Sharon Kilroy Therapies

23/11/2024

I have been approached by a trainee Psychologist who is conducting research into autistic moms and birthing people experiences of perinatal mental health care
If you would like to participate in the research Emmas contact details are in the photo below
Although the term Asperger’s is used in this article, I have spoken with Emma and she assures me it is for diagnosis only (at the time ) and neuroaffirmative language will be used will all participants

03/11/2024

This morning, I found myself feeling unusually low without knowing exactly why. The sadness seemed to sit in my body, heavy and inexplicable, until I remembered that James had lost his phone on Bonfire night and I realised it was five days before the anniversary of my son’s death, fourteen years ago. It hit me that while my conscious mind hadn’t connected the dots, my body knew exactly what time of year it was.

This is the power of muscle memory and the deep connections we carry. Our bodies hold onto experiences and emotions, even those we might not think about every day.
My muscles, my heartbeat, my breath—they all remembered the grief even before my conscious mind did.
It’s a powerful reminder that trauma and loss live in us in ways that don’t fade with the years. Even when we’re busy with life, part of us still holds those past pains and joys, marking time in its own way.

It’s strange and humbling to realise that our bodies often keep track of dates and memories even when our minds don’t. This experience reminded me of how deeply we carry the people we’ve lost and the impact of their absence. So today, I’m giving myself a little grace, knowing that my heart and body remember even when my mind lets go.

10/09/2024

I'm sharing this with a heavy heart today, on Su***de Prevention Day, in memory of my son, who tragically died by su***de. Losing him has been the most painful experience of my life—there are no words that can fully describe the depth of grief, the endless questions, or the moments when I desperately wish I could have done something differently.

If there's one thing I've learned through this heartache, it's that we never truly know the battles someone is facing inside. My son was loved, but he felt pain I couldn’t see. I wish I could’ve reminded him that even in the darkest moments, there is hope, and there are people ready to listen.

Please, if you're struggling, reach out. There is no shame in asking for help. Your life matters more than you know, and the pain you feel is not permanent. To those who have lost someone to su***de, you are not alone. My heart is with you today and always. Let’s keep talking, keep checking on each other, and keep hope alive
James Tynan May 1992-Nov 2010 💙💙💙

05/09/2024

As we are approaching Su***de Prevention Week this year, 8th to 14th September, it's crucial to deepen our understanding of the complex feelings and thought patterns that often accompany suicidal ideation.
For many, the journey toward such thoughts is quiet and insidious, marked by overwhelming emotions, isolation, and a sense of hopelessness. By shedding light on these experiences, we can foster a more compassionate and supportive environment for those who are struggling 💙

One of the most common feelings that precede suicidal thoughts is an all-encompassing sense of despair. This despair can manifest as a belief that life’s challenges are insurmountable, that the future holds no promise, or that the pain will never subside. This sense of hopelessness can make it difficult for someone to see beyond their current circumstances, leading them to believe that su***de is the only way to escape their suffering💙
Feelings of isolation often accompany suicidal thoughts. Despite being surrounded by people, those experiencing these feelings may believe that no one truly understands their pain, or they are a burden to those they care about. This perceived isolation can drive people deeper into their own thoughts, cutting them off from the very connections that could offer support and relief 💙

Suicidal ideation is often fueled by distorted thought patterns, such as black-and-white thinking, where someone sees their situation as entirely hopeless, without any possibility of change or improvement. Additionally, feelings of worthlessness may lead to thoughts of ‘Everyone would be better off without me’. These distortions can create a dangerous feedback loop, reinforcing negative emotions and thoughts 💙
It’s important to remember that not everyone who struggles shows obvious signs. Many people mask their pain behind a facade of strength, making it difficult for friends and family to recognise their inner turmoil. They may continue to go through the motions of daily life while battling intense emotional pain in silence 💙

How We Can Help?? 💙
Open Conversations
Don’t shy away from discussing mental health and su***de. Sometimes, just asking someone how they’re really doing can open a door to honest conversation 💙

Listen Without Judgment
If someone shares their struggles with you, listen with empathy and without trying to immediately “fix” their problems. Your understanding can be a lifeline 💙

Encourage Professional Help
Mental health professionals can provide the support and tools needed to navigate these difficult feelings. Encourage your loved ones to seek help if they’re struggling💙

Check-In Regularly 💙
Consistent, genuine check-ins with loved ones can make a significant difference. Knowing someone cares enough to reach out can help diminish feelings of isolation 💙

For those who may be struggling
You are not alone, and your life is worth fighting for. There are people who care deeply about you, even if it doesn’t always feel that way. Reach out—there is help, and there is hope 💙
As we observe the upcoming Su***de Prevention Week, let’s commit to breaking the silence around su***de. By fostering understanding, compassion, and connection, we can all play a part in saving lives…possibly someone we love and maybe our own
Don’t leave it too late and regret it 💙
James Tynan May 1992 - Nov 2010

15/07/2024

14/07/2024

Do you have set boundaries? Are they rigid or fluid? Are you constantly saying yes to others and no to yourself? Lack of boundaries can lead you to self loathing, lack of self worth and other self depreciating thoughts and feelings.
Start by putting you first, saying yes to yourself first and see what happens…

13/07/2024

After we have experienced trauma, it’s normal that we don't often feel safe, and why would we ?? Scary, dangerous, or threatening situations have happened in our lives. We can’t recover from trauma without the process of learning again to feel safe.

So how can we learn to feel safe again, if we're NOT actually safe?? A lot of recovery will depend on what's actually going on in our life – not just in our mind.

13/07/2024

New beginnings 😍

04/02/2024

Stand tall, advocate for yourself. Never let anyone diminish your worth. You wouldn't let someone else be treated unfairly… give yourself the same respect. Embrace your power, rise above, and let your voice echo your strength!!!!! You deserve to be heard and respected