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28/09/2024

Love LESSONS 28

DEALING WITH NAGGING type A - (Part 4)

To begin dealing with NAGGING type A - I.e. nagging that is caused by the personality traits of the person that nags, let's understand PERSONALITY TRAITS first.

Personality traits are characteristic patterns in how a person thinks, feels, and behaves. These traits are relatively consistent over time and across different situations. They help define who we are and how we interact with the world.

There are five (5) widely accepted models or measurement to understand the personality traits of an individual are;

• Openness: Appreciation for a variety of experiences, creativity, and curiosity.

• Conscientiousness: Tendency to be organized, dependable, and disciplined.

• Extraversion: Sociability, assertiveness, and talkativeness.

• Agreeableness: Being kind, sympathetic, and cooperative.

• Neuroticism: Tendency to experience negative emotions like anxiety, anger, or depression

These traits can vary in intensity from person to person, creating a unique personality profile for each individual.

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25/09/2024

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25/09/2024

Love LESSONS 27

DEALING WITH NAGGING IN MARRIAGE Part 3

While most NAGGING in a relationship stems from the personality treats of the individual who nags, others are due to built up disappointments, frustrations and failed expectations. The former, lets call this type A, is a bit more difficult to handle because its a personality issue. The later (let's call this type B) is easier and just requires the partner on the receiving side to gently and objectively figure out those expectations, frustrations and failed expectations for a possible make up and change.

That, of course, is a root-cause solution in that regard. Generally, issues in marriage are better given root-cause remedies than finding ways to manage them. If you are a victim of NAGGING, take an introspection of yourself first, ask these questions "in what areas have I been a disappointment to my spouse?" "What can I do to meet up his/her expectations of me?" "Are there repetitive behaviours, body languages or other communications from me that has contributed to his/her frustrations?"

Your answers to these questions alone solves 70% the NAGGING in your relationship if yours is the class of the later above. For those in the class of the former - personality problem, please be in the next class - Love LESSONS 28.

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24/09/2024

Love Lessons 26

DEALING WITH NAGGING IN MARRIAGE - Part 2

Complaints, Criticisms, reminders are necessary in marriage. However, when they form nuisances to your partner that’s NAGGING. Those should be devoid of harsh tone, vulgar and extreme words. Words like “You can never.....” , “ever....” , ....always “ are extreme words and turn a good intension to NAGGING.

NAGGING doesn’t look like nagging to the “nagger” most times because they are desperate for a change. But by NAGGING they cause more harm than achieving the desired change. It is not wrong to ask your spouse once in a while “do I nag at you?” Such feedback would help couples maintain their cool and objectively approach issues to find solutions.

The simplest notion a culprit of NAGGING should hold unto in order to to quit NAGGING is that it is better to hold hands than to be right. That is to say; in order of priority, working together as a couple/team is more important than who is right or wrong.

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23/07/2024

WISDOM NUGGETS

Your Intelligence Without Money Part 2

Results validate wisdom/intelligence. Money overpowers intelligence when there are no visible results to prove your intelligence.

Grow a business from the scratch putting your knowledge to work even with no much capital - its a proof of your eunterprenural ability - then even the rich will give you audience.

Run a ministry starting from "where 2 or 3 are gathered with no much financial support - that's a proof of grace and knowledge

This is why Paul told Timothy "Make a full proof of your ministry "

Everyone respects results - get the results, then you have a say.

Someone said "Money stops nonsense ". I am here to say "Results also stops nonsense "

I HAVE BEEN THERE.

To be continued

23/07/2024

WISDOM NUGGETS

Your Intelligence Without Money Part 1

If you have been neglected even when you have the intellectual ability to cause a change, dust-off your "booths", relocate and do something else.

- The present system has no regard for intellectual prowess.

- if you have money, they will listen to you. If you don't have money, your wisdom makes no sense.

- even the Bible say

"Ecclesiastes 9:16 NASB
So I said, “Wisdom is better than strength.” But the wisdom of the poor man is despised, and his words are ignored.

My advice

* Don't make so much contributions based on what you know - no one is listening.

* * Don't make the mistake of arguing with those who have money among the group even when you know you are making sense. You would be tagged an opposition.

* * * The people you so trusted, including the fathers among them will disbelief you and believe/trust those whose money they enjoy - and relegate you and your wisdom to the background.

But you know what?

* Go in and allow the process of time

* * The same God who gave you that intellectual ability makes men rich.

* * * Pray God - bless you with both.

With time you would cause a revolution.

I HAVE BEEN THERE.

To be continued

27/07/2023

Love Lesson 23

WHO'S MONEY Cont.

It is important to highlight some of the reasons the submission of the wife to her husband negate finance inclusion.

1. THIRD PARTY MANIPULATION
Mothers, fathers, relatives and friends of the woman unable to face the reality of change of status, indirectly manipulate the woman (now married) just to maintain existing financial support from her.

Such support, of course, should not cease at the event of marriage, but without the consent of the man, it is a threat to the well being of the marriage

2. SELFISHNESS & SELF CENTEREDNESS
some promiscuous women want to get all they can, and can all the get. Natural glutony, Quest for glamour, societal power, showmanship, August-meeting-I-will-show-them kind of women cannot submit EVERYTHING as Eph. 5:24 instructs.

3. IRRESPONSIBLE HUSBAND
This is one reason even a submissive wife may opt out when you mention finance. No sane woman would submit her money to a drunkard husband. Again, husbands who are not financially accountable may be victims of non-submission from their wives.

In any case, however, there are solutions to these.

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