The Lilac Room with Wish

30/01/2026

30/01/2026

Law of Attraction Tuition is still available, via WhatsApp call or video.

If you need help, I am still in your corner - even if my corner is now in Scotland 😉

What's it like in your head?

How does it feel, when you're in there?

When it's just "you" and "you"

What do you hear?

Is your head a safe, warm, comfy space to hang out in?
Somewhere you can go when you need kindness, support, encouragement and reassurance?

It should be.
It can be.

So many of us accidentally end up with a harsh, critical inner voice. It's not supposed to be that way. That "punishing parent" voice got in there by mistake, and took root. It doesn't make you a better version of yourself, it doesn't make you more productive, it doesn't make you happy.
It brings misery and depression to the brain space that should be your sanctuary.

Most of us need to relearn how to be kind to ourselves, later in life.

It takes time to untangle the familiar patterns of thinking woven with criticism, guilt, fear and harsh judgement. But when they're loosened, you have room to breathe, to just "be", to take up ALL of your space without fear.

What you hear, in your mind, matters.
It sets the tone, it dictates where your shoulders sit, it affects your tone of voice, your choices through the day, and how well you sleep.

We say things to ourselves that we would NEVER say to another person. Mean, harsh, power stealing things. Why is that ok?
It's not.

Did you know you can have a mindspace makeover?
How would it feel if you knew you could always rely on your mind to make you feel better? Safe? Supported? Good enough?

I'm not talking pompous, everyone look at me, grandiose showboating - I mean the quiet, humble, self assured happiness that comes with feeling emotionally safe with your self.

Being at peace with your self means you no longer haemorrhage endless energy trying to be the right version of you, in the right mask.

Having a safe mindspace means you can always take a minute, top up on the good stuff, and move forward feeling better.

Counselling, here, is all about helping you rearrange your mindspace with soft throws and plush cushions, so it feels like a safe space for you.

"Doing the work" means you can smile at yourself in the mirror.

Ending the unkindness between you, and you, means you'll have peace which spreads through every aspect of your life.

We have amazing brains. But they don't come with a manual. When you get the hang of using yours for maximum goodness, challenges get easier, you bounce back faster, and you have more courage and energy.

Counselling here is about helping you find the real you. It's about helping you find self acceptance, compassion, and celebrating your victories.

Feel safe with your self.

Life is supposed to feel good.
And that starts with what you think, what you believe and how you feel. All of those things are up for change and YOU have the power to change them. You just need to know how.

Let's get started.

Appointments are available at Rockbank, Ardrishaig, PA30 8EU, or online, Mon to Friday.

How do you want to feel, when you look in the mirror?

30/01/2026

Weekend challenge!!!!

I'm throwing down the gauntlet....

The Wish at Rockbank weekend challenge should you choose to accept it is......

Do something really silly and/or really fun 🙌
It might be the stayin' alive dance
It might be pulling a daft face in the mirror
It might be trying mini golf with a friend
Visiting a restaurant and just ordering dessert
Wearing a fancy hat to the supermarket
Indulging in a comedy boxed set
Ride the big wheel on the pier
Paddle in the chilly loch.

Doing something that makes you smile lifts your mood. It just does. And doing fun things on purpose can get lost in all the adulting.
Don't let your fun get lost.

You don't have to take a picture, but I'd love to see it if you do

How much fun can you have this weekend??

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20/01/2026

What a special place this is ❤️

20/01/2026

Work on the Retreat began on saturday with the installation of a new dishwasher and freezer. The new washing machine is next for fitting.

It's a huge cleaning job but it's much better in there now the septic tank problem 😷 has been resolved 😬

It's gone from smelling decidedly dodgy, to smelling beautifully of wild rhubarb 🤗

The glorious iron spiral staircase is going to take a while.. I got from the top, to 4 steps off the bottom. It will look fab with a new coat of paint.

The kitchen cupboards got a good scrub inside and out and work on the cooker began.

It's tricky not to get distracted and just gaze out of the windows 😄

Still half the kitchen to clean, then the bathroom and main living space. Everywhere needs a coat of fresh paint. But we've made good progress.

It will be fab to have the Retreat up and running. Hopefully, towards the end of Feb.

20/01/2026

Work on the annex Retreat has started 😄

14/01/2026

Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and imagine...
...how do you want to feel?

More relaxed?
Energised?
More organised?
Lighter, less worried?
Do you want to laugh more?
Feel like your old/younger self again?
Do you want to remember who you really are?
Perhaps you want to throw off old misplaced guilt.
Maybe you want to confidently take up ALL your space.
Or press pause on an exhausting cycle of rumination.
Do you need to reparent a wounded inner child?
Or learn to truly, deeply, love and accept yourSELF?

When you close your eyes and reach for a feeling of relief, where do you feel that, in your body?
Do you feel a softening in your shoulders? Your belly?

So many of us are "walking wounded", carrying emotional burdens that sap our energy and drain our happiness.

It's true that you are the World's Leading Authority on You.
Nobody knows you, better than you do.

But the brain is a pattern loving machine.
We think the same thoughts over and over, comforted by familiarity, even when the familiar is uncomfortable.

Trying to think your way out of difficulty on your own is like shaking a ping pong ball inside a box.
Your thoughts bounce off the same surfaces - there is nowhere new to go, because you only know what you know. It's all familiar territory.

That's where the therapeutic space comes into its own. Together, we can pry open the side of the box so your ping pong ball can bounce off a new surface. You can find new thoughts - like a breath of fresh air for your thinking 🤔 and problem solving.

Together, we can open the door to new thinking, free the ping pong ball of rumination and break new ground.

So - when you close your eyes and take a deep breath, how do YOU want to feel?
Welcome to Talk Therapy.

If you'd like to get started on finding your happiness, breaking free from trauma, or simply finding peace and building a better, kinder relationship with yourSELF, it would be my pleasure to walk beside you, and show you the way forward.

Wish at Rockbank, in Ardrishaig, opens for in person appointments on 2nd February.
If you're too far away or can't travel, we can work over whatsapp call or video. You're welcome to message to book your space.

50 minutes. £28.
Because life is supposed to feel good.

12/01/2026

A whirlwind weekend in London, for Cirque. With a hotel room close enough to see Fortnums and hear the clock chimes 🤗

Treats, window shopping, and fantastic food 😋

12 hours of travel from home to London.
Almost back now.... just another couple of hours in the car. Jeepers Ardrishaig is a long way up 😬

Making the most of my last couple of weeks as a mostly UNselfemployed person 😁

The online counselling is keeping the engine warm while we assemble furniture and get the new room ship shape.

07/01/2026

Do you feel seen?

It's a rarity, for many people, to feel truly seen. To be allowed, encouraged, to take up ALL the space. Just you.

For once, it's ok that it's all about you, that you get to be however you need to be, without fear of judgement or misstep.

That's what space here is about.
Space for you.
Free of worry, anxiety, overthinking, or guilt.

You deserve to be seen.
Welcome, to Wish at Rockbank.

We open for in person appointments in February.
Until then, counselling is available via WhatsApp call or WhatsApp video. Appointments are 50 minutes and cost £28

05/01/2026

It's impossible not to love this place.

Harwich is beautiful, with it's beach and lighthouse, but Ardrishaig is next level.

The water is so clear, the air is the same. It's like having a hug from Mother Earth.

We live surrounded by distractions in our modern world. Mobile phones, TV, the news reaching out for our attention. It's easy to forget to allow yourself room to breathe, to be still, to listen to the water, the trees, the birds.

Just taking the time to look at a flowering w**d in the garden will do.

It would be a shame to get to the end of your journey and realise you missed the beauty, and the healing it holds for you.

Make the time if you can.

05/01/2026

Last night's moon looked HUGE as it came up over Lochgilphead. Like a fabulous wheel of cheese 😋

We are on week 5 of living in Scotland, and things are starting to fall into place. We met some lovely people yesterday who helped us send (what felt like) 8 million Pickfords boxes to new work assignments 🙌

We still have sorting and unpacking to do, but we are loving it here.

We are still getting the hang of village life here. I used to think 30min to Colchester was a long run for groceries! Now it's an hour and ten to Oban Tesco.
But the views make it worthwhile

This was the view over the garden wall at 5.45pm yesterday.
What a treat to see a bright, beautiful shooting star arcing across the sky as I was heading back inside to defrost my toes ✨️

05/01/2026

I always feel sad to pack away the sparkle of Christmas.

But I love knowing it will all be waiting for me again at the other end of the year

This Tree has been lighting the window of the new work space at Rockbank, and we are getting ready to open our doors in Scotland in just a few weeks time.

The new desk is assembled, the couch is in place, the big comfy armchairs have their soft throws on. It won't be long now.