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31/08/2022

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Crying it out: A foundation for NPD and BPD

One of the ways children have to adjust to a new order is called 'letting them cry themselves out'.

The Mother puts the child into the crib at night to sleep. It is bedtime. But the sense of aloneness and the loss of contact with the mothers body terrifies the child, who begins to scream and cry.

No animal mother would fail to respond to a baby's cry. Some human mothers believe, however that to respond would be wrong. To give in to a child's crying will spoil the child. Besides, they have been told, crying is good for a child...

The first time this happens the child might cry for hours before falling asleep. The mother might think the child has learned a lesson, but, the child doesn't have the energy for a repeat performance...

After several experiences of this kind, the child learns to give up the struggle for contact with the mother. In effect, the child has cut off the longing for his contact and so no longer feels the pain of frustration.

A new reality in which the desire for intimacy and closeness is not expressed, has been accepted. The foundations for narcissism and the borderline personality have been laid.

~ Dr. Alexander Lowen, Narcissism, Denial of True Self https://amzn.to/47qIiN8

art | Michael Emberley.

02/03/2021

Did you ever wonder just how much difference a hypnobirthing class could make? Lenny came to my classes for the birth of her daughter Bea. Here’s what happened in her own words... https://youtu.be/--7OwLrD6sQ

Lenny came to my hypnobirthing classes before the birth of her first child. She listened and learned, did research to empower herself further and she had the...

19/02/2021

Fabulous Christine! ❤️

https://www.standardmedia.co.ke/entertainment/showbiz/2001401139/i-had-a-pain-free-drug-free-waterbirth-actress-christine-wawira-opens-up-on-childbirth-hypnosis

According to online sources, Hypnobirthing is a birthing method that uses self-hypnosis and relaxation techniques to help a woman feel physically, men

18/02/2021

Fabulous graphic from .physio via Fiona Mitchell Physiotherapy & Wellbeing for Women

Fantastic information as always from .physio

Posted • .physio Core weakness is very common after a c-section. There is traditionally so little post op advice women are left to largely "find their own way" through their recovery. Some manage to access physio services, others aren't even aware it is an option.

Remember your core is not just your deep abdominals. It is also your diaphragm, pelvic floor and deep spinal muscles.

The scarring from a c-section can easily disrupt the mobility of the abdominal muscles, making it harder work to engage them. This is why scar massage is SO important.

Breathing patterns are habitual and you may not have even noticed that you are breathing differently. Stress, lack of space for the diaphragm to move in pregnancy and pain can all change your breathing pattern.

Women often think that pelvic floor exercises don't apply to them if they have had a c-section. This is not true! Your poor pelvic floor has still had 9 months of being stretched and strained by a growing bubba.

You may think that because there's not a routine referral to physio post c-section that it's not necessary. The truth is there are lots of women that would benefit from treatment. If you are struggling post section, get an appointment with your GP and ask for a referral.

17/02/2021

This topic is always contentious. It need not be. How to feed your baby is a matter for you. As long as you are well informed, you are the only person who can make the best decision. Breast feeding is absolutely the best way for some Mums and their baby, for others formula is best or even the only way to ensure their babies are well fed. https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2021/feb/15/forever-chemicals-breastfeeding-contamination-pfas?fbclid=IwAR0FxRoxncUUdmRLunqCGYFCgknUhgkXyNwbZ7QsbQAq0MdY2P97ckNeMx4 With thanks to Urban Hatch for high-lighting the article.

This is an article that has been a long time coming. What being a midwife means to me. It seems obvious that I’d want to write about why I became a midwife and what doing this job for the past twenty years has come to mean, because it means an awful lot!. Being a midwife is not just something I do...

17/02/2021

I have just been listening to a really interesting talk on VBAC (vaginal birth after caesarean) by Sophie Jacobs of URBAN HATCH. Much of what she told me I already knew (it never hurts to refresh your knowledge), but there were a couple of things that really stood out for me. She talked about the contraindications of VBAC, being previous uterine rupture or a vertical c-section scar, but followed that with the shocking statistic that white women are much more likely to be offered VBAC than black women and that the only reason she could see for this was racism.

She also stated that medical induction or augmentation of labour was contraindicated with VBAC because of the increased risk of uterine rupture. This was new to me, but made perfect sense. With Induction of labour, contractions do not behave in the same way. In a spontaneous onset of labour, contractions are usually less intense and between contractions, the uterine muscles relax. Whereas with induction, the contractions are stronger and do not entirely relax, but rather lessen in intensity. This would obviously put greater pressure on scar tissue from any previous uterine surgery.

05/02/2021

What an amazing book has written for mums and mums to be.

My copy arrived today and I’ve had a flick through. Believe me when I tell you no stone has been left unturned when it comes to your pregnancy and postnatal journey.

I’ll be recommending this book to so many of the ladies who come to visit my clinic.

03/02/2021

Good Moms do have scary thoughts and sometimes do crazy things. Post-partum hormones have a lot to answer for. Don’t suffer these thoughts alone, tell someone and get the support you need.

There is a list in the link. I remember thinking some of them when mine were little.

“This thread is amazing. Needs to be turned into a list and handed out to expecting moms by every ob/gyn. They tell women everything under the sun about what to expect for 9 months; why not this?!” “I think it’s wonderful you’re making this list for new moms. It would have been reass.....

13/12/2020

How beautiful is this? I still have no access to my inbox. Thank f you want to contact me please phone or text on 07855755751 🙏🏻

10/12/2020

I have been expecting a few messages/replies this week and hadn’t been notified of any. I have just tried to access my mailbox and I can’t get in. There’s a message saying that I don’t have permission to view the information. If you have sent me a message, and I haven’t replied, would you please send me an email to louise@mindfulchanges.org.uk or a message on my main Mindful Changes page? Thanks
Pic for reach and laughs.

04/12/2020

Yes 🙌🏻 at last there is an opportunity for young families to get support when they need it.

From today all families in England with a baby under 1 year can form a support bubble with one other household. You can keep your support bubble even if your child has a birthday as long as they are under 1 on the 2nd December. This also applies to families with a child under 5 who has a disability that requires continuous care.

If you have already formed a childcare bubble (for childcare purposes only for children under 14), your support bubble can be with a different household but you mustn't mix with both bubbles at the same time.

To find out more about how support bubbles and childcare bubbles work, and see the new rules visit https://www.gov.uk/guidance/making-a-support-bubble-with-another-household

03/12/2020

I always talk about post-partum bleeding with my hypnobirthing clients. It’s something no one talks about and I really thought a couple of days would be it, when I had my first child.

21/11/2020

I can’t imagine how hard the current situation is for new mums. When I had my little ones, my mummy support group (met at breast feeding meet-ups and play group) were a lifeline. They were people who got it. If they weren’t going through what I was, they already had or knew that it might be round the corner. When my babies were loud, they didn’t care; it was the same when I arrived with sick in my hair (that wasn’t intended to rhyme!). Mom’s Mindful Hub are offering this kind of support virtually, right now! Don’t feel alone, head over to their page, it might be just what you need.

Registered Rethink peer support group for mothers and their families to combat isolation, advocate mental health & promote mental wellness. 💜

12/11/2020

Our caesarean birth rate is above the WHO ‘medically necessary’ level. This means that babies are being born through caesarean, who should be able to be birthed vaginally. This is not a judgement of mothers. But a recognition that obstetricians are being hands on, when they should be hands off.
Here’s a really interesting study that shows that female obstetricians are less likely to perform c-sections than their male counterparts. Why do you think this is? My opinion is that they are more intuitive. They don’t need to be ‘in control’ if there is a low risk, they are more inclined to watch and wait.

https://journals.lww.com/greenjournal/Fulltext/9900/Cesarean_Delivery_and_Gender_of_Delivering.46.aspx/?fbclid=IwAR0dkXQrk119BkzMyRk63zcxuzNAyA7GUzSkGJgHRtJjMdBw_4hK6JiwLq8

03/11/2020

I had the most lovely surprise last night.💐 These flowers were a gift from a couple who are expecting their beautiful baby girl in January. It was week four of their one to one hypnobirthing course, and my last visit to them. It’s always bitter sweet when I leave. The satisfaction of a job well done, and I truly love working with pregnant couples, but the sadness of knowing that my small part of their journey is over. ❤️ 👶🏼

29/10/2020

I’m becoming increasingly concerned at the apparent scarcity of midwives in Worcestershire. Ladies are not receiving the care that they need and deserve. One current hypnobirthing client told me that until she started my course, she felt that she was going through her pregnancy without any support.

She found also found out by accident that the midwife led unit at Worcester has been turned into a labour ward for women with Covid. No one had mentioned it to her at a consultant appointment, in spite of her asking if it would be possible to give birth there.

I’m so sad for those women who are receiving less care than they should.

29/10/2020

“This research shows that an lifestyle intervention in pregnant women, which focused on improving diet and increasing physical activity, is associated with improved cardiovascular function in the child at three-years of age and a sustained improvement in the mothers diet, three years after the intervention finished. These findings are very exciting as they add to the evidence that pregnancy is a window of opportunity to promote positive health and lifestyle changes which benefit the mother and her child.”

https://www.kcl.ac.uk/news/healthy-diet-exercise-pregnancy-lead-to-healthier-children?fbclid=IwAR006MH7YU6EpRag7xwsPiRNYlNHj8niqT7wJMc2jMewI8SZQZWyKV8aIcc

New research shows improving the lifestyle of women with obesity during pregnancy could mean long-term cardiovascular benefits for their children.

17/10/2020

People are often curious when I say I’m a hypnotherapist. Somehow after almost 20 years in business, I’m still explaining to friends what I do. I think it’s because nothing to do with the mind can be seen or felt by others. If I said I was an engineer, people would instantly have a box in their mind to put me in. I would be someone who took part in the making or mending of something. I actually kind of am. I help people to make new ways of thinking, we mend broken patterns of behaviour together. Hypnotherapy is art and creativity in the mind, that brings about lasting and meaningful change.