Serenity of Mind Therapy

Serenity of Mind Therapy Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy Practice with clinics in Haywards Heath, West Sussex and Crowborough, East Sussex. Hello, I’m Kevin.

Following a 20-year+ career working in Product Management and Human Resources in mostly large private and public sector organisations in Sussex and Surrey, I retrained to become a therapist and founded Serenity of Mind Therapy. I am a qualified psychodynamic counsellor/therapist with a BACP accredited diploma in psychodynamic counselling and a BSc (Hons) in Psychology, offering online and face-to-

face sessions for those experiencing all kinds of issues from relationship difficulties, grief, depression and anxiety, all the way to complex PTSD from trauma and childhood sexual, psychological and physical abuse. I am passionate about helping and guiding clients toward greater fulfilment and progress on their journey toward resolution, healing and growth, aligning with my practice name – Serenity of Mind. I deeply value the transformative potential of counselling and therapy, which is rooted in my own firsthand experiences. During my three-year training, I embarked on a personal therapeutic journey, which underscored the importance of finding someone who provided a safe, supportive and confidential space. My aim is to build an accepting and trusting relationship where you can openly and honestly talk and explore your feelings, thoughts, behaviours and concerns without judgement. I feel creating such an environment is crucial when navigating our inner landscapes and especially when exploring complex issues like historical trauma or various forms of abuse. I recognise the significance of delving into the underlying causes of your struggles and offer compassionate support as we explore and unravel the complexities together that may be contributing to your distress and impacting your life currently. Through a blend of insight, analysis, and compassionate support, I provide a space where you can feel both understood and challenged. My counselling room in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, is based within historic Oathall House, set within peaceful grounds with private parking and bathroom facilities. This location is approximately 10 minutes from junction 10a on the M23, a 20-minute drive from Crawley and a 30-minute drive from Brighton. It is also well located for residents of Burgess Hill, Horsham, East Grinstead, Hassocks, Hurstpierpoint, Ditchling and other Mid-Sussex towns and villages. My counselling room in Crowborough, East Sussex, is based within the modern Basepoint business centre, with waiting area, bathroom facilities and free parking available in the Waitrose car park next door (up to three hours). This location is approximately a 10-minute drive from Tunbridge Wells on the A26, a 15-minute drive from Uckfield and a 20-minute drive from East Grinstead. It is also well located for residents of Rotherfield, Mayfield, Wadhurst, Nutley, Maresfield, Buxted, Newick, Forest Row, Heathfield and other High Weald area towns and villages.

😬 Constant worry isn’t always loud, sometimes it’s just… always there.That background hum of “what if?”The mind that won...
13/04/2026

😬 Constant worry isn’t always loud, sometimes it’s just… always there.

That background hum of “what if?”
The mind that won’t quite switch off.
The feeling that something isn’t right, even when everything looks fine.

From a nervous system point of view, this makes a lot of sense.

When the world has felt uncertain or overwhelming, the mind learns to stay one step ahead, scanning, predicting, preparing. The problem is, it doesn’t always know when to stop.

In my latest blog, I explore Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD), not just what it is, but what might sit beneath it, and why worry can feel so difficult to let go of.

And perhaps more importantly, how therapy can help you begin to relate to anxiety differently, not by forcing it away, but by understanding it. Read more here:

👉 https://serenityofmindtherapy.com/2026/04/09/generalised-anxiety-disorder-gad/

If any of this resonates, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

I’m a UK-based psychodynamic counsellor and registered member (MBACP) of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), offering online and in-person therapy in Crowborough, East Sussex, and Haywards Heath, West Sussex.






Explore Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD), why worry becomes constant, and how therapy can help you understand and manage anxiety.

😶‍🌫️ Family issues aren’t always loud.Sometimes they’re subtle.A pause before you speak.A familiar tension in your chest...
06/04/2026

😶‍🌫️ Family issues aren’t always loud.

Sometimes they’re subtle.
A pause before you speak.
A familiar tension in your chest.
That sense of becoming a slightly different version of yourself around certain people… without quite knowing why.

Most of us like to think we’ve “grown out of” our family dynamics.

But the truth is, they have a habit of quietly growing with us.

In my latest blog, I explore how family relationships shape our emotional world, how patterns, expectations, and unspoken roles can follow us into adulthood, influencing how we relate, react, and sometimes… retreat.

Not to blame.
Not to diagnose the Christmas table.

But to understand what’s ours, what isn’t, and where we might begin to loosen the grip of old dynamics. Read more here:

👉 https://serenityofmindtherapy.com/2026/04/02/family-issues-in-adulthood/

If any of this resonates, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

I’m a UK-based psychodynamic therapist and registered member (MBACP) of the BACP, offering online and in-person counselling in Crowborough, East Sussex, and Haywards Heath, West Sussex.




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Family issues can shape how we think, feel, and relate to others long into adulthood. This blog explores family dynamics, emotional patterns, and boundaries.

😶 Low self-confidence isn’t always loud, often, it’s quietly running in the background.Most people I work with aren’t la...
30/03/2026

😶 Low self-confidence isn’t always loud, often, it’s quietly running in the background.

Most people I work with aren’t lacking ability…they’re living with an internal voice that questions, second-guesses, or holds them back.

What if I get it wrong?
What if I’m not good enough?
What if people see through me?

From a psychodynamic point of view, this makes a lot of sense. Self-confidence isn’t something we’re simply born with (or without). It’s shaped over time, through relationships, experiences, and the way we were responded to when we were younger. When confidence has felt fragile, criticised, or conditional, something in us learns to stay cautious. To hold back. To not quite trust ourselves.

In my latest blog, I explore low self-confidence through a psychodynamic lens, read more here:

👉 https://serenityofmindtherapy.com/2026/03/29/low-self-confidence-trusting-yourself/

If any of this resonates, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

I’m a UK-based psychodynamic therapist and registered member (MBACP) of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), offering online and in-person therapy in Crowborough, East Sussex, and Haywards Heath, West Sussex.





Explore the roots of low self-confidence. Psychodynamic insights to help you build self-worth, understand inner criticism, and feel more secure in yourself.

🌈 “I’m fine.”It’s one of the most common phrases I hear in therapy… and often one of the least accurate.For many LGBTQIA...
23/03/2026

🌈 “I’m fine.”

It’s one of the most common phrases I hear in therapy… and often one of the least accurate.

For many LGBTQIA+ clients, “fine” can carry a quiet history of editing, adapting, or holding parts of themselves back to stay safe, accepted, or simply not questioned.

Not always consciously. Not always dramatically. But consistently enough that it becomes familiar.

In my latest blog, I explore LGBTQIA+ counselling through a psychodynamic lens, looking at identity, shame, relationships, and the subtle ways we learn to manage ourselves in the world. And perhaps more importantly, what it can feel like to no longer have to. Read more here:

👉 https://serenityofmindtherapy.com/2026/03/19/lgbtqia-counselling/

Therapy isn’t about fixing who you are. It’s about understanding how you came to feel you needed fixing in the first place. And gently, at your own pace, finding your way back to something more whole.

If any of this resonates, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

I’m a UK-based psychodynamic therapist and registered member (MBACP) of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), offering online and in-person therapy in Crowborough, East Sussex, and Haywards Heath, West Sussex.






LGBTQIA+ counselling offers a safe, affirming space to explore identity, relationships, self-acceptance and feeling more at home in yourself.

🧛‍♀️ The thing about demons is… they rarely stay politely in the grave.With Buffy the Vampire Slayer revival making head...
16/03/2026

🧛‍♀️ The thing about demons is… they rarely stay politely in the grave.

With Buffy the Vampire Slayer revival making headlines, I’ve found myself reflecting on why the show resonated so deeply for so many of us. Yes, there were vampires, witty one-liners, and an impressive quantity of wooden stakes. But beneath all that was something far more psychologically interesting.

Buffy was never really just about monsters.

It was about grief.
Identity.
Loneliness.
Growing up before you feel ready.

In psychodynamic terms, the monsters in Buffy work beautifully as metaphors for the parts of ourselves we’d rather not face, fear, shame, trauma, vulnerability. The things we try to keep buried… but which have an annoying habit of returning. Read more in my latest blog here:

👉 https://serenityofmindtherapy.com/2026/03/12/why-buffy-the-vampire-slayer-matters/

Buffy the Vampire Slayer is surprisingly rich territory for psychodynamic thinking, and why the idea of “facing our demons” is more than just a television trope. Because in therapy, the work is rarely about slaying our inner demons. More often, it’s about understanding them.

If any of this resonates with you, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

I’m a UK-based psychodynamic therapist and registered member (MBACP) of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), offering online and in-person therapy in Crowborough, East Sussex, and Haywards Heath, West Sussex.





A blog about why Buffy the Vampire Slayer isn’t just cult TV, it’s full of psychodynamic themes about trauma, identity, resilience and facing inner demons.

Ever catch yourself thinking: “Do I really need therapy?” 😬You’re not alone. Many clients start by noticing small things...
09/03/2026

Ever catch yourself thinking: “Do I really need therapy?” 😬

You’re not alone. Many clients start by noticing small things: overthinking conversations, repeating relationship patterns, emotional highs and lows, or simply feeling stuck.

Psychodynamic therapy doesn’t just treat crises, it explores why these patterns exist, often tracing back to experiences that shaped how we cope, connect, and survive. Sometimes the solution isn’t “fixing” yourself, but understanding yourself. I explore this more in my latest blog, which you can read here:

👉 https://serenityofmindtherapy.com/2026/03/05/how-do-you-know-if-you-need-therapy/

If you’ve ever been curious whether therapy could help you, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

I’m a UK-based psychodynamic therapist and registered member (MBACP) of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), offering online and in-person therapy in Crowborough, East Sussex, and Haywards Heath, West Sussex.





Not sure if you need therapy? This psychodynamic blog explores the signs, from overthinking and repeating patterns to feeling stuck or emotionally overwhelmed.

😬 Our feelings aren’t usually the problem — our relationship with them is.Many of the reactions we struggle with as adul...
02/03/2026

😬 Our feelings aren’t usually the problem — our relationship with them is.

Many of the reactions we struggle with as adults don’t belong to the present moment at all. They belong to younger parts of us, an inner child who learned to stay quiet, or an inner teenager who learned to push back, withdraw, or protect themselves fiercely.

In my latest blog, I explore the inner child and the often-overlooked inner teenager, and how both continue to shape our emotions, relationships, and sense of self long after we’ve “grown up.”

👉 https://serenityofmindtherapy.com/2026/02/26/the-inner-child-and-teenager/

It’s not about blaming the past, it’s about understanding why certain feelings still arrive with such force, and how therapy can help us respond with more choice and compassion. If any of this resonates, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

I’m a UK-based psychodynamic therapist and registered member (MBACP) of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), offering online and in-person therapy in Crowborough, East Sussex, and Haywards Heath, West Sussex.





A psychodynamic perspective exploring how the inner child and inner teenager shape adult emotions, relationships, and behaviour.

😠 Anger isn’t the enemy — being unheard often is.Most people don’t arrive in therapy announcing, “I’m angry.”They arrive...
23/02/2026

😠 Anger isn’t the enemy — being unheard often is.

Most people don’t arrive in therapy announcing, “I’m angry.”

They arrive talking about snapping at loved ones, feeling constantly on edge, or wondering why such small things suddenly feel unbearable. Anger rarely shows up on its own. More often, it’s the part of us that steps forward when something important has been ignored for too long, a boundary crossed, a need unmet, a feeling pushed aside because it once felt unsafe to express.

In my latest blog, I explore anger through a psychodynamic lens, not as something to get rid of or control, but as something worth listening to. When we understand what anger is protecting, it often softens. Not because we’ve suppressed it, but because it no longer has to shout. You can read more here:

👉 https://serenityofmindtherapy.com/2026/02/19/anger-the-emotion-we-love-to-hate/

If any of this resonates, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

I’m a UK-based psychodynamic therapist and registered member (MBACP) of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), offering online and in-person therapy in Crowborough, East Sussex, and Haywards Heath, West Sussex.





Anger is rarely just anger. This blog explores it as a psychological signal, what it protects, where it comes from, and how psychodynamic therapy can help.

🧷 Attachment isn’t just about how we love — it’s about how safe it feels to need.Most of us don’t walk around thinking a...
16/02/2026

🧷 Attachment isn’t just about how we love — it’s about how safe it feels to need.

Most of us don’t walk around thinking about attachment styles. We just notice patterns:

· getting close, then pulling away
· staying silent instead of asking
· feeling “too much” or never quite enough

From an attachment informed, psychodynamic lens, these patterns didn’t come out of nowhere. They’re often shaped early on, in relationships where closeness felt uncertain, inconsistent, or quietly risky.

In my latest blog, I explore attachment not as a label to pin on yourself, but as a way of understanding how you learned to stay connected while staying safe, and how those strategies might still be playing out in adult relationships. Read more here:

👉 https://serenityofmindtherapy.com/2026/02/12/attachment-styles-invisible-patterns/

If any of this resonates, you’re very welcome to reach out.

I’m a UK-based psychodynamic therapist and registered member (MBACP) of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), offering online and in-person therapy in Crowborough, East Sussex, and Haywards Heath, West Sussex.





Explore attachment styles and how they influence adult relationships. This blog offers insight into emotional patterns and intimacy.

😶‍🌫️ Dissociation isn’t “switching off” for no reason - it’s often the nervous system doing its very best to protect us....
09/02/2026

😶‍🌫️ Dissociation isn’t “switching off” for no reason - it’s often the nervous system doing its very best to protect us.

Many people worry that dissociation means something is wrong with them. That they’re broken, avoidant, or not trying hard enough to be present.

From a psychodynamic perspective, dissociation usually tells a very different story. It’s what happens when being here once felt too much, too overwhelming, too unsafe, too lonely, and the mind learned that stepping back was the safest option available at the time.

In my latest blog, I explore dissociation not as a failure to cope, but as a clever, protective adaptation, and what it might be asking for now, rather than judging it or forcing it away. Read more here:

👉 https://serenityofmindtherapy.com/2026/02/05/dissociation-slipping-away/

If any of this resonates, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

I’m a UK-based psychodynamic therapist and registered member (MBACP) of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), offering online and in-person therapy in Crowborough, East Sussex, and Haywards Heath, West Sussex.





Dissociation is a quiet coping strategy that often goes unnoticed, until it doesn’t. This blog, explores dissociation and why the mind uses it to protect us.

😬 Discomfort isn’t the enemy — our nervous system’s fear of it often isMost of us aren’t afraid of feelings themselves, ...
02/02/2026

😬 Discomfort isn’t the enemy — our nervous system’s fear of it often is

Most of us aren’t afraid of feelings themselves, we’re afraid of what might happen if we stay with them.

What if it gets worse?
What if I fall apart?
What if I don’t come back?

From a nervous system point of view, this makes perfect sense. When emotional states once felt unsafe, overwhelming, or unsupported, our system learned to push them away, through anxiety, numbing, busyness, or “being fine.”

In my latest blog, I explore the Window of Tolerance and how it offers a way of understanding why, at times, feelings feel too much… and at other times, strangely absent. And why sitting with discomfort isn’t about forcing yourself to cope better, but about slowly expanding what feels possible to feel. Read more here:

👉 https://serenityofmindtherapy.com/2026/02/01/window-of-tolerance-discomfort/

If any of this resonates, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

I’m a UK-based psychodynamic therapist and registered member (MBACP) of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), offering online and in-person therapy in Crowborough, East Sussex, and Haywards Heath, West Sussex.






Learn how the Window of Tolerance shapes emotional regulation and why sitting with discomfort can support healing, resilience, and nervous system balance.

😰 Anxiety doesn’t always look like panic.Sometimes it looks like competence, vigilance, and being very good at coping.Ma...
27/01/2026

😰 Anxiety doesn’t always look like panic.

Sometimes it looks like competence, vigilance, and being very good at coping.

Many people think anxiety is about worrying too much. Often, it’s about staying alert, scanning for danger, anticipating disappointment, keeping things under control so nothing goes wrong. On the outside, someone may seem calm and capable. Inside, their nervous system rarely switches off.

From a psychodynamic perspective, anxiety usually makes sense when we understand its history, early experiences of unpredictability, emotional responsibility, or not feeling safely held.

In my latest blog, I explore anxiety beyond the stereotypes, including high-functioning anxiety and how psychodynamic therapy helps people understand why they feel this way, not just how to manage it. Read more here:

👉 https://serenityofmindtherapy.com/2026/01/23/anxiety-a-nervous-system-refusal/

Rather than trying to get rid of anxiety, therapy begins with curiosity and compassion. If any of this resonates, you’re very welcome to reach out.

I’m a UK-based psychodynamic therapist and registered member (MBACP) of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), offering online and in-person therapy in Crowborough, East Sussex, and Haywards Heath, West Sussex.




Explore anxiety beyond symptoms: learned vigilance, high-functioning anxiety, and relationship patterns. A psychodynamic perspective on how therapy can help.

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