Towards Life

04/10/2025

Be the reason someone feels loved, safe, valued, welcome and supported

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03/10/2025

This week’s blog is written by yours truly!

New on the Blog:
Different lives, different rhythms – but one shared mission: the women of Cocoon

https://cocoon.me.uk/metamorphosis/different-lives-different-rhythms-but-one-shared-mission-the-women-of-cocoon/

Lisa explore how our Holmfirth hub is the heart of our community. As the year turns to Autumn some things are changing for us, but we still have so much that unites us on our mission to bring healing, peace and calm to Holmfirth.

27/09/2025

I chose to change the question 17 years ago, and can honestly say it changed my life. Choosing to become ‘unstuck’ was the start of a healing journey that has led me to doing what I do today. I am so grateful for the health I experience today and privileged that I live a life I love. ❤️ ⚡️

There's one question that separates people who recover from those who stay stuck:
❌ 'Why is this happening TO me?'
✅ 'How is this happening THROUGH me?'
Same situation. Completely different brain activation.
'Why is this happening TO me?' unfortunately creates:

A sense of overwhelm
And hoplessness
Stress response activation
External locus of control
Brain focused on problems

'How is this happening THROUGH me?' creates:

Curiosity and investigation
Empowerment patterns
Learning response activation
Internal locus of control
Brain focused on solutions

This isn't just positive thinking. This is strategic neuroplasticity.
The first question programs your brain to be passive and reactive. The second programs it to be active and creative.
When you ask 'How is this happening through me?' your brain starts investigating:

What brain patterns might be contributing?
How could I use my brain and mind differently?
What can I learn from this experience?
How can I influence this situation?

This shift transforms you from bystander in your route to wellness to scientist, from patient to researcher, from helpless to empowered.
The Lightning Process systematically teaches this mindset transformation along with the practical skills to back it up.
Your brain creates your reality based on the questions you ask it.
Ask better questions. Get better answers. Create better health.
Right now, what question is your brain asking about your health? And how is that question influencing what you experience?"

01/09/2025

So, this is what Towards Life was up to last week. I so enjoyed training the brilliant team that is Hazaar in Manchester in using the Enneagram for team working and development.

17/08/2025

Let it be. 🌼

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30/07/2025

Happy Friendship Day- definitely something worth celebrating!

- Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born. — Anais Nin

22/07/2025

"Take time to drink your tea" - a calligraphy by Thich Nhat Hanh

Please enjoy this extract from his book, "Answers From the Heart":

"Happiness is possible when you are capable of doing the things and being the things that you want to do and to be. When we walk for the sake of walking, when we sit for the sake of sitting, when we drink tea for the sake of drinking tea, we don’t do it for something or someone else. These things can be very enjoyable. That is the practice of aimlessness. While you do that, you heal yourself and you help heal the world. Awakening means to see that truth—that you want to know how to enjoy, how to live deeply, in a very simple way. You don’t want to waste your time anymore. Cherish the time that you are given."

21/07/2025

The inspirational Louise Hay! How will you shape your later years to be a treasure trove?

A month before her passing in 2017, Louise L. Hay wrote something that still resonates deeply:

“I’ll be turning 90 this Saturday. My younger years were filled with fear, but now my days are filled with trust and confidence.

My life didn’t really start to make sense until my mid-40s. At 50, I began writing—on a very small scale. My first year, I earned just \$42. At 55, I ventured into the world of computers, which terrified me, but I took classes and overcame my fears. Today, I own three computers and travel everywhere with my iPad and iPhone. At 60, I planted my first garden. Around that time, I joined kids’ art classes and started painting. In my 70s and 80s, I became even more creative, and my life just kept getting richer and more fulfilling.

I still write, give talks, and teach by example. I’m always reading, learning, and growing. I run a successful publishing company and two nonprofits. I’m an avid organic gardener and grow most of my own food. I love people and parties, have many loving friends, and have traveled the world. I still paint and take classes. My life has become a treasure trove of experiences.

I want to encourage you to consciously shape your later years and realize that they can be the most rewarding chapter of your life. Your future is always bright, no matter your age. Let these years become your treasure years.”

With love,
Louise Hay

20/07/2025

The past is a place to learn from, not to live in

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07/07/2025

You are not a burden,
you are not a waste of space;
there is only one of you
and nobody can ever take your place.

05/07/2025

“After the storm, don’t rush the calm.
Let it come, slowly. Gently. With grace.”

Interesting read.

"The hardest part comes after."
— Princess Kate of Wales

In her quiet yet powerful words, Princess Kate once opened up about something many don’t talk about:
“You put on a brave face during treatment, but the real struggle begins after.”

She was speaking about her experience with chemotherapy—a journey that doesn’t end when the last session does.

Because once the treatments stop…
The world expects you to bounce back.
To smile.
To “go back to normal.”
But the truth is, that “normal” no longer exists.

What follows is a deep emotional rollercoaster:
The medical team is no longer by your side every day.
The adrenaline of survival fades.
The exhaustion lingers.
And you’re left navigating a new version of yourself—physically, emotionally, mentally.

“It’s a much harder process than I ever imagined,” she said.

This isn’t just a story of resilience.
It’s a reminder: healing takes time.
Not just the body—but the soul.
So if you—or someone you love—is in that space after the storm, don’t rush the calm.
Let it come, slowly. Gently. With grace.

And above all, don’t expect to be who you were before.
You’re becoming someone even stronger.

28/06/2025

Yes, this is what I do, and what a privilege it is to do it!

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