Plain Sailing Therapies

27/02/2026

26/02/2026

If you are having difficulty with realising your own self worth, I can help you process this by:

- Understanding how your life experience has impacted your mindset, and how you can reframe this experience to change your perspective

- Helping you recognise any triggers which elicit unwanted protective behaviours, and replace this with an innate self-confidence

- Working through the things which are, or which are not acceptable to you, so that you can instil healthy boundaries effectively, and naturally.

- Enabling you to find peace with your decision making, as well as your reactions and responses, by teaching you thought control techniques to manage any limiting beliefs or fears.

- Awakening a real joy in being able to be your authentic self, always, so that you can easily identify and communicate what it is that you need to conduct meaningful and happy relationships with friends, family, colleagues, and significant others.

If this sounds like a realisation that you would like to achieve, I offer a free no-obligation discovery call.
DM me to schedule what could be a life-changing process for you.

25/02/2026

Once we are able to understand, analyse, and process the reasons why we experience feelings of low self-worth, we are able to make these a part of our conscious thinking.

When we are able to reframe our conscious thoughts, we can change how we feel, which then impacts how we act, and all those consistent actions then become instilled as a new self -belief.

I use specialised therapy techniques to enable my clients to reach the point of realising their sense of self-worth, regardless of the reasons as to why this state of mind was created.

This is then a springboard to leading a purposeful life. When we feel that we are fulfilling our purpose, that is when the necessary changes in our thinking become permanent.

24/02/2026

23/02/2026

Reaching a point of loving who we truly are requires critical analysis of how we think and behave.

Self love without self-awareness is useless, We need to be accountable, always.

If you need help in reaching this clarity, please get in touch.

20/02/2026

19/02/2026

It feels good to be praised, to have our feelings affirmed, to be told that we did a good job and to feel appreciated.

It is entirely normal to want validation from others, our family, partner, boss or friends. Issues arise when we seek this to an unhealthy level, when we rely on others to make us feel good about ourselves. We begin to doubt ourselves if we are not receiving explicit feedback that we are doing well. We question our worth if others don't value us.

Relying on external validation to this extent can cause anxiety and depression, and a total lack of self-confidence - this in turn causes us to make mistakes and have difficulty concentrating. Disapproval and criticism are especially painful because we place so much emphasis on other people's opinions.

There is also a very big risk that we fall prey to narcissistic individuals who recognise opportunities to control the minds of those who need external validation

Learning to self-validate takes work if we want to prevent the cycle of allowing others to determine or dictate our worth.

The process includes:

Encouraging ourselves
Acknowledging our strengths, successes, progress and effort
Noticing and accepting our feelings
Prioritising our own needs
Accepting our flaws, limitations and mistakes

Make this the season to do just that - do what YOU love...comparing yourself to others is not validation. Minimising or denying your needs and feelings, perfectionism and judging yourself harshly are not acts of self-validation.

17/02/2026

Self-validation is essential for our authenticity.

If we are unable to do this, we cannot validate others by understanding their experiences. We do not have to have had the same experience to validate someone else's feelings, we just need to understand and accept their feelings.

When we learn to self-validate, we no longer rely solely on external validation by associating with people who are potentially not good for us, or need to create an image of ourselves by acquiring material possessions to represent our success.

Being unashamedly authentic and transparent has the following impact:

- We facilitate the same from others.
- Communication is easy as honesty and respect are the basis of how we relate to others.
- Relationships develop with trust and openness.
- Supportive networks enable healthy self-discovery and personal development.

This can only happen if we have processed our life-experience in such a away that self-validation is a by product of that process.

I help clients do this on a daily basis, with life-changing success. Get in touch to see if I can do the same for you.

16/02/2026

Validation from others communicates an acceptance, and as humans, having the basic need of belonging met, is an acknowledgment of our value. Feedback from others that what we are experiencing is normal or makes sense, lets us know that we are thinking and feeling in understandable ways.

However, when we rely solely on validation from others, we may lose sight of our own internal experience and fail to recognise the impact that this has on our lives.

Self-validation is vital for the management of our own feelings. It is the step that comes before self-compassion. Acknowledging that our internal experience exists, and is understandable comes before self-kindness.

When we self-validate, we build our identity. We are able to exhibit our values, patterns and choices with ease. This in turn, helps us to validate others by reflection.

Putting this into practise can be extremely difficult, especially if we have not processed our internal or interpersonal experiences.

This is something that I can definitely help with.

13/02/2026

13/02/2026