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Helping you deal with anxiety disorders, stress, depression, panic, fears and phobias using positive

My name is Victoria Bourque and I am a licensed Thrive Consultant and hypnotherapist based in Glossop, Derbyshire near to Manchester and the Peak District. Having worked as a dentist for over 20 years, treating many anxious and phobic patients, I felt inspired to use my knowledge and skills to empower as many people as possible to live happily and confidently. I completed my Thrive Consultant training under the supervision of Rob Kelly and I believe strongly in continuous personal and professional development and learning. I operate under a strict code of ethics as a licensed Thrive Consultant and hypnotherapist. Over more than two decades, my career in dentistry has paved the way for me to help people whilst having the greatest respect for confidentiality, in an environment of mutual respect and trust. This is so important to know when you are reaching out for help and support. It also gave me a great insight into how we all “tick” and how, with the right support and encouragement, we can effectively change what we think and believe in order to make lasting positive changes within our lives. I specialise in supporting people to overcome stress and anxiety disorders, depression, low self esteem and social anxiety. I will guide you in a caring, non-judgemental manner in managing your thoughts, feelings and behaviours so that you can make the necessary changes to live life to the full. I can help you to develop the self-awareness and self-management skills that are necessary to enhance the quality of life using either the Thrive Programme or Applied Positive Hypnotherapy. Whether you would like to…

Achieve more at work or school
Feel more confident
Make positive changes in your life
Feel empowered to deal effectively with depression, stress and/or anxiety
Increase your self-esteem and sense of power and control
Overcome a specific anxiety or phobia
I can help you to take control of your life in order for you to thrive, flourish and live the life you have always wanted to. I offer a free initial consultation where we can meet each other and have a chat about your concerns as I am aware how important it is to feel comfortable with a therapist so that you can make an informed decision about the best way to go forward for you.

30/10/2025

Here are 3 pointers from Thrive Coach Anne that will help you to find at least a bit room to breathe when creating health anxiety ⬇️

💡 1. Give it time:

When a new symptom shows up, your first instinct might be to panic and seek reassurance right away. But most symptoms pass on their own. Instead of rushing to Google or calling the doctor, wait a week. If it’s still there, then it’s time to check in with a professional. This helps break the cycle of constantly reacting to every little sensation.

💡 2. Stick with the facts, not the fiction:

Health anxiety thrives on scary “what if” thoughts. How many times have you believed it was a heart attack, cancer, or some other terrible disease… and it turned out not to be true? Probably more times than you can count. Keeping perspective is key. Facts are grounded. Fiction fuels fear.

💡 3. Trust your body more than your fear:

Your body is designed to cope with far more than you realise. And when something truly needs attention, it usually gives clear, unmistakable signals. Your body is on your side — it’s not as fragile as your anxious thoughts make it seem.

➡️ And here’s the most important part: health anxiety doesn’t exist because of what you’re afraid of. It exists because of what you believe — that you couldn’t cope if something happened. The truth is, you’re not really afraid of the illness itself. You’re afraid of the emotions and panic you create around it. And that is absolutely something you can overcome and learn to change.

Follow me for more tips and insights on how to overcome health anxiety and don’t hesitate to reach out!

29/10/2025

Here Thrive Coach Anne discusses the reasons why overcoming emetophobia may take longer when living at home with your parents:

1. Collusion 🤝

Often without realising it, parents (or other family members) overprotect you in ways that actually make emetophobia stronger.

They might text you throughout the day to “check in."

They go along with your avoidance — turning off a movie if someone is sick, letting you do the dishes “your way,” etc.

It is a nice gesture and it feels supportive, but it only reinforces the belief that being sick is the worst thing in the world.

2. Lack of responsibility & control

Even with loving parents, when you live at home you don’t have full control over your life. Dinner time, routines, even chores are influenced by them. But feeling in control of your own life is crucial when overcoming emetophobia. Needing to take care of yourself fully, builds your self esteem and how powerful you feel to get stuff done.

3. The environment that shaped your beliefs 🧠

Where do you think emetophobia came from? Long story short: you picked it up from the people around you. They don’t have to be emetophobes themselves — but if they’re anxious about germs, easily stressed, overprotective, have low self esteem and social anxiety themselves, that environment shaped your own beliefs. And as you still live there, you continue to pick up those beliefs, emotions, reactions, etc - that are keeping emetophobia alive.

But remember: it’s not your fault that you have this phobia. And it’s not theirs either.

So what’s the solution, except for moving out?

👉 First, realise that it may take a little more effort when you’re still living at home. Awareness of why and how it’s harder is very important.

💡 Quick tip: Think about the ways your parents might be colluding with you, and start gently challenging that. For example, if they check in with you daily, tell them you appreciate it but it isn’t helping. Start small.

24/10/2025

💫Focus on what you can control and take back your power 💫

🤯Life can get busy & messy, and it's easy to get caught up in things that are outside of our control, especially when we're struggling.

💡But here's the truth, it's not about controlling everything, it's about simply controlling our own actions and reactions to life.

So we CAN'T control:

⛔ External events

⛔ The opinions of others

⛔ The outcome of every situation

⛔ The twists and turns of life

But we CAN control:

✅ Our mindset

✅ Our attitude

✅ Our reactions

✅ Our choices

By shifting your focus to what you can control, you'll find more calm, more clarity and more strength.

So take a deep breath, stand tall, and remind yourself
"I am in control of my reactions.” You’ve got this.

🧡 This is what you learn with the Thrive Programme.

16/10/2025

You want to be a mum more than anything but the fear of being sick is so much louder than the dream.

You wish it was different but the fear is all-consuming.

This isn’t any just a fear of sick, it’s a phobia that has shaped your decisions, your relationships, your life

But you’re not alone in this and you’re not broken.

The Emetophobia-Free programme has helped thousands of women move through this fear and into motherhood.

14/10/2025

Do you ever think… “Why does everything happen to me? Look at all the bad things that happened to me this week! Maybe I’m just really unlucky… or my horoscope is just not great this month...”

All of these reasons point towards external factors that create your stress. When you believe you are feeling a certain way because of luck, or horoscopes or other things you are basically telling yourself that there is nothing you can do about it! That’s just the way it is.

THAT’S NOT ACTUALLY TRUE!

We actually create stress and anxiety by how we think and respond to events.

Events might happen to us often but what matters is how you process and react to it.

As Rob Kelly, the founder of The Thrive Programme, puts it,

“We are not experiencing reality, but reality filtered through our beliefs systems and thinking styles.”

If you have a negative view of the world, you will create stress and anxiety in response to the events you go through.

The great news is that we do have the power to prevent daily stress and manage how we think!

Learn more about your internal power with the Thrive Programme!

03/10/2025

If you're stuck in this cycle of worry it's exhausting 😩

Worries can be overwhelming and feel like they're taking over your life 🌪️

💡But here's the thing, worrying isn't going to change the outcome!

It's not going to magically solve the problem or make things better.

In fact, it's probably making you feel more stuck and anxious 😬

I want you to know that you have the power to break free from this cycle 💪

The Thrive Programme, helps you understand how your mind works as well as showing you how to manage your worries and take control of your thoughts to create better mental health.

You don't have to let worry hold you back anymore 🌟

⏩ Learn to become the most POWERFUL you and take back the control in your life.

You CAN do this! 🤩

29/09/2025

If you’re struggling with anxiety you’ve probably heard something similar to these phrases:

* When you’re having anxiety… follow these steps

* When you’re having a panic attack… do this

But it isn’t that common to learn how to prevent anxiety in the first place. Wouldn’t it be way more useful to understand how to prevent it instead of just having to manage it?

Before you create any anxiety, your mind creates negative thoughts about a scenario.

It imagines something bad happening over and over again.

You think about giving a presentation and stuttering

You think about going to the party and having people stare at you

You think about making a mistake on your final exam.

Thinking these unhelpful thoughts over and over creates ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY.

This habit can lead to panic attacks. But knowing how to manage these thoughts and replacing them with helpful ones, can help prevent them. Visualising how you WANT things to go will completely change your experience.

Follow me to keep learning more!

26/09/2025

🤯 Think of the way your mind works as being like baking a cake 🍰

⏩ If you want a happy, empowered life, you've got to put in the right ingredients!

🤔 Think about it... what ingredients are you putting into your mind?

Are you surrounding yourself with positivity, or are you stuck in a cycle of negativity? 🌪️

At The Thrive Programme, we believe that anyone can learn the skills to live a happy, positive, and thriving life no matter what your situation!

🌟 Rewire your mind with positive, powerful, can-do thoughts

🌟 Develop self-awareness and self-compassion

🌟 Build confidence and coping skills

This will help you...

🌟 Break free from negative patterns and habits

🌟 Unlock your full potential and live the life you deserve

You have the power to create the life you want 🌟

Let's get baking (the right way 😉)

11/09/2025

If you have emetophobia… flying, eating, and travelling feels impossible … The good news is it’s actually the beliefs we hold about travelling not the travelling itself that causes anxiety.

That’s great news because ALL beliefs can be changed! Beliefs are a product of the thoughts you continuously have… and your thoughts are driven by your beliefs! It’s a never-ending cycle!

Changing the way you think about travelling and getting sick will completely transform the way you view it.

For example:

* Sick is scary

* Motion sickness is terrifying

* Flying is dangerous

These unhelpful thoughts can all be changed into positive and empowering ones:

* Sick was never scary it’s how I was thinking about it that was, I can cope with it

* Motion sickness can be uncomfortable but I can cope with it

* Flying is not dangerous and even if there is turbulence, I can cope with it

Learn more about beliefs and helpful thoughts with the Thrive Programme so you can finally make your travelling dreams a reality!

05/09/2025

Your worth isn't defined by your doubts 🙅‍♀️

It's time to break free from negative self-talk and build unshakeable self-esteem! 💪

The Thrive Programme can help you:

✨ Identify and challenge limiting beliefs

✨ Develop a growth mindset and build confidence

✨ Develop self-compassion

29/08/2025

🎢 Life is full of ups and downs, highs and lows and we don't have control over external things in our lives, however we CAN Control our mindset.

🧠Mindset refers to the established set of attitudes, beliefs, and thoughts that shape your perceptions, behaviors, and reactions to life's situations. It's like a mental lens that influences how you see the world, yourself, and your place in it.

👉🏻 Your mindset can be:

🌟 Positive or negative

🌟Growth-oriented or fixed

🌟Open or closed to new experiences

🌟Resilient or fragile

It affects how you:

⏩ Approach challenges

⏩ Handle setbacks

⏩ Interact with others

⏩ Pursue goals and dreams

The good news? Your mindset is not set in stone!

✅It can be developed, shifted, and improved over time with practice, self-awareness, and intentional effort!

By shifting your mindset, you can:

💫 Break free from limiting beliefs and patterns

💫 Develop a more optimistic and hopeful outlook

💫 Improve your overall mental well-being

💫 Enhance your quality of life

The Thrive Programme offers tools and techniques to support this journey, empowering you to take control of your mental health and thrive.

15/08/2025

🤔 Did you know that your thoughts are NOT facts?

🤯 Your brain is wired to protect you, BUT sometimes it can get it wrong!

💡Our thoughts are filtered through our lens of beliefs, experiences, and thinking styles, which can distort reality.

⏩ This means that our thoughts are not always an accurate reflection of reality, but rather a subjective interpretation. And here's the thing: you don't have to believe everything your mind tells you! 🙅‍♀️

When negative thoughts arise, it's easy to get caught up in them and believe they're true. But what if you could learn to sit with your thoughts, observe them, gain perspective and react in a powerful and positive way? 💪

By learning to challenge and reframe your thoughts, you can break free from negative patterns and most importantly learn to take AGENCY over your life 🚀

Start your thrive programme journey today and discover the power of your mind ✨

Address

Glossop Osteopathy Clinic, 23 Fauvel Road
High Peak
SK137AR

Telephone

+447901796701

Website

http://www.victoriabourque.uk/

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