own Bandi chor. ✨

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✨ Reprogramming the Subconscious Mind — the Sikhi Way ✨We hear so much about “reprogramming the subconscious mind.” beca...
20/10/2025

✨ Reprogramming the Subconscious Mind — the Sikhi Way ✨

We hear so much about “reprogramming the subconscious mind.” because it is now well known that it is the subconscious mind that determines our perceptions, responses, traits, behaviours etc.

From affirmations to hypnosis and visualization — the world offers many ways to rewire our thoughts, beliefs, habits, conditioning.

But what does it mean to transform the subconscious through Sikhi?

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🌿 The Gurmat Lens

Gurbani calls the subconscious conditioning “maal” (spiritual dirt) created by the punj chor within us over many lifetimes.

These impressions cover the light of the Atma.
So reprogramming isn’t about adding new beliefs —
it’s about cleansing the mind so it can reflect divine light again.

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🔥 What Happens During Simran

When we do Naam Simran, the brainwaves slow down —
from busy beta into calm alpha and theta states.

This is the same state we lived in as children —
open, imaginative, deeply receptive —
the very state where the subconscious was formed.

Through Simran, we re-enter that space (‘sunn’)
And it’s infused with the vibration of Naam.
We’re not just reprogramming —
we’re bathing the mind in Naam.

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🌸 From Akhri Naam to Anhad Shabad

As we chant Akhri Naam — the spoken repetition of Waheguru — and listen to the sound of our voice (the ‘dhun’)
the scattered mind begins to unify.
When thought falls silent,
the Anhad Shabad, the unstruck sound, arises within.

This Sehaj Dhun — the inner vibration of Naam —
is what truly transforms the mind.
Here, reprogramming ends and awakening begins.

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💠 To reprogram your subconscious mind and experience true transformation—
you need to surrender it to the Sound of the Divine.
Let Naam do the healing. 💠

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✨ Healing the Inner Child — the Sikhi Way ✨I’m often asked whether we can heal or fix our inner child through Sikhi — th...
19/10/2025

✨ Healing the Inner Child — the Sikhi Way ✨

I’m often asked whether we can heal or fix our inner child through Sikhi — through Simran.
It can feel confusing — there’s so much information out there about healing from a mainstream psychological perspective, and it’s definitely valuable.
But many of us long to heal by connecting with Sikhi, and we wonder:

“How does it all fit together?”

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🌸 Healing the Inner Child through the Light of the Atma

Your inner child doesn’t need to be fixed —
it needs to be embraced by your own divine light.

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🧠 Psychology meets Gurmat

In modern psychology (like IFS), the inner child is the tender part of us that carries old pain, unmet needs, and emotional wounds.
From a Gurmat (Sikhi) lens, this “inner child” isn’t who we truly are —
it’s the layers of conditioning (Gurbani refers to as mail or dirt) that have gathered around the mind and place a veil between our mind and the light of the Atma, our divine essence.

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🔥 What Gurbani says

Gurbani teaches that our true self (Atma) is pure, radiant, and untouched by trauma — Jot Saroop.
It’s only the mind that forgets, buried under thoughts, habits, beliefs, and emotional scars.

Healing isn’t about fixing the brokenness —
it’s about removing the layers that hide the light.

“Man tu jot saroop hai, apna mool pachhan.”
O mind, you are the embodiment of divine light — recognize your essence.

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🌿 What real healing looks like

When we connect with the Atma — through Naam Simran—
that divine awareness itself becomes the healing force.

The light of the Self naturally soothes the wounded parts, softens the protectors, and restores harmony within.

In this space, the “inner child” is no longer broken —
it becomes embraced by the Divine Parent within.

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🕊 Practice

Every time you bring your attention to Naam, through the Gurmantar, you are letting the divine light touch those forgotten corners of your being.

That is the real inner child work — Naam as therapy.

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🌸 Summary

The mind-child within doesn’t need fixing —
it needs to re-establish the connection to the One who was never hurt.

✨ Sit. And bring your attention to the Gurmantar.
Let your light do the healing. ✨

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My story

My name is Darshan Kaur and I am a Clinical Psychologist working in West London and Berkshire. I am trained to work with adults and children with a range of mental health difficulties, and I have been working in the NHS since 2014.

I am a mother of two young children, and I am a Sikh from an Asian Indian Background. This very much informs my work; becoming a mother has made me even more passionate about supporting positive mental health in parents and children, and I feel that my ethnic background gives me special insight into issues around how members of my community may make sense of their mental health difficulties, how others respond to mental health concerns, and the process of seeking help.

My experience

I completed my Doctorate at UCL in 2014, and since this time have been working in the NHS with adults and teenagers with chronic health problems. I worked in the Spinal Injuries Centre, Stoke Mandeville Hospital and in the Diabetes Centre and Chronic pain Service at Buckinghamshire NHS trust.