04/05/2026
“I feel as if I have been dropped out of a helicopter onto the tip of an iceberg and I KNOW it’s not coming back for me”
I frequently work with women who cyclically attract in unhealthy relationships; narcissists who abuse on several levels. Attracting in trauma is often and usually due to beliefs and conditioning set up by previous trauma. Multiple traumatic experiences are not uncommon. Not being seen and heard as a child through to the worst we hear about, often sexual in nature.
It’s not unusual for clients when trauma has been processed after a handful of healings, to find clarity, the inner strength and ability to set new boundaries and then act on them.
The same client replied to me saying “ trust your gut feeling”, “I can’t not now”.
What happens when that unhealthy relationship is ended by a woman now in her power?
This is where the iceberg comes in!
Fear in this case as she is literally unable to hook into what became the comfort zone, i.e. the chaos and drama of attracting in more of the same. Alongside that she is experiencing a LOT more internal space and her mind is freaking out. It simply cannot do what it normally does as her internal blueprint for want of a better word has changed and she cannot manifest the drama.
She feels out of control and this alien feeling of WANTING to be on her own, in this case for the first time in her adult life (she’s 40), to pursue what has become an accelerated personal growth and spiritual journey, is a new experience the mind is challenged with right now.
Our sixth session is a powerful integrative healing releasing much of the fear. Her experience is of shaking all the way through it. She doesn’t move a muscle whilst I am working and on ending the session she is more grounded and solid in herself.
I receive a message later in the day saying she feels great and is excited about the future.
She also expressed before our session that moments of Joy and Gratitude are arising randomly in her life.
This is why I do what I do. It’s a privilege. Stepping into the unknown takes courage, hope and commitment. If you are a woman in relationship with a narcissist or have experienced trauma at any time in your life, of ANY description and want help, message me 💚