13/12/2017
I had a message today from a recently bereaved mum simply asking; “Will I survive Christmas?” So I told her the truth. I’m no expert, I said, but I have survived 5 festive periods. It’s tough, it rips your heart out and stamps on it a million times. You want to scream when you hear Fairy Tale of New York for the millionth time and your breath is taken by Carol singers! However, you do survive, become stronger and once it’s over you subconsciously pat yourself on the back. The lead up to Christmas is the worse, the actual day is ok. Remember every day is hard so one day isn’t going to beat you. Time doesn’t heal - healing gives you the idea the pain goes away!! Time helps, time soothes and time eases the pain but it never goes completely and nor would you want it to.. Make Christmas different. Start new traditions and make new memories. Be prepared that this brings a heart filled with guilt but you slowly learn how to deal with that. Take time out to remember - I will make sure on the 25th of December I will sit and blub and shout out why???? It’s the 6th year this year without my boys - another Christmas without George opening his stocking and Paul burning the carrots! I will smile and laugh with my children and my beautiful family whilst remembering what I’ve lost but also have a glass or two of fizz, play trivia pursuit and charades and balance the guilt with laughter. Like I said - I survived and you will too! Rhian xx