Hypnotherapy Harrogate & Leeds - Tracey De Wet

Hypnotherapy Harrogate & Leeds - Tracey De Wet Helping people overcome stress, anxiety and childhood issues to improve their lives. Clinical hypnotherapy services in Harrogate and online anywhere.

Offering Stress and relaxation techniques. Help with personal development and overcoming fears and phobias. Confidence building. Smoking and habit cessation. Hypnotherapy has also been proven to help with reducing pain and other symptoms. Available Mondays and after hours on weekdays. Email tdw.hypnotherapy@gmail.com now.

07/08/2024

Why would someone be looking for help to "rebuild trust"?
Whenever I see that box ticked I have a good idea.
It is usually for real or suspected infidelity.
This is a tricky situation.
Finding out your partner has been cheating can feel like someone has literally kicked you in the stomach!
It is visceral, shocking, and extremely painful.
When this wears off, the anger comes. "How dare they do this to me!"
Then the hopelessness of the situation. "What if this is the end?"
And all that entails.
Which could be catastrophic.
Breaking up. Dividing up the home contents. Deciding who gets the children. Losing the family home. Moving away. Losing half your financial resources. Changing your children lives forever. Finding out friends you counted on didn't tell you or don't want to get involved.
Worlds are rocked.
The fallout is huge.
So it makes sense to at least get some help.
What does that look like?
I listen to each partner individually.
What I'm looking for are the reasons it happened. Not to lay blame but to know where to start helping.
I've found there are typically three scenarios.
1. the cheater didn't mean to, it was circumstantial
e.g. they are away on business, have too much to drink and end up with someone they have always secretly fancied at work who flirts with them and responds
2. the partner has fallen for this person and feels they may want to leave the relationship but aren't sure (that is why they are willing to have a go at repairing it)
3. the person is a serial cheater, they enjoy it in the moment but do not want to leave their partner
Each of these needs a different approach.
But first of all I get the cheater to apologise WITHOUT justifying their actions. They admit what happened. They endure the anger and emotion directed at them (not physical of course) and acknowledge the hurt they have caused.
Scenario 1 has a good chance of recovery. If it only happens the once and the cheater is truly sorry about it. Realising that what they already have is too important to lose. They put in the work to regain trust and sometimes the relationship is better for it.
Scenario 2 is more difficult. The cheater has to gain a realistic perspective. It is easy to think the grass is greener but as limerence wears off and reality intrudes it usually isn't. If they really want to save the relationship then there are certain steps that will help. The main one is that they cut off all ties with the object of their affection.
Scenario 3 needs all of the above. But the cheater also needs some deep hypnotherapy. Somewhere inside is a lack of self-esteem or a loss (sometimes this is a way of making up for the loos of a parents love or attention). This has to be resolved to a point where it is not driving behaviour. The relationship can be renegotiated if both partners agree.
Getting over hurt and betrayal takes time. This needs to be factored in.
The relationship will be different going forward.
The cheating partner has to do what is required to make the partner feel it is worth the effort to stay together.
Both partners need to be invested in a positive outcome.
Curiosity and exploration about why it happened in the first place is much more helpful than blame and recrimination.
So I teach them what to do instead.
Helpful tips and techniques to calm overwhelm and 'all or nothing' thinking.
Exercises to turn the negative interaction around and fill up the love tank instead.
(When we first fall in love, the love tank is full to overflowing and this reduces the friction modern life causes. The tank leaks over time. If couples don't put love back in the tank it gets depleted. Giving them less resilience against temptation or the desire to look elsewhere for affection or intimacy.)
Questionnaires to help them understand themselves and their partner better. (Sometimes these topics have never been discussed between them before. This should have happened before they committed but I don't think it is ever too late.)
Practical agreements where they sign up to certain actions or behaviours.
(These keep the relationship on track because they are measurable and easier to track.)
I get them to agree on what their challenges and hurdles are. Define the problems.
Then give them practical ways to have progressive discussions - without meltdowns or withdrawal - about these problems.
It is usually a big surprise when they learn that over 70% of problems are unsolvable. (E.g. if one likes yellow and the other one doesn't this is unlikely to change.)
Successful relationships learn how to live with or negotiate these.
Communication is key.
Understanding human traits and psychology is extremely helpful. (E.g. if you shout at someone you will trigger their fight or flight response and the situation will spiral.)
Knowing what to do instead calms the waves.
A positive roadmap for the future is presented for the couple to refer to in times of distress.
The overall outcome can be positive.
All is not lost.
(Even if couples do decide to go their separate ways, the fallout should be minimised because they have increased their understanding and improved their basic friendship.)
My dearest wish is that couples would get help long before they actually need it because it can make such a difference.

03/08/2024

Of 10 people looking for help today:
2 want to communicate better and resolve conflicts.
Why would anyone need help with that? Why can't they just talk things through? Surely all we have to do is tell the other party/s what we think, listen to what they think, and then come to some compromise.
Well, we can if we are able to keep emotion out of it. Very difficult because we have developed to be sociable and reactive.
What really happens is this:
A situation arises (could be at work or personal)that is perceived as a threat. This triggers our fight or flight response.
We get flooded with adrenaline, cortisol etc. and this feels unpleasant.
When we are in this flooded state:
*we can't think clearly - thoughts are hijacked to assess the 'threat' and what we are going to do about it
*our physical state changes - we can become red in the face, breathe differently, start shaking, feel nauseous etc.
*we don't respond, we react - maybe saying or doing things we shouldn't as they are not going to solve the problem, rather, they exacerbate it
*we try to defend ourselves - blaming others or situations, raising our voices, becoming aggressive, possibly even lying to get ourselves out of that uncomfortable situation
*we deflect - pointing out what others have done that are worse etc.
*we can shut down and refuse to discuss the situation, possibly even becoming passive aggressive about it
The worse thing about it is that we are usually reacting to something that happened in the past as well as the present situation.
E.g. you are at work when you get called in to the bosses office. You have no idea why. When you get there the boss points out something you may have done wrong. It may not have even been you responsible but your fight or flight is triggered. You get upset and angry. Words are said about everything that has been bugging you about the job for ages. The situation degenerates as you raise your voice, become defensive, accuse others of being the culprits, use rude words, storm out the office...
Being in that situation triggered a memory of something similar when you were younger.
Like when you were sent to the headmasters office at school.
Or your dad shouted at you when you were a small defenceless child.
Or you were blamed for something you didn't do and got into trouble.
Or your mum gave you a hiding when it was your sister at fault.
Etc. etc.
Subconsciously tapping into that previous negative experience affects how we react in the present.
We are hard-wired to do that. At a basic level it keeps us safe by evoking the fight or flight response.
Getting effective help for this is difficult.
Just reading about it may give you some insight but not easy to remember when you are flooded.
Counselling may help to unpack why you get triggered but it doesn't stop it.
Mindfulness may seem the answer but difficult to implement in heated situations if you don't practice it often.
What really helps is a combination of conscious and subconscious therapy.
Hypnotherapists may differ in their approach.
I find that inner-child work is usually the best place to start.
Using various techniques, the person is taken back to initial triggering events in their past that are driving current behaviour. This is done with the guidance of their own subconscious so that they don't become overwhelmed.
The emotional component of the memory is released (it doesn't matter how old or vague the memory is).
Once that emotion is processed, the memory moves out of the reactive amygdala area of the brain, into the long-term storage area. It becomes a memory like any other.
(this is a simplification but I'm sure you get the gist)
And this is how lives can be changed.
Underlying fear,
anger,
rage,
disappointment,
self-hatred,
regret,
guilt,
shame,
self-blame,
jealousy,
resentment,
inadequacy,
accessed and released.
Imagine how much easier it is to communicate if you are free from the past memories telling you that this is an unpleasant situation. You can state your case clearly and rationally.
Picture being able to handle: being shouted at, accused, lied to, insinuated, criticised or insulted, like water off a ducks back.
You remain in control. You can see the situation for what it is. You can react in a much more helpful manner. You are able to compromise without losing the plot. You preserve the relationship. You limit the damage.
This is true power!

24/07/2024

Something I am passionate about helping with is relationships. Years ago I studied with the now famous Gottman Institute.
It was a distance learning course but extremely comprehensive. Dr John Gottman is brilliant. He is a mathematician as well as a psychotherapist and after years of observing real life couples behaviour, has reduced it to formulas. These formulas give us a huge boost by allowing behaviour to be observed, analysed and interpreted. Helping the couple then becomes much easier because much of the guesswork is removed. We can concentrate on what will actually help them.
In my observation and opinion, when hypnotherapy is added too, this transcends any other counselling program out there.
Gottman found that statistically, the usual counselling is less than 35% effective. Which is rather shocking. Out of every 10 struggling couples, around 3 manage to keep it together.
The Gottman method has a significantly higher success rate.
If it is so easy for couples to benefit substantially from this approach, why doesn't every counsellor/help group offer it?
Because to make a difference, couples have to attend at least 12 meetings. Ideally over 3 months.
Sadly, people want a fast fix. They start to miss meetings. Which is detrimental because the therapy itself stirs up deep held feelings and fears. These should be addressed by the therapist who can guide them through the weeds and bring them out the other side.
But they can't if one or both parties stop attending.
I still like to work with any party who sticks with it.
They get the chance to resolve their own issues and emerge stronger and more confident. Which will make them a better partner even if their current relationship doesn't survive.
The statistics a few years ago (I haven't checked more recently) were that around 76% of people who divorced, and had children, regretted the fallout it caused and wished they had done things differently.
Like getting over themselves and putting the relationship first.
Steven Covey described a successful marriage like an airplane journey.
If you keep your eyes on the destination, you can endure the turbulence and the wind that tries to blow you off-course.
The relationship lasts when partners make an effort to keep on track.
Not always easy, life throws all sorts at us.
But the great thing about Gottman-based help is that we know what to expect in our couples and how to counteract the damage.
By teaching couples what to look out for and giving them tools to navigate rough patches, we can make a difference.
I wish I had learned this sooner.
My divorce was a huge shock and a lesson in how downright evil and nasty people can get. But there were reasons and telltale signs way before it happened, I just didn't recognise at the time. Things could have turned out very different.
Helping others with this is very dear to my heart.
I just wish couples would seek help sooner. Before too much damage has occurred.

21/07/2024

𝑴𝑼𝑺𝑻 𝑹𝑬𝑨𝑫 𝑭𝑶𝑹 𝑷𝑨𝑹𝑬𝑵𝑻𝑺!!
 8 FIGHTS WORTH PICKING WITH YOUR KIDS:
Saw this somewhere and it was immensely helpful and challenging.
Parenting is hard. Parents have to choose their battles. Here are 8 fights worth picking with your kids:
The Reading Fight:
Make your kids read. Because reading is tied to everything from cognitive development to the ability to focus. Make your kids read now.
The Outside Fight:
Make your kids go outside. The natural world teaches us things. Plus, outside there's sunshine, fresh air, and exercise waiting for them. Most importantly, nature is full of things in short supply in our world: Discovery, wonder, peace, joy.
The Work Fight:
Make your kids work. I’m saddened by how many parents don’t require their kids to lift a finger at home. There are priceless life principles you can only learn with a mop in your hand. Let sweat be their teacher.
The Meal Fight:
Make your kids eat as a family. Our lives are a blur of incessant activity. Meals together are a physical pause to recover a truth so easily sacrificed at the altar of busyness. Nothing's more important than family.
The Boredom Fight:
Make your kids live with boredom. Don't show a DVD on each car ride. Kids need unscheduled time. And, odd as it sounds, boredom is a skill. It's hard as a parent to deal with the assault of boredom complaints. But if you give in and fill up their time with external stimuli, you'll raise an activity addict. Make them learn how to be.
The "Me First" Fight:
Make your kids go last. Not every time for everything. But enough to remember that the world doesn't revolve around them. Take the smallest piece. Give up the remote. Do someone else's chores. Get their least favorite choice. They won't like it, but they need it.
The Awkward Conversation Fight:
Make your kids have uncomfortable conversations with you. S*x, dating, body image, values...Your kids will roll their eyes and resist. You will stumble and stutter. They need and want your perspective, lessons learned, and wisdom.
The Limitation Fight:
Learning to live within limits is a valuable life skill. In fact, many adult problems arise from an inability to accept them. Screen time limits, dietary limits, activity limits, and schedule limits are all good.
As a parent, you have to pick your battles. They're not easy, but they're worth the fight.
*Copied from David Morris on Twitter

21/07/2024

I'm always intrigued when people looking for help describe it as a 'specific fear' or 'phobia'.
There are so many possible scenarios.
From the expected such as snakes and spiders - to more unusual ones like a particular type of chair, a smell, a plant etc.
Humans should be wary or scared of anything dangerous, this avoidance reaction keeps us alive.
Fear can still be rational.
Snakes should be treated with caution (unless you know for sure that it is non-venomous or too small to squeeze you to death).
A phobia is an extreme reaction that seems to be irrational.
Rapid heartbeat, strong desire to get away, sweaty palms, full-blown panic (even if it is short-lived) - huge adrenaline dump into the system that triggers a powerful fight or fight response.
All that could be for something others would consider innocuous, like a tiny mouse!
Usually a phobia doesn't have a huge effect on someone's life.
Spiders can be avoided. Snakes are rare in most parts of the world. You don't have to go swimming etc.
But there are some that are debilitating.
Emetophobia - fear of vomiting/seeing someone else vomit - can stop people going out of their house.
Agoraphobia - fear of going out or open spaces - can keep people out of normal society and work
Fear of flying - prevents holidays abroad
Fear of talking in front of people - can impact negatively on a career
The list goes on.
Helping usually needs a 'regression to cause' hypnosis session to allow the fearful event to be cleared.
Then some rebuilding of confidence and 'future pacing' visualisation exercises.
Sometimes a phobia can be resolved with just one session.
It just depends on the individual.

16/07/2024

Out of 10 people looking for help today:
2 want help with weight loss.
I prefer to call it weight reduction because our brains don't like it when we 'lose'. Loss initiates a negative emotive state which we don't want. So reducing rather than losing is less likely to be perceived as a negative by our subconscious.
What stops people from losing weight?
It can be a number of reasons but if you look at pictures of humans that live in remote areas, eating what nature has to offer, they are all slim.
This is how we are designed to be.
No excuses, no ifs, buts or maybes.
In the modern world:
We eat far too many calories compared to those we use up, resulting in fat cells filling up with the excess.
These storage cells remain full as there is little or no need to use the contents.
Because we eat regular meals, our bodies don't get a chance to go into fat burning mode, we live off the food we are eating now instead of stored calories.
Certain medications can also hinder this process.
Calories are used for cellular metabolism, energy and movement of the body.
Most of us do not move around as much as our bodies are designed for.
It should be a very simple process to eat basic foods such as fruits, vegetables, eggs and meat as well as move more to restore body size.
But often it is difficult.
Because of the eat - guilt - eat cycle.
This is a psychological override of a natural process.
Mind over matter.
Complicated with an inbuilt pleasure mechanism related to sweet-tasting substances.
How could that be related to early learning experience? (which is where hypnosis works)
When humans attach an emotion to behaviour it can become entrenched.
Like being given sweets when you were 'good',
pudding after your meal every night as a treat (that becomes a habit in later life - if you don't perpetuate it you feel somehow deprived),
getting sweet or fatty items when out and about - toffee apples, trick or treat, cakes, ice cream, crisps, fast food (this becomes an expectation later),
offered sweet or fattening items when feeling ill (to be 'cheered up'),
living in a household where food was deemed very important, or large helpings were foisted on children - eat up and you'll grow big and strong; you can't only have that much, you'll starve (live to eat instead of eat to live mentality)
and so on.
There is also a behaviour pattern where the overweight person feels 'safer' - especially where unwanted sexual attention or abuse has been a factor.
Changing these mindsets are key to letting go of the behaviours that perpetuate the weight gain.
When we rediscover our natural body signals and become attuned to them, eating to live becomes much easier.
This may take more than a few sessions of hypnosis and there are processes that may need to be followed to re-educate the mind.
But what excites me the most is observing the release
during hypnosis sessions. We never know what may come up. These can be life changing. As well as helping to reduce the excess weight.

12/07/2024

Out of 10 people wanting help today:
2 are suffering with PTSD.

PTSD can be caused by physical violence, accidents, shocking experiences, dangerous situations, traumatic relationships, war, attacks, sexual abuse, unexpected loss, witnessing shocking events or reacting to events involving family or close friends.

To meet the criteria for PTSD, a person must have symptoms for longer than 1 month, and the symptoms must be severe enough to interfere with aspects of daily life, such as relationships or work. The symptoms also must be unrelated to medication, substance use, or other illness.
An adult must have all of the following for at least 1 month:
At least one re-experiencing symptom
At least one avoidance symptom
At least two arousal and reactivity symptoms
At least two cognition and mood symptoms

Here are examples of the symptoms:

Re-experiencing symptoms (1)
Flashbacks—reliving the traumatic event, including physical symptoms, such as a racing heart or sweating
Recurring memories or dreams related to the event
Distressing thoughts
Physical signs of anxiety.

Avoidance symptoms (1)
Staying away from places, events, or objects that are reminders of the experience
Avoiding thoughts or feelings related to the traumatic

Arousal and reactivity symptoms (2)
Being easily startled
Feeling tense, on guard, or on edge
Having difficulty concentrating
Having difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep
Feeling irritable and having angry or aggressive outbursts
Engaging in risky, reckless, or destructive behavior

Cognition and mood symptoms (2)
Trouble remembering key features of the traumatic event
Negative thoughts about oneself or the world
Exaggerated feelings of blame directed toward oneself or others
Ongoing negative emotions, such as fear, anger, guilt, or shame
Loss of interest in previous activities
Feelings of social isolation
Difficulty feeling positive emotions, such as happiness or satisfaction
(National Institute of Mental Health)

Diagnosis is made by a mental health professional according to responses to an assessment.

There are levels of severity.
From a soldier who reacts strongly to a loud noise where their legs feel like jelly, they get into a defensive stance and their heart is racing, may start crying and shaking
to
a car accident victim who wakes up terrified having had a bad dream reliving the experience.

Strength of reaction usually decreases over time.

But reactions can still happen long after the event.

Research done by Van Der Kolk et al points to trauma causing lasting physical symptoms as well.
And that these get 'stuck'.

This eminent psychiatrist is a world renowned expert and author.

And he uses hypnotherapy type techniques to help release these stored up trauma patterns.

I learned this on the course I did with NICABM and Dr Van Der Kolk.

If you are suffering from PTSD please know that there are techniques that can help. Even years later.

🤗

10/07/2024

Out of 10 people looking for help today:
3 need help with self-esteem
4 want help with anxiety and stress
1 for a specific fear / phobia
1 for anger management
1 for depression

Self-esteem is very important. It underpins almost every way we live our lives.
How we show up at work.
Low self-esteem can make us very eager to please and therefore good at our jobs. We can have successful careers and seem to have it all - from the outside.
But inside is a different story. It doesn't take much to feel stressed and/or overwhelmed.
When things go wrong we feel responsible or upset, take things personally and may even be overly scared.
Scared of being confronted, shouted at, made to feel stupid or incompetent.
Worried what others will think. catastrophising possible outcomes.
We have learnt how to hide these reactions and put on a brave face.
Internally that fight or flight reaction releases cortisol and other chemicals into our system.
We are not made to keep absorbing these chemicals. They are supposed to give us the strength and power we need to make a fast getaway or grab a stick and fight back - physical activity. This uses up the stress chemicals and the body returns to normal.
This doesn't happen.
The reaction can get triggered on a daily basis.
The chemicals don't dissipate quickly.
They cause unintended harm instead.
Heart tissue damage. Digestive disturbance. Use up physical resources (like vitamins and minerals) that would otherwise be used for fighting germs and sickness or repairing the body.
And cause anxiety.
Once anxiety becomes full-blown a chain reaction happens. Rapid heartbeat, sweating, feelings of dread, stomach ache, diarrhoea, nausea, vomiting, wanting to get away, agitation, inability to relax etc.
We can't just think it away, it becomes harder to handle and seems to hijack our system more often.
Until it causes a breakdown. Which is simply when we run out of physical and mental strength.
A stark warning that we have exceeded our resources.
This can take up to a year to recover from.
It is that serious.
It can happen to anyone but more likely in someone with lower self-esteem. Because they are using up their resources just to get through the day, added stress accelerates the problem.
The mind feels fear, it causes a physical reaction, the physical symptoms reinforce the fear. A vicious cycle.
So how can we 'fix' that.
First, I get them into a session where we do a full body relaxation protocol. The physical system has to calm down first to reduce the symptoms. This doesn't have to involve deep hypnosis.
They also get stress reducing exercises to use whenever they feel overwhelmed.
The second session usually involves a deeper exploration of what the subconscious thinks the problem may be related to (usually early childhood event/s).
Subsequent sessions could be regressions to these ISI's (initial sensitising incidents), resolving past issues.
Once these have been cleared then the self-esteem and confidence building begins.
NO just talking about the problem
NO rehashing of traumatic incidents
NO prolonged, pointless therapy that achieves very little over months
NO conscious resistance getting in the way
YES to the subconscious mind coming up with the best solution for the individual
YES to unlocking the hidden strengths that they were born with!
(OK, so I may use EMDR type techniques to release trauma and anxiety, NLP to help budge physical symptoms, C.B.T based questionnaires, RTT type regressions, Reverse Metaphors, C.M.T protocols etc. But that is just because I've learned a lot over the years and I have a lot of tools in my toolbox! Bite me😁)

08/07/2024

Of 10 people looking for help today:
Only one wants relationship help.
Which is surprising because the numbers are usually higher than that.
Relationships in trouble are common. Individuals are so complex it is a wonder that so many relationships survive. The divorce rate is around 50%, but even more concerning is the breakup rate of non-married couples who have children. Figures from three years ago showed that the percentage of children aged 15 still living with both parents who live together but never married was 15%. So the huge majority of co-habiting, non-married couples with children do not stay together.
Research has also shown that children from stable couples tend to do better socially and academically.
One of the biggest killers of relationships is stress.
I see that all the time.
Well-meaning couples who started off in love, end up looking for help when they can't talk without shouting, being spiteful, selfish, derogatory, pulling away from each other, feeling hopeless and helpless, doubting their love and that of their partner. By that time so much damage has been done to the very fabric of the relationship it is difficult to fix.
Difficult, but not impossible!
Whilst the usual counselling only has a 35% success rate at best, there is another much more successful approach based on real research and years of honing.
AND when that approach is combined with individual hypnotherapy to resolve personal issues (mainly self-esteem and confidence that are implicated in anger management, violence, sexual infidelity, self-sabotage etc) the chance of rescuing the couple increases even more.
All it should take is three months of committed action to make a difference.
Not that long compared to the time it has taken for the relationship to get into a negative state.
I hope to see this approach become the norm in future.
It has so much realistic potential.
Way more than the traditional approach.
If I have one wish, it would be that couples sought help before too much damage is done.
If you are having difficulties in your relationship and would like my free guide outlining the damage signs to look for and how to counteract them, send me a message.
Your children will thank you.

20/06/2024

If you had any questions about hypnosis what would they be?
If could ask a hypnotherapist ANYTHING what would you want to know more about?

Definitely have some of those. Totally impractical but make you feel glam 😁
27/05/2024

Definitely have some of those. Totally impractical but make you feel glam 😁

09/05/2024

So now there is more and more evidence that talking about trauma is not helpful. It may have a limited cathartic effect but this does not reduce the PTSD symptoms.
Therefore, counselling and even C.B.T (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)is very limited in helping.
Talking therapies going over what happened can actually re-traumatise.
Yet this - usually with the addition of sleeping tablets, anti-anxiety or depression meds - is mostly what is prescribed by the NHS.
I hear so often how these meds have not helped. In fact, some of them are addictive. They all have side effects.
If only sufferers were better informed.
They could then make their own decisions on what approach they would prefer.
The most helpful techniques have been found to be hypnotherapy and NLP.
You may be asking why.
Because they do not involve having to talk about the trauma.
A different part of the brain is involved.
Certain techniques allow the person to reprocess the traumatic memories in a way that is dictated by their own subconscious.
PTSD is like the switch is still on and creating anxiety and fear responses.
Once processed, it is like the switch is turned off.
The memories still exist. But they become less reactive and get stored in long-term memory along with all other experiences.
Thereby reducing anxiety, fear and panic.
This also works for guilt and shame. Such as that experienced by people who have been r***d or sexually abused.
Or grief that is still felt like a gut punch after two years of grieving.
And the shock of a nasty breakup or divorce.
Etc.
It doesn't matter how much time has passed since the incident/s.

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We all struggle with current behaviours and thinking patterns affected by our early developmental years. Confidence, aggression, fear, nervousness, physical symptoms, habits, defensiveness, criticism, contempt, superiority, inferiority, lethargy, phobias etc are often rooted in what we learned as babies and small children. The underlying job of the subconscious or basic part of our brain is to keep us safe so we make it to adulthood. Whilst the learning is a natural part of becoming a person, the most influential memories are those attached to emotion. The strongest emotions are attached to trauma (not necessarily physical trauma, but any situation where the fragile self felt threatened). So we have background ‘programs’ playing all the time just below the level of consciousness causing us to react to current situations on outdated mental platforms. Hypnotherapy can access those memory traces and release the attached emotion thereby freeing the person to create new, more relevant ways of reacting to life and situations.

By relaxing the conscious mind through effective hypnotherapeutic techniques, the subconscious can be reconnected and the ‘sting’ taken out of the strong memories underlying negative behaviours. The memory will always be there, but the strong emotive reaction will not. The brain is released from having to be hyper vigilant about perceived similar situations, reducing tension, anxiety and stress.

Disclaimer: Hypnotherapy can be very effective but the outcome is dependent on the clients willingness to ‘let go’ and allow themselves to be hypnotised. Anyone can be hypnotised but the person remains in ultimate control. The hypnotic state is a relaxed but focussed attention, similar to when you are falling asleep or waking and REM sleep states. Unlike ‘mind control’ in movies, you will not do things you ordinarily aren’t comfortable doing. We work alongside you to help you achieve your desired outcomes.