Hypnotherapy

10/06/2025

So So true 😞
I feel for all who have to deal with this - it’s not nice!

Just heard the Narcissist's side of the story.
What I did was not cool. I’ll own that. I wasn’t perfect. I said things I shouldn’t have, I acted out of pain, and I made choices I regret. But hearing how they told the story… it hit different. In their version, there’s no room for context, no acknowledgment of what led up to those moments — just a spotlight on my flaws, broadcast with perfect timing and selective memory.

It’s strange, hearing your life narrated by someone who only ever sees themselves as the victim. They left out their manipulation, their gaslighting, the emotional landmines I had to tiptoe around. They didn’t mention the way they chipped away at my sense of self, made me question my sanity, or the silent punishments I endured when I didn’t fall in line.

Instead, they painted me as the villain, the unstable one, the one who just “snapped for no reason.” And the scariest part? Some people will believe them. Because narcissists are master storytellers — they charm, they perform, and they know exactly how to make their lies sound like concern.

Yes, I made mistakes. I’m learning, healing, and taking accountability. But their version? That wasn’t truth. That was image control. That was manipulation dressed up as a confession.

And now, more than ever, I understand how important it is to know both sides before judging someone’s story.

25/05/2025

🤔🙄 true!

24/05/2025

She’s asleep with her toy, love her so much, if it falls on the floor I’ll pick it up for her 🥰 she misses Skye like we all do …it’s so quiet as Skye was very vocal …I miss the full on conversations with Skye …
I miss her teddy bear ears and her lovely hugs (only when she wanted to lol!).
Luna give hugs all the time so she keeps us going and is more spoilt than ever …I’m sure she’s fed up of all the walks 😂
Give your doggies a cuddle cos it hurts like hell to loose them! 💔

22/05/2025

All true! Be careful of these people!

Relationships with narcissists always end badly, so be prepared for the inevitable. No matter how much love, patience, or understanding you offer, it will never be enough. Narcissists thrive on control, manipulation, and the need to always be right, and when they feel that control slipping, they lash out in destructive ways. They will twist facts and rewrite history to suit their narrative, often portraying themselves as the victim and you as the aggressor.

They will turn others against you, including people you once considered close friends or family, using charm and deceit to paint you in a negative light. They know how to wear a mask in public while showing their true, toxic nature in private. They will gossip, spread lies, and subtly erode your support system to isolate you and make you feel like you’re the problem.

They will try to ruin your reputation, both personally and professionally, often with shocking levels of deceit. It won't matter how loyal or kind you were—they will focus only on moments they can exaggerate or distort to their advantage. They will deny everything, even when confronted with solid proof. They have no interest in truth or reconciliation, only in preserving their fragile ego and image.

And of course, they will blame you. Everything that went wrong will somehow be your fault. Your reactions to their abuse will be labeled as the abuse itself. Your pain will be mocked, your confusion manipulated, and your attempts to reason with them dismissed as overreacting or being “too sensitive.”

In the aftermath, you may feel exhausted, broken, and unsure of what’s real. But remember, this chaos is not your fault. It’s the result of being entangled with someone who lacks empathy and thrives on conflict. Healing takes time, and distance from their influence is the first step toward finding peace again."

08/05/2025

Very true!

Nobody contacts your friends and family, pretending to be concerned about you, faster than a narcissist who lost control over you. Suddenly, they become overly dramatic, playing the role of the "worried one," spinning a tale where they are the victim of your so-called "change in behavior." It's not genuine concern—they're planting seeds of doubt in others' minds about your character. They want to isolate you by twisting your truth into their story. Their goal isn't to check on your well-being; it's to maintain control through manipulation and deceit. They'll say, "I'm just worried," but it's all strategy—a smear campaign disguised as care. They'll use sympathy as a weapon, trying to get ahead of the truth, so when you finally speak up, people question your version. It's all about image and influence. True concern brings healing, but narcissistic concern brings destruction masked with fake empathy. Stay strong, and let your silence speak louder than their lies.

29/04/2025

❤️ so true

My kids have a great dad, but I had an awful partner.

He shows up for them. He’s present. He’s loving.
And I’m grateful for that—so grateful.

But he wasn’t a great husband, and I couldn’t keep pretending that was okay—so I left, for my own peace.

My own healing.
My own worth.

And even though I know I made the right decision…
Even though I’ve built a safer, more peaceful life since…

Guilt still creeps in sometimes.

I see it in my children’s eyes.
The way they light up when we’re all in the same room.
The way they ask, with so much hope,
“Why can’t you and Daddy just live together again?”

And it stings.

Because how do you explain to a child that sometimes, the most loving thing you can do for them is make a really hard decision for yourself?

How do you explain that staying would’ve meant losing me?

That guilt lingers—not because I regret leaving,
But because I hate that they still wish for something I can’t give them.
That picture-perfect version of family that just wasn’t real behind the scenes.

What I can give them, though, is this:

A healthy version of me.
A peaceful home.
A living example of what it looks like to choose your worth, even when it’s hard.

I can show them that love isn’t about staying at all costs.
It’s about staying true to who you are.

And even if I can’t give them the “together” they sometimes dream of…
I hope one day they’ll see what I did give them:

A mother who’s whole.
A mother who walked away from hurt—not from love.
A mother who chose honesty over pretending everything was fine.

Because that’s exactly what I’d want them to do, if they were ever in my shoes.

If you’ve ever felt this kind of guilt—the ache of not being able to give your child the “happy ending” they want—I see you. You’re not alone. And you’re not a bad parent for choosing peace over pretending. 💛