High View Therapy

18/10/2024

26/09/2024

I am pleased to announce that I have extended my practice to include EMDR therapy. Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprogramming is a powerful tool to access and process fragmented memories that are stored in our subconscious but reveal themselves through unpleasant symptoms in the present. Whether that be with anxiety, phobias, negative and limiting beliefs about ourselves that are holding us back. EMDR can help with many different symptoms or challenges.
I incorporate EMDR within talking therapy to get the best out of both therapies and process negative experiences to the point of them being in the past and no-longer affecting your present.

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26/09/2024

Welcome words this morning for me. As a women in my 40s, with the constant changes in life I can feel a strong undercurrent of not being so sure of who I am - questioning lots of things I thought to be true of myself not sure which parts are the true me or parts I have created and have worked so well. It is a confusing time not sure which paths to take, not sure how to arrange life so that it brings out the best in me as well as lending itself well to my circumstances and being kind if it isn't perfect or not all in place right now.

Your true self, your essential self can see past the inner critic’s voice, and past the noisy narratives of dreams unfulfilled. On one level, you know that where you are, does not define where you’re going. Maybe it offers a lesson, or maybe it helps you recalibrate to your (not society’s) priorities. Let those expansive not yet expressed parts of yourself emerge; it’s finally time to step into the person you were always meant to be.



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12/09/2024

I am forever in awe of clients who courageously come to me to talk about things that they do not want to talk about but somehow know that avoiding it, pushing it down is no longer working for them. The step taken to give time and attention to these thoughts, feelings, memories is a big part of the therapy itself, to dare to start to trust another that it is okay, to trust themselves that that these feelings do matter, that their experience does matter and their feelings can be felt, held, understood in all of their colours and shapes. Barriers can be gently worked through, bringing relief, and the realisation that you are not so different or alone as you thought you were and maybe there is some sense to be made, peace to be felt.

The experiences from our past can help us to understand ourselves better and know how to love and tend to ourselves, be understanding of ourselves and what we need in order to come out from hiding and feel connected and a sense of belonging in our uniqueness, even when we are on our own.

With the start of Autumn, a new season, is there anything that you are tired of carrying around? Please get in touch if you would like to know more.

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05/09/2024

If we consider symptoms to be 'mental illness', then it's not surprising that we expect trauma recovery to be an individual affair – for each person to fix their own brain. But the brain is a social organ.

Find out more here: https://www.carolynspring.com/shop/dissociation-and-did-the-fundamentals-online-training

05/09/2024

memory resides in our bodies, our reactions, our symptoms and our behaviours, much more than it exists in our 'minds'. We need to understand this thoroughly if we are to recover.

Read 'Hearing the Cry' to find out more: https://www.carolynspring.com/blog/hearing-the-cry/

05/09/2024

Hopefully you have never encountered a close relationship with a person that is emotionally immature to the point of it being destructive, these relationships can be confusing and disorientating, allowing them to be prolonged, gradually causing distortion/uncertainty of self and insecurity, isolation. The reasons are deep and complex but largely there is a lack of empathy and lack of respect and care for another person's perspective and boundaries and a lack of awareness around their own emotions leading to you feeling hurt, misunderstood and squashed. Not relating on an equal healthy basis but more around power and control to get needs met.
With some space and with connection to emotionally mature people it will become more possible to see the problem is in the relationship or in the emotionally immature mechanisms at play, and not yourself. This is made difficult initially as talking about it is difficult.
The relationship may be one that you cannot distance yourself from and besides the emotional work to heal, and rebuild your sense of self there are also some practical ways to avoid being dragged into confusing, emotionally manipulative exchanges that drain your energy and make you feel like you're going mad, ways to protect your peace.

I'm not keen on using the word narcissism but the methods below show how to not get tangelled up in dishonest exchanges, where the goal is not resolution but more about wearing you out.

04/07/2024

If life feels difficult at the moment, if relationships feel hard and your inner dialogue is weighing you down I am here to listen and help you make sense of what is holding you down and blocking your joy. A space to express yourself without judgement and to not have to carry it all around with you, to work through the thoughts and feelings and find some clarity and clear air.
I offer individual and couples/relationship counselling in both Whaley Bridge and Wilmslow and am able to take on new clients from September.
I am passionate about counselling therapy and the benefits it brings. I am easy to talk to, dedicated to my work and am here if you would like to take those first steps to looking within.

02/05/2024

The healing comes with someone there to help regulate emotions, to see, hear, understand us enough to process an event more accurately, make meaning from it, and file it as 'finished'. To enable life to be lived more in the present.

It's common to think of as an individual problem: someone failing to 'get over' a 'bad thing' that happened. But trauma is based much more in our evolutionary neurobiology, which requires the safety of others.

Read more: http://www.carolynspring.com/blog/trauma-and-the-bears

02/05/2024

Understanding how our brains work to keep us safe when we are fearful can really help us understand our reactions to present day situations that our body is subconsciously reacting to (which triggers the survival thoughts) because your body is remembering something frightening from the past, something we may not remember in our thoughts but be very aware of finding the current situation very difficult and not fully understanding why.

It's so easy to pathologise – to think there's something wrong with our brain when it behaves 'differently'. But during and after our brain does exactly what it's evolved to do, which is geared around keeping us safe. Read more: http://www.carolynspring.com/blog/trauma-and-the-bears

28/01/2024

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