07/03/2025
Something I have been working on is acceptance lately and it's been hard and messing with my head.
Sharing a little about radical acceptance as it gets used alot.
What Is Radical Acceptance?
Radical acceptance is the practice of fully embracing reality as it is, without resistance, judgment, or wishing things were different. It means acknowledging the painful, uncomfortable, or unfair aspects of life while also recognizing that fighting against what is only creates more suffering.
This doesn’t mean you approve of what happened to you or that you wouldn’t change things if you could. It means recognizing that the past did happen, that certain things are out of your control, and that healing begins when you stop resisting the truth of your life.
🚨 How Do You Radically Accept Yourself?
Radically accepting yourself means embracing every part of who you are, your past, your flaws, your strengths, your mistakes, and your growth. It’s one of the hardest things to do, especially if you’ve been through pain, trauma, or self-doubt.
🚨 Here’s how you can start:
✔️ Acknowledge the Reality of Your Life
Recognize where you are right now, emotionally, mentally, and physically, without judgment.
Accept that your past shaped you, but it does not define you.
Let go of "what ifs" and "should haves" you cannot change the past, only how you move forward.
✔️ Practice Self-Compassion
Speak to yourself the way you would to a friend going through the same struggles.
Recognize that healing is messy and non-linear.
Forgive yourself for mistakes, you were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time.
✔️ Face Yourself with Honesty
Try mirror work, look at yourself and acknowledge the person you see, without criticism.
Instead of forcing love, start with neutrality: "This is me. I exist. I am here."
If love feels impossible, start with respect. Respect for your survival, your resilience, your efforts.
✔️ Let Go of the Need for External Validation
Accept that not everyone will understand your journey, and that’s okay.
Your worth isn’t determined by how others perceive you.
You do not need permission to accept yourself.
✔️ Accept Your Emotions Without Judgment
You don’t have to be happy all the time to accept yourself.
If you're feeling low, anxious, or frustrated, allow yourself to feel it without shame.
Emotions come and go, your worth remains the same.
✔️ Shift Your Perspective on Growth
You are not broken. You are evolving.
Healing doesn’t mean erasing the past, it means learning to live alongside it.
Your struggles do not make you unworthy; they make you human.
✔️ Make Peace with Your Body & Mind
Your body has carried you through life, even on the hardest days.
Your mind has protected you, even when its coping mechanisms weren’t perfect.
Gratitude for yourself, even in small ways, can transform the way you see yourself.
Radical acceptance isn’t about loving every part of yourself overnight. It’s about releasing resistance and meeting yourself where you are. It’s about saying:
"This is me. Right now, as I am. And I will not abandon myself."
It’s a journey, sometimes painful, sometimes slow, but it is one of the most freeing things you can give yourself. Acceptance is not the end of healing; it’s the beginning.
