Havening and Amnanda with Gudrun Wiedemann

17/02/2026

16/02/2026

I like this post - we can have lots of relational skills, yet if we are not able to assess relationship dynamics, we might be going round and round, thinking we need to try harder.
Being in relationships dynamics that support nervous systems regulation is key. .. is your partner willing to be influenced by what they hear? Or do they need to be right?
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13/02/2026

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11/02/2026

Trauma has become a new "buzz word"and finally opens up more conversations and understanding. Neuro science has made incredible advances and brought more understanding to why people respond in "seemingly unlogical ways", and yes, even how we can help reset a dysregulated nervous system, that drives those stuck old, no longer helpful survival mechanisms. (this is Havening Techniques super power)
And whilst there are endless studies and a deep understanding that safety needs to be restored, so the nervous system can experience safety, and start resetting, many countries' policies still hang on to the idea that if " they had stronger will power, they would not be in this situation". Willpower vs survival, - survival will win, because it overrides other brain function - this is what neuro science tells us, this is how the brain is designed, it isn't a personal weakness, or a lack of willpower.
Cudos to Finland to implement a system that is based on the reality of deeply traumatized people. Safety first, a safe place to stay, support... . There is a strong correlation between addiction, chronic illness and trauma, and focusing on the underlying issues helps people to find a foothold, and this is crucial to their recovery.





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08/02/2026

So powerful - going slowly keeps us in touch with our body, what is happening and allows us to process rather than overloading the nervous system again. ... and of course adding a few minutes of self-havening supports nervous system regulation and in turn our ability to make good decisions for ourselves.

01/02/2026

Nervous system resilience helps us to stay calm and focused when things are challenging. It allows us to respond rather than react.
Besides reducing or eliminating triggers in Havening sessions, Havening is an amazing tool clients can use outside of sessions - regular self-havening has been shown to build nervous system resilience.
Havening is a simple, yet highly effective technique that works directly with the body and nervous system. It utilises touch to the palms, the upper arms or the face.
Experiencing is believing.

31/01/2026

Nervous system regulation is a complex topic, and for all of us the foundations are laid in childhood. Babies and young children can not self- regulate their ns. They rely on the calm and composure of the adults around them to navigate stressful situations. If we have not had caregivers that could hold space for the emotional overwhem we experienced in our childhood, we have a disadvantage, and often an uphill struggle.
There are layers of work to unravel, such as "that there is nothing wrong with us", "that all emotions are welcome, and are safe to be felt"... and there is the ns itself, and here Havening can be a vital tool. The havening touch communicates to the body, that we are safe, and this helps the ns to become more regulated. A few sessions can help a client to address some past impactful events and start a practice of regular self- havening, which has shown to build ns resilience.
If you like to find out more, do get in touch.

26/01/2026

Below is a post from Trauma Aware America that resonated very much with the work I am offering. I wanted a different image with their sharings

"The idea that “comfort is the enemy of growth” misunderstands how human nervous systems actually work.

From an Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) lens, growth, change, and learning do not happen by relentlessly pushing past comfort alone. They happen when the nervous system is regulated enough to tolerate challenge.

If someone is chronically stressed or dysregulated, forcing them into discomfort doesn’t produce growth; it overloads their system, shuts down connection, and strengthens survival adaptations instead of adaptive learning.

True growth arises in the window of tolerance, a space where the nervous system is alert but not overwhelmed, engaged but not terrified. The place that yoga instructor Lilias Folan calls "sweet discomfort."

Comfort isn’t the enemy; unsafe or unsupported experiences are. Comfort provides the relational and physiological safety needed to explore, integrate, and expand. Without safety, discomfort becomes trauma, not growth.

So the mantra that we must suffer to improve is misleading. From an IPNB perspective, sustainable growth is about balancing challenge with attuned support, predictable environment, and embodied regulation, not glorifying hardship for its own sake.

The “comfort is the enemy of growth” idea feeds directly into a culture that separates us from ourselves. When society glorifies pushing past discomfort, it trains people to ignore their bodily signals, emotions, and relational needs to override the nervous system’s cues. We disconnect when we stop listening to ourselves. We numb or rationalize, and mistake endurance or achievement for mastery.

In this culture, stress is a virtue, and internal signals of overwhelm are considered weakness. People learn to dissociate from their own sensations, feelings, and rhythms, which weakens self-awareness and regulation. Growth becomes something imposed externally rather than arising from attuned engagement with your own system.

The nervous system can’t integrate experiences or develop resilience when we’re chronically ignoring its feedback; instead, it stores tension, fear, and fragmentation.

The myth of “comfort is the enemy of growth” isn’t neutral. It’s a tool of a culture that prizes hierarchy, achievement, and productivity over embodied presence and connection. Real growth happens not by rejecting comfort but by creating environments where our systems feel safe enough to explore, tolerate challenge, and reconnect with ourselves."

To put this into context of Havening sessions, Havening Touch creates Delta Brain Waves, which signal to the body that we are safe. This embodied felt of safety is the basis where gentle yet profound change can happen.

20/01/2026

Balance is important in life...
One of the things that bring balance to my life is glass fusing. If you like to follow what I am creating than please follow my newly created instagram account, as this has gotten a life on its own and become a bit more than just a hobby.
I will be at the Midhurst Meraki Market offering my creations to brighten your garden and home., 14th March 26.
https://www.instagram.com/glassartbygudrun/
Bellow is a sneak preview.
What supports your work and life balance?

12/01/2026

Sadly, "having to do it alone" is a common trauma imprint when we experienced relational trauma... or there was no support from those close to us after other trauna. It keeps those affected locked in a dynamic where there seems no help.
Being aware that this is a common trauma imprint can help people to reach out another time.
Havening goes beyond logical understanding, and targets the parts of the brain that sound the alarm based on past traumatic experiences, even so we are safe in the here and now.
A single Havening session can be a game changer to break the negative downwards spiral of (C)-PTSD.
Give me a call if you like to find out more.