23/10/2025
Thanks The Natural Parent Magazine for sharing this - this photo was a throwback to the chaos of family life during covid - but it seems to have carried on - the amount we juggle as parents is bonkers, how do we stay fully present to those who mean the world to us when the world needs our attention?
Have you ever heard that phrase: "Mothers have to work as if they don't have children, and raise children like they don't have a job"?
It's not just about work, It's the mental load, the endless to-do lists, trying to be a present partner, a good friend... all while juggling the beautiful chaos of family life. The pressure to be 'fully present' everywhere, all the time, to everything is immense.
It's an impossible standard.
You can't be everything to everyone, all the time. But to your child, you are their everything. How do we balance it? Well, here’s a little secret, backed by science: you don't have to be perfect to be their everything. 'Good enough' parents are only 'in sync' with their kids about 30% of the time. The other 70% is messy. It's juggling, it's ruptures, it's getting it 'wrong'. But it's also where we repair, reconnect, and show our children what real, resilient love looks like.
That 70/30 split... that's your everything. And it is more than enough.
Sarah from Roots