19/11/2025
Recently, I’ve given clients who are struggling with O’s the challenge to avoid O’s!...
And understandably, they were like ”WTF, Laura?”
I can’t blame them… Many of us experienced the org•sm gap. Many of us experienced a severe LACK of org•sms in our lives.
So the idea of NOT chasing them? Not exactly thrilling.
But here’s what I’ve learnt working with hundreds of women and in my own life:
When you chase the org•sm, you’re acting from a place of “this is going to be difficult.”
Does this sound familiar?
You start wishing for something you’re not experiencing:
“I should be feeling MORE”
“Why am I not coming yet?”
“I need more sensation right now”
Ever experienced these loops?
All of these thoughts pull you OUT of the present moment. They block your ple•sure and prevent you from fully receiving what’s actually there.
When you take org•sm out of the equation as a goal and focus on PLE•SURE instead, you create MORE potential for incredible org•sms.
Think of it like this: ☯️
Passionate, fiery s•x = YANG ar•usal ☀️ But a good fire needs to be built.
What you see in p•rn is turbo YANG, like a triple espresso. We’re trying to squeeze ple•sure out as fast as possible.
But in reality, if we spend time in YIN ar•usal = relaxed, blissful moments where ple•sure builds and disperses without force - we’re building the foundation for YANG.
From this foundation? 🔥 Fire will occur naturally.
And it will be a BLAST.
In my practise with clients, we spend time (5 minutes to an hour, depends on the day) in this state of yin ar•usal.
90% of the time? We’re not going for org•sm.
Because it’s not the goal. We’re learning to relax into an ocean of blissful sensations.
You are widening your nervous system’s capacity to experience intensity.
And what happens?
🍇 More desire arises naturally
🍇 Turn-on deepens
🍇 Org•sms become more intense
🍇 You have MORE org•sms
🍇 You feel MORE ple•sure
The yang experience happens inevitably because you created the yin.
By letting go of the goal, you unlock the experience you’ve been seeking all along.
Want to experience this for yourself?
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