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26/10/2025

BREEDING THE STUBBORN CHILD Cont….

Tips To Good ENGAGEMENT with the minors

1. Define the target

2. Explain how they will benefit…. You can set a “trophy”. These may not be medals. It could be something you know is of interest to them. You are teaching them goal setting, rewards & recognition at that tender age and diverting wasteful energy called STUBBORN to meaningful ventures that train them.

3. Make the whole exercise fun…. Be part of it. Laugh, exclaim, be lively - make them feel you are catching fun it them in the whole stuff. Remember we are talking about the minors here, fun is there “daily bread”

4. Collaborate with them & encourage them to collaborate with their siblings in carrying out the tasks of their engagement. It makes them feel important nd the importance of the task. That way they are so engrossed with it and have no time to look elsewhere. And that’s the idea of ENGAGEMENT

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09/10/2025

Like I said in the previous lessons, what we call STUBBORN is resilience, drive, passion, courage inherent in our children trying to find expression



BREEDING THE STUBBORN CHILD

Once we understand that these are good virtues in disguise which haven’t been harnessed properly, we have a good start towards breeding our so called stubborn children.

Let’s begin with minors age 0 to 12. Your first strategy would be ENGAGEMENT. Children have excess energy they want to execute on something. Those ones with resilience and drive feel agitated when they are idle. So give them something to do.

Most parents engage their children quite alright but without the proper strategy the task of the engagement becomes boring to the child. So here are some tips to engaging your child properly.

First define the goal of the task - don’t ever assume that these are children and so are not keen to the details. Communicating the reason for the task in the very language they understand is key to winning their attention to the task . Explain how they will benefit from the results when achieved.

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08/10/2025

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08/10/2025

Observe that “STUBBORN” children are resilient, they don’t give up easily, they can endure hardness and hard times ….



BREEDING THE STUBBORN CHILD

These qualities I mentioned are virtues of greatness. A child inborn with them is an entrepreneur in the making. They are qualities more important than intelligence and brilliance.

An intelligent child without resilience and courage to challenge convention ends up as a teacher, an instructor or a headmaster. However, the resilient child who does not give up easily is a pathfinder who ends up employing the intelligent ones to trade the paths he had found.

The assignment we have as parents is not to get wary with the excesses of these children but strategically breed them to harness these inherent qualities and turn them into virtues for results

Stay with me regularly on this page as I tell you HOW.

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07/10/2025

If you’ve got “stubborn” child/children come closer I’ve got word for you



STUBBORN CHILDREN ARE A BLESSING

If you are a parent today think through this as I have: most of those classmates of yours in primary and secondary school days who were not acclaimed “STUBBORN” are millionaires today. The boys who jump the fence to go after girls - the hippies, the ones who got lashes on their buttocks at the assembly ground for not doing their homework - the 1-week 1-trouble guys then, they are actually the ones who made it to the top today before others.

How many Senior Prefects of those days go on G-wagon today? How many of your study prefects then own their own businesses and are entrepreneurs today? The truth is that what you call “stubborn at that age are drive, passion, courage, self moltivation etc trying to find expression but without direction.

What most parents fail to understand is that there are some ways to channel these virtues aright to get the best out of our lads than languishing in complain that our children are stubborn.

Come with me in the next few weeks of our FAMILY LOVE LESSONS as I walk you through the HOWS. You will thank me later. That your “stubborn child” - so to say is another billionaire waiting to happen.

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26/09/2025

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN A RELATIONSHIP IS TOXIC ? Cont…



4. Controlling behaviors
• He ask where you are all the time?
• She become annoyed or irritated when you don’t immediately answer
• texts or text you again and again until you do.
• These behaviors stem from jealousy or lack of trust,
• but they can also suggest a need for control — both of which can contribute to relationship toxicity.

5. Resentment
• Holding on to grudges and and letting them away
• Over time, frustration or resentment can build up and make a smaller thing much bigger

Note, too, whether you tend to nurse these grievances quietly because you don’t feel safe speaking up when something bothers you. If you can’t trust your partner to listen to your concerns, your relationship could be toxic.

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25/09/2025

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN A REALATION IS TOXIC?



1. Lack of support
• a mutual desire to see the other succeed in all areas of life is lost
• every achievement becomes a competition.
• the time you spend together no longer feels positive.
• You don’t feel supported or encouraged,
• you can’t trust them to show up for you.

2. Toxic communication
• Instead of kindness and mutual respect, most of your conversations are filled with sarcasm or criticism and fueled by contempt
• You make a snide or derogatory statement about him o4 her
• start dodging their calls, just to get a break from the inevitable arguments and hostility.
3. Envy or jealousy
• While it’s perfectly fine to experience a little envy from time to time,
• it can become an issue if your envy keeps you from thinking positively about your partner’s successes.
• The same goes for jealousy. Yes, it’s a perfectly natural human emotion. But when it leads to constant suspicion and mistrust, it can quickly begin to erode your relationship.

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20/09/2025

WHAT IS DATING Part 2



Committed Dating
a) Much more serious than casual dating
b) Usually verbalized
c) Normally exclusive dating
d) Compromising c above is betrayal
e) Note …a healthy committed dating is the best preparation for marriage
f) All healthy dating must not end up in marriage…..but a healthy dating will help the dates answer correctly the question whether or not they should marry.

Healthy Dating – Committed Dating

• Quickly - let’s underline this – the main objective of dating is *Getting to Know Each Other*

• The human psyche is a complex combination of heredity and environment

o What you see outwardly is not necessarily what you see inwardly
o The process of discovering each other would require a high level honesty on the part of each individual involved.
o In the early stage of dating we tend to put our best foot forward. Hence time is of essence
o Please don’t try to make good impression….it doesn’t help.
o Be yourself.
o Quit the over-packaging…..burst your balloons.
o Every individual has a unique history that brought him/her to where we are today.
o Share those history.
 Share the failures and the successes
 The Good, the bad and the ugly.
• The three months jail term
• The Unwanted pregnancy
• Mum and Dads separation
 To build a relationship upon deception or hidden truth is to sabotage the relationship.
• By nature we don’t like to share our failures
• But a healthy dating is built on truth
• Learn from Gods ideology with Adam and Eve. They were both naked
o Two areas of difficulty with openness
 Sexual history
 Financial history
o They are also two areas of likelyhood of conflicts in your marriage
o Other areas to share your history are
 Family dynamics
 Educational and vocational goals
 Various aspects of our humanity and balance
• Intellectual
• Emotional
• Social
• Spiritual and
• Physical Balan

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19/09/2025

SO WHAT IS DATING



Dating
A date is an appointment between a male and female who agree to spend a segment of time together for the purpose of getting aquatinted

Two Stages of Dating.
1. Casual Dating
2. Committed Dating

1. Casual Dating
May not have romantic overtones. It may simply be two symphony devotees agreeing to attend a function together and probably have dinner together afterwards.

Casual Dating are not serious but you can’t sweep it off because they also provide window or entry point to

It may be accompanied by romantic interest on the part of one or both but not known to them

Casual dating moves in one of three direction
a. No romantic interest develops
They each have a common interest which creates friendship that focus on their common activity

This mutual enjoyable relationship often continue for years
b. Second Possibility….one has strong romantic attraction and the other doesn’t.
Results to conflicts that ends the relationship
c. Third possibility….both develop romantic feeling
Their time together are mutually enjoyable.
It feels like *love has happened *
It leads to the stage two of Dating.

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18/09/2025

HOW NOT TO DATE WRONGFULLY…. Conclusion


9. Start learning little act of commitment

 Commitment is Being bound emotionally or intellectually to a course of action or to another person or persons.
 At marriage, you will get into the highest level of commitment you have ever made.

10. Invest in your personal development

 read books,
 attend seminars and invest in yourself. I can’t emphasize this enough.
 A lot of singles find it difficult to invest in their emotional life and it can be frustrating at the end of the day. Save yourself the stress of being hurt and clueless.
 Learn and relearn. Learn about your personality type, your values, your deal-breaker, communication, love and apology languages, and so many other things to learn. It’s unending.

Learning is a virtue.
At no point in our lives should we stop learning. The most advantageous time to learn a thing is before you venture into it. So singlehood and dating time are the most appropriate time to learn about marriage.

Learn, unlearn and relearn
From books, other people’s expirien experiences and their life stories. Don’t learn marriage from the single, they have no experience.

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17/09/2025

HOW NOT TO DATE WRONGFULLY Cont….



4. Learn Home Management
If you can’t clean your space, then start owning your space well without the intention of your spouse arranging everything for you.
Learn to clean every corner of your house and practice good and healthy hygiene.

5. Be a praying person
Marriage has its own battles and you don’t want to go into marriage with an entitlement mentality.

6. This is time to work on your insecurities
 Do a proper trust analysis of yourself
 Deal with fear of distrust stemming from past experiences
 A more serious one may Seek therapy and closure.

7. Let go of pride
 If you’ve pride issues, this is the time to start seeking professional help.
 Pride kills the beauty of marriage.
 Don’t assume that your excesses will be managed. Pride comes before a fall.

8. Practice self-control
 Marriage do not cure lack of self control
o Problems like
 Gluttony
 Ma********on
 Sexual Promiscuity
o Cannot be solve with a life partner, they require intentionality and self discipline of their victims

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