Aligned Mindset- Psychotherapist Counsellor & CBT Hypnotherapist

Aligned Mindset- Psychotherapist Counsellor & CBT Hypnotherapist Supporting women 35+ release anxiety & overwhelm and reconnect with calm, clarity, and self-trust. I offer online one to one sessions on Zoom.

I help with
�Stress
�Anxiety
�Menopause Symptoms
�Insomnia
�Pain Management
�Coping with Cancer
� Phobias
�Habit Reversals
�IBS I work with all age groups. You can contact me today to arrange a No Obligation consultation via Zoom. I am first aid trained, have a safeguarding certificate, have a Enhanced DBS Check, registered for Data Protection and have Professional Indemnity Insurance.

How many of us have asked the question to ourselves “Why can’t I just let it go?”Because trauma isn’t something you simp...
25/07/2025

How many of us have asked the question to ourselves “Why can’t I just let it go?”

Because trauma isn’t something you simply decide to move on from. It’s not about willpower or mindset alone- it’s about what your body and nervous system still carry.

Trauma lives in the body, not just the mind.

That’s why “letting go” isn’t a one-time choice- it’s a gradual process of unwinding what’s been held in tension, fear, or survival mode for so long.

Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting or pretending it didn’t matter. It means creating enough safety, presence, and regulation in your system for your body to finally release what it no longer needs to protect you from.

This takes time.

It happens in waves, not all at once.

And every step forward—even the smallest—is part of your healing.

�You’re moving through layers that were never meant to be carried alone.

Be gentle with your pace.

�You’re not stuck—you’re healing.

The Art of Doing Nothing�In a productivity-driven world, doing nothing can feel radical. But stillness isn’t laziness. I...
23/07/2025

The Art of Doing Nothing

�In a productivity-driven world, doing nothing can feel radical. But stillness isn’t laziness. It’s nourishment. When was the last time you sat without scrolling, without planning, without doing? Even just 10 minutes of non-doing resets the nervous system. It teaches your brain that rest is safe. Schedule moments of stillness today. Stare out the window. Watch the clouds. Listen to silence.

�🌙 Rest is sacred.

“Sound of silence.”


Setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s an act of self-care.If you grew up in an environment where your needs were dismiss...
22/07/2025

Setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s an act of self-care.

If you grew up in an environment where your needs were dismissed or where saying “no” led to guilt, then setting boundaries can feel wrong, even selfish. But boundaries aren’t walls to keep people out—they’re doors that help you stay grounded within yourself.

They protect your peace, your energy, and your emotional safety. They’re how you teach others what’s okay and what’s not. And more importantly, they’re how you remind yourself that your wellbeing matters.

It’s okay to need rest. It’s okay to not answer the call. It’s okay to change your mind.

You’re not here to constantly please others at the cost of your own needs. You’re allowed to choose yourself—lovingly, clearly, and unapologetically.

Mindfulness is Not Perfection�Let’s clear this up: mindfulness isn’t about having no thoughts. It’s about noticing when ...
22/07/2025

Mindfulness is Not Perfection

�Let’s clear this up: mindfulness isn’t about having no thoughts. It’s about noticing when your mind has wandered, and gently bringing it back. Over and over. That is the practice. There’s no such thing as failing at mindfulness.

Every moment of awareness, every time you return to your breath or body, you’re strengthening your presence. It’s okay to be distracted, tired, emotional. You’re human.

Mindfulness gives you space to be with it all.

�💡 Practice progress, not perfection.


Your Breath is Your Anchor�When life feels overwhelming, we often look for something or someone to ground us. But your g...
15/07/2025

Your Breath is Your Anchor
�When life feels overwhelming, we often look for something or someone to ground us. But your greatest tool is always with you—your breath. Mindful breathing isn’t complicated. Try inhaling for 4, holding for 4, and exhaling for 6. Repeat this a few times. Notice how your nervous system begins to soften. That’s your body responding to presence. Breath gives us a pause button. It creates space between stimulus and reaction. When you feel scattered, try whispering to yourself, “I am safe. I am here.” The breath reminds us we’re alive, and that’s enough.
�🌬 Your breath is your calm in the chaos.

“Just breathe.”


Repetition Isn’t Weakness—It’s Your Nervous System Asking for SafetyEver feel like you keep repeating the same patterns—...
15/07/2025

Repetition Isn’t Weakness—It’s Your Nervous System Asking for Safety

Ever feel like you keep repeating the same patterns—shutting down, people-pleasing, overreacting, avoiding?

You’re not broken.�You’re not failing.�And it’s not a character flaw.

What you’re experiencing are protective strategies your nervous system learned a long time ago—often in moments when you didn’t have the support, safety, or tools you needed.

That shutdown? A shield.
�The people-pleasing? A survival tactic.
�The overreaction? A sign your body is detecting danger, even if it’s not logical.
�The avoidance? A way to stay safe from what once felt overwhelming.

These are not signs of weakness or stubbornness.�They are signs of a brilliant nervous system doing its best to protect you.

But here’s the beautiful part
�With time, compassion, and practice, your nervous system can learn new ways of being.

✨ Safety can be learned—even if it’s unfamiliar right now.�✨ Regulation can be built—through breath, connection, presence, and care.�✨ Healing doesn’t mean ‘perfect.’ It means you begin to respond instead of react.

�It means you pause where you once panicked.

�It means different choices become possible.

And those small, different choices?

�They’re how transformation begins.

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The Power of the Present Moment�Have you ever noticed how much time you spend in your head—thinking about the past or wo...
14/07/2025

The Power of the Present Moment

�Have you ever noticed how much time you spend in your head—thinking about the past or worrying about the future?

Mindfulness invites us back to the now, the only place life actually happens.

It doesn’t mean turning off your thoughts, but rather becoming aware of them without judgment.

Try this: close your eyes for 60 seconds and just listen. What do you hear? Maybe the hum of traffic, the birds outside, your own breath. That simple act of presence shifts your state.

The more we practise, the more we realise how rich the present really is. It's not empty—it's full. Full of sensation, emotion, aliveness.�

🧘♀️ Today, breathe deeply, feel your feet on the ground, and come home to now.

😵💫 When Coping Becomes a Way to EscapeCoping mechanisms like scrolling, emotional eating, drinking, or overworking often...
10/07/2025

😵💫 When Coping Becomes a Way to Escape

Coping mechanisms like scrolling, emotional eating, drinking, or overworking often start as ways to manage stress or pain. But when these habits become constant, they can shift from short-term relief to long-term numbing.

If you find yourself turning to distractions when you’re anxious, overwhelmed, or disconnected, it may be your nervous system’s way of protecting you from deeper emotions or unmet needs.

These behaviours aren’t failures — they’re survival strategies. But over time, numbing can leave you feeling even more distant from yourself, your emotions, and others.

Therapy can help you explore what’s underneath — not with shame, but with curiosity and compassion. Together, you can build healthier ways to cope, rooted in awareness and self-kindness.

You don’t need to “have it all together” to ask for help. Reaching out is a powerful first step toward healing.

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✋ “I Should Be Over This By Now” — Let’s Reframe ThatIf you’ve ever thought, “I should be over this by now…” — pause for...
10/07/2025

✋ “I Should Be Over This By Now” — Let’s Reframe That

If you’ve ever thought, “I should be over this by now…” — pause for a moment.
�That voice? That’s not your truth speaking.
�That’s shame.
�That’s the internalised belief that healing has a deadline, or that you’re somehow failing for still feeling pain.

But the truth is: healing takes time.

- �Especially when the wounds are deep.
- �Especially when you had to survive them alone.
�- Especially when you didn’t have the safety, support, or language to process what happened.

Trauma recovery isn’t linear. You may revisit the same feelings more than once.

�That doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re human.

You’re not late. You’re not behind.
�Your nervous system is learning something it never got to feel before:
�Safety. Connection. Compassion.

Real strength isn’t rushing past pain—it’s sitting with it, meeting it with care, and choosing to stay kind to yourself along the way.

That’s not weakness.

�That’s courage. 💛

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🚷 When Relationships Keep Repeating the Same PatternsDo your relationships seem to follow the same painful script, no ma...
09/07/2025

🚷 When Relationships Keep Repeating the Same Patterns
Do your relationships seem to follow the same painful script, no matter how hard you try to change? Maybe you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, overextend yourself to keep the peace, or swing between closeness and withdrawal.

These patterns aren’t random — they often reflect early relational experiences or unconscious beliefs about love, safety, and self-worth. Sometimes, we recreate what’s familiar, even when it hurts, because it feels known or “normal.”

You might find yourself stuck in cycles of emotional distance, fear of vulnerability, or caretaking others at the cost of yourself. It’s frustrating, exhausting — and it’s not your fault.

Therapy can help you explore these patterns with curiosity, not shame. By understanding what drives them, you can begin to set boundaries, build self-trust, and move toward more secure and fulfilling relationships.

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🧸 Trauma Can Happen in Childhood Without Obvious Abuse�Not all trauma is loud.�It’s not always caused by yelling, violen...
09/07/2025

🧸 Trauma Can Happen in Childhood Without Obvious Abuse

�Not all trauma is loud.�It’s not always caused by yelling, violence, or chaos.

Sometimes, trauma comes from what was missing.

�From growing up in homes where-

* Emotions weren’t welcomed or were shamed
* Love had to be earned through perfection, silence, or compliance
* You had to be the responsible one, the peacemaker, or the invisible child
* You were left to manage big feelings alone

You might not have bruises or memories of shouting—but you carry the quiet weight of never feeling fully safe, seen, or supported.

�That’s trauma, too. It’s called developmental or emotional trauma, and it can shape your beliefs, relationships, and sense of self well into adulthood.

�Your pain doesn’t have to be dramatic to be valid.

�You deserve to heal—even from what others never noticed or acknowledged.
�You’re allowed to take up space. 💛

🌀 When You Feel Numb, Disconnected, or EmptyHave you ever felt emotionally flat, disconnected from others, or like you'r...
08/07/2025

🌀 When You Feel Numb, Disconnected, or Empty

Have you ever felt emotionally flat, disconnected from others, or like you're going through the motions without truly being present? That sense of emotional numbness or emptiness isn't something to brush aside — it's often your mind and body’s way of protecting you from overwhelm.

Numbness is not a sign of weakness or failure. In fact, it can be a powerful indicator that your nervous system is overloaded or that you're carrying unprocessed pain, stress, or trauma. When we feel too much for too long, sometimes our systems shut down to cope — creating that “blank” or distant feeling.

You might not cry, you might not feel joy, or you might find it hard to connect to people and things you used to care about. This isn’t laziness, and it’s not just burnout. It’s a survival response.

Therapy can help you gently reconnect — to your feelings, your body, your needs, and your sense of self. You don’t have to stay in survival mode forever.

Support is available, and healing is possible.

Even feeling “nothing” is a valid reason to reach out.

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About Me

I work with Children, young people and adults in Pinner and surrounding areas who have identified that they have some challenges or are feeling stuck in their life and want to make changes.

I offer one to one sessions from Therapy rooms in Ruilsip , North West London. I use the skills of NLP/CBT, Mindfullness and Hypnotherapy. I am a certified Master NLP Practitioner & Coach; Certified Master in Hypnosis; Certified Master Coach in Time Line Therapy. I am a professional member of the ANLP (The Association of NLP) You can contact me today to arrange a No Obligation consultation at Therapy Rooms in Windmill Studio in Ruislip. I am first aid trained, have a Enhanced DBS Check, registered for Data Protection and have Professional Indemnity Insurance.