28/04/2026
We all have 3 parts of ourselves:
The id, the ego, and the superego
The id is the part that says: “I want it now”, it’s driven by needs, urges, and emotion.
The superego is the part that says: “you shouldn’t”, shaped by rules, values, and expectations.
And the ego is the mediator, the part that tries to find a realistic, balanced way forward.
For example:
You want to stay up late watching something (id)
Another part says “you’ll be exhausted tomorrow, you shouldn’t” (superego)
So the ego steps in and says “ok, one more episode, then bed”
We need all three, they each serve a purpose.
But when one dominates, we tend to struggle.
Too much id can lead to impulsive, short-term decisions.
Too much superego can lead to self-criticism, pressure, and feeling not good enough
And when the system is pulled too far in either direction, the ego can become overwhelmed, which is often when we see overthinking, anxiety, and unhelpful defence patterns show up.
This is where awareness becomes important.
The aim isn’t to get rid of any part of you, it’s to strengthen your ability to notice them, understand them, and respond rather than react.
Listening to your needs… while still holding your boundaries.
Balance is where your wants and your values can both be heard. 🤍
This is something that I support people with in our work together. Please get in touch if you're needing some support.