Deirdre Coyne CBT

19/08/2025

Colour Analysis Demo

18/08/2025

18/08/2025

Good Morning Style - Purple in History

10/08/2025

🚨 You look calm… but are you paddling like panicked underneath?

From the outside, people think you’ve got it all together.
You smile. You say “I’m fine.” You keep the plates spinning, the people happy, the show going.

But here’s the truth…
Underneath?
It’s frantic. Non-stop. You’re paddling furiously just to stay afloat.

I see it in so many of my clients who binge or emotionally eat. On the surface, they are the graceful swan. Under the water, it’s chaos.

And here’s the question I want you to really think about:
💭 What’s the worst that could happen if you stopped paddling for a moment?
💭 What if you actually gave yourself permission to rest?

Because maybe—just maybe—the world wouldn’t fall apart… and you’d finally have the space to breathe.

09/08/2025

The power of our thoughts is pretty extraordinary. Talk to us in confidence or join us at our community Stress Busters CBT course. More info at TheICanCentre.com
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"There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. "Well," she said, "I think I'll braid my hair today." So she did and she had a wonderful day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. "Hm...mm..," she said, "I think I'll part my hair down the middle today." So she did and she had a grand day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head. "Well," she said, "Today I'm going to wear my hair in a pony tail." So she did, and she had a fun, fun day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn't a single hair on her head. "YAY!" she exclaimed. "I don't have to fix my hair today!"

09/08/2025

💛 Break Free From Emotional Eating – Founder Member Offer £27/month 💛

I help women in their 50s and 60s stop emotional eating and rebuild a healthy, happy relationship with food — while enjoying life.

If you are tired of eating when you are stressed, bored, or anxious… and you want to feel in control again without going on another diet… I would love to invite you to my brand-new membership Tee with Dee.

As a Founder Member, you’ll get:
✨ The full Eating Freely programme
✨ Weekly check-ins with me to keep you on track
✨ A warm, supportive community of women on the same journey

Join today for just £27/month — this Founder price is locked in for as long as you stay.

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08/08/2025

Midlife Mindset Change - Ending the Diet Mindset

Are you tired of the endless cycle of dieting, only to find that the weight loss doesn't necessarily mean better health? You're not alone. Many of us have been there, trying every diet under the sun, only to end up feeling frustrated and defeated.

Weight loss is not always the ultimate indicator of health.

True wellness goes beyond just the number on the scale. It's about nourishing your body, mind, and soul in a way that feels sustainable and fulfilling.

If you've struggled with emotional or binge eating, it's time to address the root cause. It's time to shift our focus from restrictive diets to cultivating a healthy mindset around food and self-care.

What if there was another to think about this?

Weight loss ≠ Health: While shedding pounds can be a goal for many, it's essential to remember that health encompasses so much more than just your weight. Focus on nourishing your body with nutrient-dense foods, staying active, and prioritizing self-care habits that promote overall well-being.

Mindset Matters: The way we think about food and our bodies can significantly impact our eating behaviours. Instead of viewing food as the enemy or succumbing to guilt and shame, cultivate a positive relationship with food. Practice intuitive eating, listen to your body's hunger and fullness cues, and be kind to yourself along the journey.

Seek Support: Breaking free from the dieting mentality and overcoming emotional eating patterns can be challenging, but you don't have to do it alone.

Let's embrace a holistic approach to health that prioritizes self-love, self-compassion, and sustainable habits. Together, we can redefine what it means to thrive in midlife and beyond.

05/08/2025

🍷 Night-time emotional eating. The habit no one talks about… but so many of us live through.

You’re “good” all day — busy, distracted, holding it together.
But as soon as the house is quiet, your energy dips…
And suddenly, food becomes the comfort, the reward, the escape.

It is not about lack of willpower.
It is not about discipline.
It is about unspoken needs, patterns that make sense… and gentle tools that can shift them.

I’m running a free 7-day email series based on the Eating Freely approach I use with clients — CBT, compassion, and tiny changes that make a big difference.

📩 If you’d like me to send it your way, just comment “yes please” or drop me a message and I’ll send you the link 💛

You’re not alone, and this can absolutely change.

04/08/2025

💭 One Weekend or One Meal Doesn’t Undo Your Progress

If emotional eating has crept in this weekend, please hear this:

One weekend doesn’t mean you are back at square one.
One meal doesn’t mean you have “blown it.”
This is not a diet. This is a new way of thinking.

CBT teaches us that it’s not the food that’s the problem—it’s the thoughts we attach to it.

👉 “I’ve ruined everything.”
👉 “I’ll start again Monday.”
👉 “Why can’t I just stop?”

These are all-or-nothing thoughts.
And they keep you stuck.

Instead, try this:

🧠 Pause and ask:
“What was I feeling before I ate?”
(Not what you were craving—but what you were feeling.)

🌱 Then ask:
“What do I need right now that food can’t give me?”

The goal is not perfection. It’s awareness + compassion.
That’s where the shift happens. That’s how we eat freely—even when it’s messy.

You are not broken. You are learning.
And learning takes practice—not punishment.

If this speaks to you tonight, send me a DM.
You don’t have to figure it out alone.

31/07/2025

The Missing Piece in Emotional Eating

You don’t overeat because you’re lazy or “lacking willpower.”

You overeat because no one taught you what to do in those tough emotional moments.

When stress hits, when you’re tired, when life feels heavy…

The next thing you know, you’re thinking:

➡ “I’ll start again tomorrow.”
➡ “One more won’t hurt.”
➡ “I’ve already ruined today – might as well keep going.”

Here’s the missing piece in emotional eating:
It’s not about discipline. It’s about knowing how to respond differently in those moments — without turning to food.

That’s exactly what I teach inside the Eating Freely Reset — practical tools to separate food from feelings, so you can finally feel free around food again.

👉 Comment “INFO” and I’ll send you the details or message me privately.

Thanks for reading.

Deirdre

30/07/2025

Eating Freely - Ending Emotional Eating not Starting another Diet

I’ve done every diet known to woman. I know the rules, the points, the shakes, the meal plans — and I know that sinking feeling when the hope fades, and you end up back at square one.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

❌ Emotional eating isn’t about willpower.

❌ Diets can’t fix what’s underneath.

When we eat for comfort, stress or boredom, it’s not because we’re broken — it’s because we’ve learned to soothe ourselves with food.

That’s why I became an Eating Freely Practitioner.

I now support successful women with simple tools like HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired) and Delay–Distract–Decide — tools that finally break the cycle of guilt, shame, and ‘starting over on Monday.’

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing what this approach looks like and how it’s helped so many women finally feel at peace around food.

If you’ve been thinking, ‘I can’t face another diet, but I can’t keep going like this either,’ I’d love you to follow along.

And if you want to be the first to hear when I open spaces for my Eating Freely Reset programme, drop me a 💛 in the comments — or just message me quietly. No pressure. No rules. Just support.

Deirdre