28/11/2025
If you’re anything like the parents I work with, you’re already doing so much right.
You speak gently. You validate their feelings. You’re learning the language of co-regulation and staying calm, even when everything inside you is screaming 💔
And still, your child can’t face school. 😭
Because this isn’t just about behaviour. Or even just anxiety.
School avoidance touches something deep in them, and often in us too.
For many parents, it brushes up against unhealed parts of their own childhood. Messages around success, pressure, or pushing through, shaped by their experiences of school, or what was expected at home.
So when your child says they can’t face school, it hits your nervous system and stirs up fear, guilt, or urgency to fix.
That’s why parenting through EBSA is so much more than strategies or scripts. Because if your nervous system is still wired for survival, even your calm might carry tension your child can feel.
Gentle parenting is so much more effective when it’s supported by inner work. When we can gently notice what’s ours to hold, and what isn’t 🫶
When we show up with self-awareness, not just softness.
This is hard work. But it’s the work that changes things ❤️
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