Katie Costello - End of Life Support Services

20/03/2026

Hello you lovely people 👋🏼 Here’s a little ‘Who am I’ if you’re new here…

I could give you a long list of qualifications, diplomas and achievements I have. They all matter, and they’ve all shaped the work I do. But they don’t really tell you who I am.

I’m Katie. An honest, heart-led, passionate and committed soul midwife, funeral celebrant, death educator and author. I love cake, my voice is my superpower, and I love people.

I’m a bit like Marmite. Some people really appreciate my approach, some don’t, and honestly, that’s OK. I’m here to do deep, meaningful work with the people who need it, who resonate with it, and who are ready for it, whether that’s at the end of life or within professional spaces.

I show up fully. I give all my time, energy, care and expertise to every soul I meet. Whether I’m supporting someone in their final days, walking alongside a grieving family, or teaching others how to better understand death and dying, I bring clarity, warmth and a little lightness to conversations that many people find difficult.

I’m truthful and transparent, while always being respectful and considerate. I’m tactful and aware. Connected and trustworthy. Warm and supportive. Strong and soft in equal measure. I can read a room pretty well.

This work isn’t just what I do, it’s who I am.

I believe people deserve to face death with openness, dignity and choice. That might mean planning a funeral, making end-of-life decisions, or simply beginning to open up to the idea of their own mortality. Talking about death is often the hardest step, but it can also be the most freeing.

If you’re looking for someone quiet who will skirt around the difficult topics, I’m probably not the right person for you.

But if you want someone who will walk beside you with truth, compassion, honesty and heart, then I can help.

Because I believe in talking about what really matters, with intention, courage, and in real, honest terms. And I know the difference that makes ❤️

19/03/2026

Love a blog, especially for and with folks on the same wavelength like Legacy Share 🙏🏼❤️

19/03/2026

Why open conversations matter ...

"Open conversations about death bring peace, clarity and connection, helping loved ones feel supported, prepared and less afraid"

In this weeks blog Katie Costello Multi Award Winning Soul Midwife, Funeral Celebrant, CPD accredited death educator, and author shares how offering love and support before, during & after death is changing the way people die and supporting those left behind.

Discover more of Katies wisdom on the Legacy Share blog page today.

19/03/2026

What I’ve been reminded of recently in my work….. ✨

All your house, stuff and possessions, as special as they are, you can’t take them with you, bricks and mortar, that’s all.

Your choices should be made for you, not for others but that’s easier said than done.

All that paperwork in the bureau/drawer you’re holding on to ‘just in case’, you won’t need it. Same goes for boxes you keep for the kettle or new gadget.

Connection and safety are THE most important things we need to feel in life, and death 💫

You don’t have to like the dying person you are connected to or supporting, not everyone is a ‘loved one’

It’s ok to laugh AND cry. You can be happy and be grieving at the same time.

End of life plans should not be made at end of life 🙌🏼

NEVER underestimate a persons will power.

A persons pain or feelings are exactly what they say they are, not what you judge them to be.

Being heard is a powerful way to support someone. Just listen, don’t respond or fix.

You can take a horse to water but you can’t make it drink

Life will throw curve balls and not all of them maybe ‘for a reason’. Sometimes this human experience just sucks. BUT. You do have choice about how you respond and move forward. What you do with that curveball could offer you lessons, growth and new opportunities or options in life, and believe it or not, in death too.

Our physical bodies, shape, size, hair, are the LEAST interesting thing about us.

We are all so unique. Not everyone will like or understand you. Stand in your own truth, come from the heart and have the best intention, and you won’t go far wrong 🙏🏼❤️

18/03/2026

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17/03/2026

Last Friday was another brilliant in-person Dying for a Cuppa ®️ masterclass, and what a lovely group it was.

This time it was a smaller, more intimate group, but honestly, every single masterclass is powerful in its own way. I’ve delivered this training one-to-one, to small groups and to larger rooms, and the magic is always the same: the people in the room.

On Friday we had individuals from very different walks of life, each bringing their own experiences, perspectives and questions. The stories people share and the conversations that unfold add so much depth to the learning.

It’s never just a training session, it becomes a space for reflection, connection and honest discussion about death, dying and the role we all play in supporting others.

And as always, Roffey Park Institute was the perfect setting. It’s such a beautiful venue for this kind of work. We have our own comfortable space, endless teas, coffees and snacks, toilets close by, and the lunches (and puddings!) are always fantastic. If you’re travelling, there are also hotel rooms available and access to the leisure facilities, so it can easily become a really nourishing time away.

A huge thank you to everyone who joined me. Your openness, honesty and willingness to explore these conversations is what makes these days so meaningful.

If you’ve been thinking about coming along, there are still a few spaces left on the upcoming dates in person or live on Zoom. Or you can enrol online at your own pace with lifetime access through my website.

Whether you come for personal reasons or professional development, these sessions consistently show just how powerful it is when we start to understand death better and how much confidence, insight and growth can come from it.

If you’ve been curious… this might be your sign to book a space. ☕❤️

https://www.katiecsoulmidwife.com/dyingforacuppathemasterclass

16/03/2026

We are so lucky to have this absolute legend joining us on Dying for a Cuppa — the amazing Angie McLachlan

On her website, Angie describes herself as ‘an artist, a priest, a thanatologist, and a dreamer’ but honestly, that barely scratches the surface.

There is very little in the world of death, dying, and funeral care that Angie hasn’t been involved in. Her work has informed and educated people across the UK and around the world, supporting everyone from independent funeral directors to forensic pathologists.

Angie is curious, invested, deeply knowledgeable, and brings both academic rigour and creative heart to everything she does. This conversation went everywhere. We covered so many topics, so many perspectives, and easily could have talked for hours more.

I’m especially excited for you to hear your thoughts on Angie’s ‘Ichabod death dummies’, yes, it’s a thing, and yes, it’s fascinating.

Angie McLachlan has 35 years of experience on death care and now provides resources guidance and care of the body training to specialist organisations. Their involvement in end- of-life-care, was recognised in 2015 - specifically for her funeral work as one of five finalists in the ‘Major Contribution to the Understanding of Death’ by the Good Funeral Awards for her work with The Ichabodies – death dummies™, a unique family of complex bodies – with medical, social and forensic features – including odours and body-fluids where appropriate.

A gentle note: we do speak very openly and honestly about death, dying, and the physical body after death, so please go at your own pace with this one.

Make yourself a big cuppa, settle in, and give this episode the space it deserves. I promise you, it will be worth it ☕️❤️

https://www.angiemclachlan.com/

15/03/2026

Love to you all this Mothering Sunday 🌷💖

13/03/2026

Last night I had the absolute honour of hearing a talk by Martin Cosser of Charlie's Promise 🩵

Martin’s son, Charlie, was stabbed to death in July 2023. The story is horrific and heartbreaking. Tonight I heard the raw, gut-wrenching reality of what Charlie’s family have gone through, as Martin shared such a real and honest account of the impact of knife crime that his family now know first-hand.

Martin has been travelling the country sharing Charlie’s story and talks in schools to kids about his story. He’s been on the news several times, in parliament, there is a documentary on ITVX, and he’s using social media to speak openly about what it’s like to be the father of a murdered son. And my God, it hits hard..

Martin has made it his mission to make sure everyone knows about his beautiful boy Charlie, and the incredible soul that he was. But his mission now is also about education. It’s not just about trying to deal with knife crime, it’s about trying to prevent it, about helping young people understand the devastating consequences of those few seconds when someone chooses to pull out a knife.

The emotion in the room last night was palpable. The grief, the heartbreak, the anger, all of it. But this talk was needed, and it made a huge impact, because these are conversations we need to be having more.

Martin’s story is raw and real. But that’s the point. It is REAL. And we so often think things like this will never happen to us… until they do.

Please take a moment to look up Charlie’s Promise. Martin made a promise to Charlie that he would continue this work, share his story, and try to make a difference, and he absolutely is. He’s also asking young people to make their own promise, to be accountable, to report knife crime or threats, and to choose not to carry a knife.

Please check out their Instagram, TikTok, the documentary, and anything you can do to support this charity will make such a difference.

https://www.charliespromise.org/

Thank you so much Martin 🩵 Rest in peace Charlie 🩵

Thank you to Dandelion Farewells for inviting me, and thank you to Rotary Club of Horsham for having me, and for supporting this incredible charity.

You can report ALL knife carriers anonymously by contacting fearless.org or by calling 0800 555 111

12/03/2026

✨ Dying Matters Awareness Week - May 2026 - Upcoming Workshops ✨

To mark Dying Matters Awareness Week in May, I’ll be hosting some TLC workshops!

1️⃣ TLC End-of-Life Care Workshop (Full Day)
📅 Tuesday 5th May
🕘 9:00am – 2:30pm
📍 Online (Zoom)

This is a gentle but powerful introduction to the principles of soul midwifery and what it means to hold space for someone at the end of life.

During the session we explore:
• Deep listening and gentle touch
• How to hold a loving bedside vigil
• The 4 stages of dying

For those considering the path into soul midwifery, completing the full-day TLC workshop counts as the introductory requirement.

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2️⃣ The 4 Stages of Dying individual Workshops

This is the module I often refer to in my Dying for a Cuppa®️ masterclass, and I’m offering it twice during the week.

📅 Thursday 7th May — 19:00pm–20:30pm
📅 Friday 8th May — 9:00am–10:30am
📍 Online (Zoom)

In this session we explore the dying process through the soul midwife perspective, connecting the stages of dying with the elements to help us understand the process in a deeply human and spiritual way.

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A quick note for clarity:
These workshops are not part of the Dying for a Cuppa®️ Masterclass and are not CPD accredited death education.

They are teachings drawn directly from the Soul Midwife School, offering insight into the more spiritual side of sitting with the dying.

Handouts and certificates of attendance are provided.

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If you feel called to understand death and dying more deeply — whether personally or professionally — these sessions offer a safe and thoughtful place to begin.

All details can be found on the TLC workshop page of my website you’ll see in the menu.

https://www.katiecsoulmidwife.com/tlcworkshops

I’d love to see you there ❤️

12/03/2026

If you are local to me and need support, please consider reaching out to the wonderful team at Olive Tree Cancer Support Group. I am looking forward to seeing them again next week for another end of life workshop offering support and information to folks who need it 💚

🌿 Supportive End of Life Workshop – Next Wednesday 🌿

Join us next Wednesday (18th March, 11am–1pm) at The Olive Tree Crawley Centre for a gentle and supportive End of Life workshop with award-winning speaker Katie Costello.

This light, informative session is designed to help you feel more prepared, supported and informed when navigating conversations and decisions around end of life.

During the workshop you will:
✨ Gain valuable knowledge and information
✨ Discover practical tools to support you and your family
✨ Take part in a gentle, supportive discussion in a safe space

📍 Location:
Wentworth House, Crawley Hospital
West Green Drive
Crawley, West Sussex, RH11 7DH

📅 Date: Wednesday 18th March
⏰ Time: 11am – 1pm

📞 To book your space, please call 01293 534465 or speak to reception at the centre.

This workshop aims to bring comfort, understanding and reassurance around an important topic, helping you feel more supported and informed.

11/03/2026

Have you heard of the footballers prayer? ⚽️ 🙏🏼