Anchor of Hope Counselling

15/06/2025

had a team weekend away in London. We spent sometime at the Narcissistic Abuse Conference so encouraging to see this topic being discussed more. It’s especially encouraging seeing solicitors with more understanding of how narcissists play the justice system and how raising awareness can only help victims more.
We also spent some time bonding, chatting, future planning, sharing ideas and talking podcasts. All I can say is watch this space 🙌🙌

14/06/2025

If you’re in an abusive relationship in the UK, you can apply for a non‑molestation order or an occupation order through the Family Court. It’s completely free to apply, and you don’t need a solicitor (though legal aid is available if you do want one).

You can apply using Form FL401 here:
https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/apply-for-a-non-molestation-or-occupation-order-fl401

Or use the free online tool CourtNav to help you complete it:
https://injunction.courtnav.org.uk/register/triage

An occupation order can legally remove someone who is being abusive from your home or stop them coming near it—even if their name is on the mortgage or tenancy. The court looks at your right to be safe, not just who legally owns the property. You can also apply if the home is only in their name, or even if you’re not on the tenancy at all.

If the order is broken, it becomes a criminal offence and the police can arrest them. You can also apply for an emergency “without notice” order if you’re in immediate danger, meaning the person won’t know about it until it’s granted.

You do have rights, and you can get protection. Women’s Aid, Refuge, and Citizens Advice can help guide you through the process if needed.

30/06/2024

13/03/2024

Heroes are viewed as special because they are recognised as having highly desirable qualities. Victims are viewed as blameless. This means that when people with Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) have any form of success, they can see themselves as heroes. This validates their all-good self-image as better than other people.

04/03/2024

01/03/2024

DARVO is an acronym that stands for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender. It describes a manipulative tactic often used by Narcissists and Abusers to avoid taking responsibility for their actions and shift the blame onto their victims.

29/02/2024

Raising awareness for those of us who have experienced narcissistic abuse.

24/02/2024

For those of you who have grown up in toxic dysfunctional families you may recognise these traits, perhaps your learning for the first time that your mum was a narcissist, or perhaps you have married a narcissist and currently making the painful links between your childhood familiar and what you have unconsciously attracted. Where ever you are I hope you find the support that you need to heal.
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21/02/2024

We are human beings not human doings
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20/02/2024

Hypocrisy involves the deception of others and is this a lie.
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19/02/2024

If you recognise these characteristics within your family of origin you may well have grown up with at least one narcissistic parent. This unfortunately primes you for further narcissistic abuse, you may enter an adult relationship with a narcissist, work within a narcissistic organisation, have narcissistic friends or become part of a fundamentalist religion or cult. If you wish to find out more about how your childhood has shaped you as an adult and why you are the way you are click the link in the bio to book a session with me.
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