Rebecca Pillay - Counsellor and Psychotherapist

16/02/2023

11/02/2023

🚨 NEW CLUB ALERT🚨

After a week of good news, even more!!!

One club becomes two in Grimsby as of March 13th...

PLEASE WELCOME... ANDYSMANCLUB GRIMSBY EAST MARSH

04/01/2023

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Moving from the cloud of anger to the clarity of emotional intelligence

There is a wonderful Zen phrase, “wiping the mirror”. This means paying attention and observing ones negative reactions before “wiping the mirror” of our ego and the emotions that cloud objective reality versus our interpretation of it. In a clear mirror we can see what’s there without distortion—not what we are afraid might be there or wish was there. Being able to see ourselves clearly helps us understand how certain thoughts and feelings get in the way of our best behavior and leadership. In a charged situation, an emotionally intelligent leader knows how to recognize when she is emotionally activated and to arrive at clarity, thereby retaining a balanced perspective.

07/11/2022

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The Cleethorpes restaurant opening for free this Christmas

For many Christmas is a time for festive cheer, but it can also be a particularly hard time for people dealing with loneliness and money problems. A local restaurant has announced plans to combat the issue by offering free meals on Christmas Day.

Owner Oumar wrote: "No matter what your situation you are very welcome to join us. Don’t be shy, and please don’t go without!"

17/10/2022

Men’s peer support group. Haycroft Avenue (off Cromwell Road) GY, DN31 2DP
Men supporting men 🙌🖤

15/09/2022

People pleasing and unhealthy boundaries are coping strategies that we may develop to deal with our low self-worth.

Silvia Rubalcaba shared a post on Instagram: "Have you developed healthy coping skills? Audio : This is from - Trauma, healing and the brain: community learning event by Dr. Gabor Mate on YouTube ❤️‍🩹 * * * * * ...

01/09/2022

Love this video explaining just how vast the effects of childhood traumas (however big!) can be. I would commit myself to saying that 99% of the clients I work with after therapy are able to relate their behaviour to something from their childhoods. Knowing your inner child can be so helpful in understanding your adult self 🙌

love.bombed_md • Original audio

08/06/2022

Know your place 💛

A father said to his daughter, "You just graduated, this is a car I bought a while ago... It is a few years old. But before I give it, take it to a car dealer in the city and sell it , see how much they offer.”

The girl came back to her father and said: "They offered 1000 euros because it looks very old"

The father said: Hold it and take it to the 2nd hand car dealer.

The girl returns to her father and says: "The pawn shop offered 100 euros because it is a very old car and lots of investments are needed to drive it again"

The father asked his daughter to join a passionate car club with experts and show them the car.

The girl drove the car to the passionate car club, turned and said to her father: “Some people in the club offered me 100,000 euros because it is a rare car that is in good condition, with great capabilities and super difficult to find.”

Then the father said, "I wanted to let you know that you are not worth anything if you are not in the right place."

If you are not appreciated, do not be angry, that means you are in the wrong place. "Don't stay in a place where no one sees your value 😉👇."

17/05/2022

Exam time. Keep faith that no matter the outcome you will find your own path in life. This is just a stepping stone to the next chapter 💛

Dear Students,

Exams do not measure your intelligence, your worth or even your learning.
They measure your ability to digest and re-share information (often asked in trick-speak to test the way your brain processes), in tense conditions and under pressure.
We can’t all do that.
Doesn’t mean you didn’t pay attention, study hard or try your best.
And it certainly doesn’t mean you are not amazing, wonderful humans with so much to offer this parched world.
Chances are you would be able to answer correctly on the same subjects in a relaxed environment with straight-shooting questions.
The system is flawed, but that’s okay, you’ll do just fine when you find your thing.
Your time to shine will come.
And oh will you shine.

Donna Ashworth

My new poetry book is available now: https://amzn.to/3JVMJlZ

Art by the WONDERFUL Lisa Aisato

09/05/2022

Currently have some daytime availability.

Experienced in work with adults and young people. I offer a safe, non-judgemental counselling relationship where we work together to help you make sense of, and gain deeper insight, into issues which are affecting your life. Private location.

28/04/2022

Inner child 💛

REMEMBER HER?


Somewhere inside of you, there’s a little firecracker with her arms folded and a frown on her face.

She isn’t happy about all the times you said no when you wanted to say yes.
All the times you said yes when you wanted to say no.

She wanted you to buy the ticket.
She wanted you to take that trip.
She definitely wanted you to take that risk – the one that may have just opened a whole new world.

She wants you to remember what it feels like to run to the sea without a care in the world and splash and laugh till you ache.
To face the day without a fear in your heart and embrace every opportunity that comes.

She doesn’t understand why you won’t wear the bikini.
She doesn’t understand why you won’t eat the cake.
She doesn’t understand why you don’t let it go.
She definitely doesn’t understand why you accept second best.

Somewhere inside there is a little girl who wonders at the adult you’ve become..

She still has many things she wants to learn and so many people still to meet.
She still has food she’d like to taste and parties she wants to dance at.
She still has places she wants to visit and wonders she wants to stare at.

Somewhere inside you, there is a little firecracker – desperate to see more of this thing we call life.

Donna Ashworth

Image: Kate T Parker