30/08/2025
Being a Scorpio I was an easy target. Even those who are not narcissistic but want to manipulate opinion and situations do this.
Female Narcissists will manipulate you into thinking you're the narcissist, because when you're triggered you yell, get frustrated, or express anger, she spins it to her advantage. This reaction, known as Reactive Abuse, is exactly what she’s been waiting for—it’s a calculated setup, not an accident. She understands human emotion well enough to provoke responses in others and then twist those responses to fit her narrative. When you finally reach a breaking point and express your true feelings—anger, frustration, hurt—she frames it as though you are the one with the problem, the one who’s unstable or abusive.
She then takes this moment and projects it outward, telling anyone who will listen, “You see! He’s the one abusing me!” People observing from the outside, who only see your reaction and not the provocations that led to it, are easily convinced by this story. In her eyes, your genuine emotional response becomes the proof she needs to appear blameless, righteous, and victimized. This isn’t just about winning arguments; it’s about controlling perception, manipulating reality, and isolating you from support. She wants to erode your credibility, undermine your confidence, and make you question your own memory and instincts, leaving you feeling guilty for merely being human.
Over time, this pattern chips away at your sense of reality. You begin to question yourself constantly: Was I really overreacting? Am I really the problem here? And all the while, she maintains the appearance of innocence and composure, skillfully turning your natural reactions into her ammunition. Understanding this dynamic is crucial, because once you see the pattern clearly, you can separate your own truth from her manipulations, protect your mental and emotional well-being, and refuse to be drawn into the trap of reactive guilt.