CG Counselling

01/09/2025

It’s not that you can’t keep up, it’s that ADHD burnout has taken over. I help clients regain clarity, control, and calm ☺️

24/08/2025

Accountability is a word they will never understand…,

29/04/2025

Every time, without fail! 🥱 😴 😑 ♥️

25/04/2025

👏🏻 😃 🙌🏼

29/03/2025

Best way to destroy a narcissist who hurt you? Heal. Put everything into your healing journey then ignore their existence and live life to the fullest. 🙌🏼 ❤️ ❤️‍🩹

19/12/2024

07/12/2024

What can I do when gaslighted?

A toxic person wants your reaction and response because it gives them much-needed fuel. The toxic person wants to make you feel sad, angry, and guilty by gaslighting you.

Stick to reality; a toxic person wants to create confusion and doubts in you. No matter what happens, you have to stick to reality. Toxic people get scared when you stick to reality.

Don’t allow toxic people to convince you.; tell them you aren’t convinced; let them waste their time. Make them frustrated by acting indifferent.

Tell them clearly we remember things differently. Let’s agree or disagree.

Grey-rock them when they are gaslighting you. Show them you are very disinterested in communication. Give them a minimum response.

Document everything and collect evidence.

Leave their toxic playground; you can’t expect to feel good when you are staying in a toxic environment. The best way to deal with a toxic person is by not giving any response.

05/11/2024

Say no to nice!!!!

02/11/2024

🙌🏼 👏🏻

23/09/2024

Wondering what narcissistic abuse looks like? 👀

Narcissistic abuse can be hard to identify because it often happens gradually and subtly. Many don’t realise the extent of the abuse until the relationship ends. Here are some signs you might be experiencing it:

* You often find yourself hoping the narcissist will change into a better person, focusing on their potential instead of their current behavior.
* You cling to small acts of kindness from them as proof of change, making everyday gestures feel monumental because you’re starved for affection.
* You make excuses for their behaviors, believing it’s due to stress or a troubled past, rather than recognising their responsibility for their actions.
* If they frequently blame bad behavior on alcohol, remember that a “bad drunken personality” shouldn’t excuse continuous poor treatment.
* You constantly worry about saying or doing something that might trigger a negative reaction, keeping you in a state of anxiety.
* You feel isolated and unable to talk to others about your relationship, often facing blame or aggression when you attempt to share.
* You have a persistent feeling that something is off, despite the narcissist’s words of love and commitment not matching their actions.
* The relentless demands of a narcissist can leave you exhausted, as you feel responsible for both your needs and theirs.
* You often feel you’re not good enough due to their criticism or subtle put-downs, making you feel undeserving of love.
* You feel like you’re always doing something wrong because the narcissist creates situations in which you can’t win no matter what you do.
* The stress of the relationship can lead to various health problems, such as anxiety, weight changes, and insomnia, which may improve once you leave the relationship.

If you recognise these signs, it’s essential to understand that narcissistic abuse is real and harmful. Trust your instincts, and remember: “Love doesn’t hurt. Loving the wrong person does.”

13/08/2024

If you know, you know! 😃

This is the stage where the narcissist starts hating you more and has lost interest in you. Narcissists are unable to tolerate your presence because your presence makes them angry and frustrated. You are considered the most horrible person; narcissists will treat you like you did nothing for them in a relationship. Whatever you do in a relationship will never be considered or enough.

Narcissists will start love-bombing new supply . Narcissists don’t want you to come close to them. Narcissists will pick up fights to give you silent treatment or will force you to leave them. This is the stage where narcissists are planning to leave you to focus on new supply. The true face of narcissists is revealed when narcissists find new supply. The narcissist is looking forward to replacing you.

27/05/2024

Signs a covert narcissist is getting ready to devalue and discard

While the devaluation and discard stages often overlap for an overt narcissist, it’s not so with a covert narcissist.

The devaluation stage begins almost immediately with a covert narcissist, though you won’t likely recognise it as such.

Why?
Because subconsciously, the covert narcissist feels intense shame and fear about who they are.

Long ago, as a manner of self-protection, they created their idealised self, their false persona, and the fantasy reality they’ve presented to the world since. Their false, idealised self believes they are better than you. They are more special, more entitled, and more deserving of attention.

The fact that you are more successful, more attractive, more intelligent, and more connected makes them furious. While outwardly they are delighted you elevate their status, internally they are holding back intense rage.

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This rage comes out in your devaluation – long before you ever notice it.