Somatic Tao

Somatic Tao Simple, effective relief for stress and trauma SOMATIC TAO is the home of BEN, Babyhood Emotional Neglect and how to heal the fall out of BEN.

SOMATIC TAO is an integrated neuro-somatic emotionally aware therapeutic approach that helps treat mental and physical symptoms of stress, trauma and early life neglect.
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SOMATIC TAO understands that most modern day mental and physical "ills" are due to a lack of ability to tolerate and process emotional energies:

• rage and protest energy mobilised in answer to unmet needs;
• toxic shame created by unmet very early developmental needs;
• grief due to loss, rejection and abandonment;
• fear and terror due to unmet need for safety and security.
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Working with:

• Dr Peter Levine's Somatic Experiencing (SE) to track felt sense of the body;
• Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory to identify the active part of the nervous system;
• knowledge of Traumatology;
• Parts of Self Theory; and
• the Taoist Philosophy understanding of how emotions affect health

SOMATIC TAO encourages suppressed emotions and trauma energy locked in your body to process, thereby increasing your mental and physical wellness.
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Combining the above with knowledge of Bowlby's Attachment Theory, SOMATIC TAO works with adults suffering the impact of:

• Babyhood Emotional Neglect, (BEN);
• Adverse Babyhood Experiences, (ABEs); and
• Adverse Childhood Experiences, (ACEs)

to recover emotional resilience and capacity to live an empowered and meaningful life for yourself and in relationship with others.
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With over 19 years experience of working with stress, emotional distress and trauma, plus familiarity of medical terms and drug mechanisms gained from previous careers in neuroscience and the pharmaceutical industry, I am able to share a unique and comprehensive approach to health to both clients and supervisees working in the mental health field. PLEASE NOTE: Somatic Tao does NOT use Messenger. Please contact using email at info@somatictao.co.uk
Many thanks.

JONICE WEBB – NEGLECT: THE OPPOSITE OF MISTREATMENT"Emotional neglect is, in some ways, the opposite of mistreatment and...
18/03/2026

JONICE WEBB – NEGLECT: THE OPPOSITE OF MISTREATMENT

"Emotional neglect is, in some ways, the opposite of mistreatment and abuse."

Jonice Webb
Psychologist and author

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 BEN CHANGES WIRING OF THE BRAIN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1A2TFYgTt6/

📌 THE THREAT IN BEN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1FA9rX3zfG/

📌 SCIENCE STILL NEGLECTS EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1BTu7YiWsp/

📌 BEN LEADS TO LASTING EMOTIONAL & PHYSICAL PAIN
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DPTnUXPaE/

📌 TREATMENT OF TRAUMA – SINGLE EVENT vs DEVELOPMENTAL
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1avEeat6EY/






















THE THREAT IN BENA study in 2025 [1], confirms that when mothers experience deprivation or neglect in childhood, their i...
17/03/2026

THE THREAT IN BEN

A study in 2025 [1], confirms that when mothers experience deprivation or neglect in childhood, their infants show changes in brain structure - reduced gray matter, and larger amygdala and hippocampal volumes, linked to higher cortisol levels. This suggests infant cortisol is a key biological bridge between generations. But what’s the threat that raises it?

Trauma researcher Karlen Lyons-Ruth notes that neglect isn’t yet well understood as a “threat.” Lack of care doesn’t look like danger — but for a baby, it is potentially life-threatening. When a caregiver is emotionally absent, both the attachment and threat systems become highly activated at once.

BEN, Babyhood Emotional Neglect isn’t an attack from outside - there’s no enemy to fight or flee from. Instead, BEN involves threat of nonexistence and abandonment. BEN triggers the deep emotional drive to attach and cry for help/protest. When that cry goes unanswered, the baby’s own escalating emotion becomes the threat.

Here’s how the cycle unfolds:

😭 BEN activates the emotion of attach/cry for help/protest.
😳 Without co-regulation, emotion becomes an internal biological threat.
🧠 Cortisol rises, accelerating fear pathways in the brain.
⚡️ The infant becomes hypersensitive to threat.
🚫 Promotion of emoturity and emotional resilience are stunted.
🗣 Impulse and social regulation weaken.
💊 Risk for mental and physical illness later in life increases.

BEN creates threat inside the body — one that can’t be escaped. Instead, BEN necessitates:

🫥 Energetic flight → dissociation, anxiety, ADHD
🔥 Fight → neuroinflammation
🤦‍♀️ Freeze → toxic shame, syndromes

BEN is the hidden core of Adverse Babyhood Experiences (ABEs) — a silent, intergenerational force creating and escalating lifelong illness and unhappiness.

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 Introduction of BEN: https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=894198262721482&set=a.457198723088107

📌 INTRODUCING BEA – BABYHOOD EMOTIONAL ATTUNEMENT:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DHEbELSCW/

📌 BEN & Caregiver History of BEN
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1GLpM8h9sn

📌 EVIDENCE BEN IS INTERGENERATIONAL
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19qoVjjsmq/

📌 Emoturity - Nervous System Emotional Maturity:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16Hh4tXebz/

📌 Emoturity Affects Life & Health:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19LN8uu4Pt/

📌 Emotional Intelligence Is Not Emoturity:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/15HmjdyGMc/

📌 EMOTURITY IS BUILT ON NEUROPLASTICITY
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1CFA4pMemf/

📌 BEN CHANGES WIRING OF THE BRAIN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1A2TFYgTt6/

📌 BEN's NEUROINFLAMMATION:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1Foy23rEjq/

📌 DSM LABELS of BEN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/17NRmtgiyo/

📌 BEN’s RISK OF ADHD
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1EAaz3vLjR/

📌 IMPROVING LONG-TERM HEALTH OUTCOMES:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1GBmxvvYup/

RESEARCH:

[1] Lyons-Ruth, K. (2025). Is neglect the first form of threat? Attachment & Human Development, 27(4), 511–538. https://doi.org/10.1080/14616734.2025.2518687













15/03/2026

SOOTHING SUNDAY – Mother Nature’s Painting...

Mother Nature’s
Painting
Of the sky with
Beautiful shades
Of blue
And pink.












THREE INNER STATES OF EMOTIONAL WELLBEINGSecure attachment does not begin with behaviour.It begins with the inner states...
14/03/2026

THREE INNER STATES OF EMOTIONAL WELLBEING

Secure attachment does not begin with behaviour.

It begins with the inner states a baby comes to feel about themselves.

When a caregiver consistently responds with emotional attunement, three core self-states emerge:

🌟 I exist
❤️ I am loved
✅ My needs are important

These states become the foundation of identity, emotional regulation and relationship capacity.

When they are present, development unfolds with safety and connection.

This is BEA - Babyhood Emotional Attunement.

And it is the antidote to BEN - Babyhood Emotional Neglect.

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 Introduction of BEA:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DHEbELSCW/

📌 Introduction of BEN: https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=894198262721482&set=a.457198723088107

📌 BEN & Caregiver History of BEN
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1GLpM8h9sn

📌 EVIDENCE BEN IS INTERGENERATIONAL
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19qoVjjsmq/

📌 Emoturity - Nervous System Emotional Maturity:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16Hh4tXebz/

📌 Emoturity Affects Life & Health:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19LN8uu4Pt/

📌 Emotional Intelligence Is Not Emoturity:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/15HmjdyGMc/

📌 EMOTURITY IS BUILT ON NEUROPLASTICITY
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1CFA4pMemf/

📌 BEN CHANGES WIRING OF THE BRAIN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1A2TFYgTt6/

📌 Links to SITUATIONS OF RISK OF BEN 1 – 20 can be found here:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1Ck6ueHUmR/












ALLAN SCHORE – Poor Emoture Parenting"If an infant... does not have adequate experiences of being part of an open dynami...
13/03/2026

ALLAN SCHORE – Poor Emoture Parenting

"If an infant... does not have adequate experiences of being part of an open dynamic system with an emotionally responsive adult human, its corticolimbic organization will be poorly capable of coping with the stressful chaotic dynamics that are inherent in all human relationships."

Dr Allan Schore,
Neuropsychoanalyst, Clinician, Scientist

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 Emoturity - Nervous System Emotional Maturity:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16Hh4tXebz/

📌 Emotional Maturity & Resiliency:
https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1Kkndgmhjd/

📌 Emoturity Affects Life & Health:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19LN8uu4Pt/

📌EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IS NOT EMOTURITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/15HmjdyGMc/

📌 EMOTURITY IS BUILT ON NEUROPLASTICITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1CFA4pMemf/

📌 EMOTION WIRES THE NERVOUS SYSTEM:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BbHRZub7o/

📌 Introduction of BEN: https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=894198262721482&set=a.457198723088107

📌 BEN CHANGES WIRING OF THE BRAIN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1A2TFYgTt6/

📌 BEN’s EFFECT ON BIOLOGY, BEHAVIOUR & HEALTH:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/14VfivnG9Yz/

📌 BEN LEADS TO LASTING EMOTIONAL & PHYSICAL PAIN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DPTnUXPaE/

📌 BEN & Caregiver History of BEN
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1GLpM8h9sn
















11/03/2026

SCIENCE STILL NEGLECTS EMOTIONAL NEGLECT

“There are very big differences between emotional deprivation and physical deprivation. They have very different implications in terms of their effect on the brain and their risks to psychopathology.”

- Martin Teicher, MD, PhD
Director, Developmental Biopsychiatry Research Program, McLean Hospital, USA.

In 2024, Teicher’s group published a review on the neurobiological consequences of childhood maltreatment [1].

The paper explains that infants do not regulate stress independently. They rely on caregivers to buffer their stress response system, particularly the HPA axis (hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis).

When caregivers are responsive and nurturing, cortisol responses to stress are reduced.

In other words, regulation first occurs between two nervous systems before it becomes internalised.

➡️ A caregiver’s presence regulates the infant’s physiology
➡️ Distress → caregiver response → physiological settling
➡️ Repeated cycles gradually build internal regulation capacity

Science refers to this process as “caregiver social buffering.”

When this buffering is absent – as in neglect or deprivation:

👉 stress responses may remain chronically elevated
👉 stress systems may become hypersensitive or dysregulated
👉 neural circuits involved in emotion and regulation develop differently

This is one pathway through which early adversity shapes later mental health risk.

Yet the scientific literature rarely isolates emotionally attuned caregiving as the key developmental input - despite research clearly showing:

🎯 caregiver interaction regulates infant stress biology
🎯 this process shapes emotional regulation systems

Emotional neglect is still rarely framed as a distinct category of adversity. Instead, it remains embedded within the broader category of deprivation.

☹️ BEN - Babyhood Emotional Neglect - remains invisible.
It still has no name in science.

Video credit: NICABM

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 Introduction of BEN: https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=894198262721482&set=a.457198723088107

📌 HOW BEN BECAME NEGLECTED - Part 1 (with links to Parts 2 – 6)
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16mhe7Ys8f/

📌 THE THREAT IN BEN
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BHBRhLTpY/

📌 BEN CHANGES WIRING OF THE BRAIN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1A2TFYgTt6/

📌 Emoturity - Nervous System Emotional Maturity:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16Hh4tXebz/

📌 Emoturity Affects Life & Health:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19LN8uu4Pt/

📌 Emotional Intelligence Is Not Emoturity:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/15HmjdyGMc/

📌 EMOTURITY IS BUILT ON NEUROPLASTICITY
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1CFA4pMemf/

📌 BEN & Caregiver History of BEN
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1GLpM8h9sn

📌 EVIDENCE BEN IS INTERGENERATIONAL
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19qoVjjsmq/

📌 Links to SITUATIONS OF RISK OF BEN 1 -20 can be found here:
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1Ey3HQtNBW/

RESEARCH:

[1] Samson, J.A., Newkirk, T.R. and Teicher, M.H. (2024), Practitioner Review: Neurobiological consequences of childhood maltreatment – clinical and therapeutic implications for practitioners. J Child Psychol Psychiatr, 65: 369-380. https://doi.org/10.1111/jcpp.13883













TINNITUS MAY NOT BE AN EAR PROBLEMTinnitus has traditionally been understood as a noise-related ear problem, often linke...
09/03/2026

TINNITUS MAY NOT BE AN EAR PROBLEM

Tinnitus has traditionally been understood as a noise-related ear problem, often linked to hearing damage [1].

However, neuroscience increasingly suggests tinnitus is primarily a brain-generated phenomenon [2, 3].

When auditory input is reduced or distorted, the brain compensates by increasing neural amplification in auditory circuits. It effectively fills the silence with internally generated signal, producing the ringing or buzzing associated with tinnitus.

Recent research highlights another factor: sleep [4].

Research now shows a bidirectional relationship between tinnitus and poor sleep.

During deep parasympathetic slow-wave sleep, large synchronised brain waves sweep across the cortex, coordinating neural activity and helping dampen excessive neural firing.

These slow-wave patterns may temporarily suppress hyperactive auditory circuits responsible for tinnitus.

Yet, tinnitus itself increases vigilance and arousal, making restorative sleep difficult. Poor sleep then reduces the brain’s ability to regulate neural activity.

The result can become a reinforcing loop:

tinnitus → disrupted sleep → reduced neural regulation → stronger tinnitus.

Within Taoist energetics, a similar pattern is described differently.

Excess Wood/anger energy leads to Water/Kidney Yin deficiency, preventing Kidney Qi from nourishing the ears. Tinnitus and hearing loss may follow. Plus, without Yin anchoring, Yang ascends to disturb the Spirit/Shen, producing agitation, insomnia and sensory disturbance.

From an emotological perspective, the driver may be excess or repressed anger and disgust – emotions that underpin stress. Stress mobilises the sympathetic nervous system and disturbs neural regulation. It is also well known for worsening tinnitus [5] and disrupting sleep.

Finally, modern neuroscience suggests the brain is fundamentally generative - perception arises not only from external stimuli but from internal neural dynamics [6].

Tinnitus illustrates this clearly: the nervous system may perceive signals generated within itself - possibly driven by unspent emotion in the neurophysiology.

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 HOW TAOISM IDENTIFIES OUR EMOTIONS:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1FmXgVBePY/

📌 HOW EMOTIONS MAINTAIN HEALTH:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DwqV6gY1d/

📌 HOW EMOTIONS MODERATE HEALTH:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DFBxMFK9k/

📌 TAOIST ENERGETICS OF NEEDS MET
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/17WVZGTrdw/

📌 TAOIST ENERGETICS OF UNMET NEEDS
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/17Nzco9Rdu/

📌 Emoturity - Nervous System Emotional Maturity:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16Hh4tXebz/

📌 EMOTURITY IS BUILT ON NEUROPLASTICITY
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1CFA4pMemf/

📌 Emoturity Affects Life & Health:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19LN8uu4Pt/

📌 ACID REFLUX & GASTRITIS – PHYSICAL OR EMOTIONAL?
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/17yUf4Gu69/

📌 NECK CIRCUMFERENCE & CARDIAC STRESS
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1MGMDpmLjt/


RESEARCH:

[1] Susan E. Shore, Calvin Wu, Mechanisms of Noise-Induced Tinnitus: Insights from Cellular Studies, Neuron, Volume 103, Issue 1, 2019, Pages 8-20, ISSN 0896-6273,
https://doi.org/10.1016/j.neuron.2019.05.008

[2] Shore, S., Roberts, L. & Langguth, B. Maladaptive plasticity in tinnitus — triggers, mechanisms and treatment. Nat Rev Neurol 12, 150–160 (2016). https://doi.org/10.1038/nrneurol.2016.12

[3] Rauschecker JP, Leaver AM, Mühlau M. Tuning out the noise: limbic-auditory interactions in tinnitus. Neuron. 2010 Jun 24;66(6):819-26. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.neuron.2010.04.032

[4] Linus Milinski, Fernando R. Nodal, Vladyslav V. Vyazovskiy, Victoria M. Bajo, Tinnitus: at a crossroad between phantom perception and sleep, Brain Communications, Volume 4, Issue 3, 2022, fcac089, https://doi.org/10.1093/braincomms/fcac089

[5] Baguley, David et al. Tinnitus
The Lancet, Volume 382, Issue 9904, 1600 – 1607 https://doi.org/10.1016/S0140-6736(13)60142-7

[6] Friston, K. The free-energy principle: a unified brain theory?. Nat Rev Neurosci 11, 127–138 (2010). https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn2787












08/03/2026

SOOTHING SUNDAY – Life Is So Much Better...

Life
Is so much better
When you live
Close
And in harmony
With others.












INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY  8th March 2026Brighton and Hove City Council, UK, have granted planning permission to erect a...
08/03/2026

INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY

8th March 2026

Brighton and Hove City Council, UK, have granted planning permission to erect a statue of Mary Clarke opposite the entrance to the Theatre Royal in the centre of the city.

The approved location is very meaningful for two reasons:

1) it is close to the historic Brighton Dome, a building listed in 2018 by Historic England as "a site of national suffrage interest”, because so many suffrage meetings were held there.

2) it is in sight of the Brighton Royal Pavilion which also hosted many suffragette meetings, including Mary’s own memorial meeting after her death.

Mary Clarke was the sister of Emmeline Pankhurst and became the first suffragette to die for the right of women to vote as a result of the injury she suffered on “Black Friday” just over 125 years ago.

On Friday 18 November 1910, about 300 suffragettes were beaten and sexually assaulted as they attempted to lobby Parliament.

Mary Clarke died of a brain haemorrhage just over a month later, on Christmas Day, two days after she was released from Holloway Prison, London, where she went on hunger strike and was reportedly forcibly fed.

She had run the Brighton office of the Women’s Social and Political Union from 1909-10 and worked across the south east.

And she lived in the Seaview guest house, at 13 Victoria Road, run by fellow suffragette, Minnie Turner.

Councillor She McLeay writes, "The ethos behind this statue aligns with commitments already made by Brighton and Hove City Council to support women and girls.

This includes the ambition to become the UK capital of women’s and girls’ sport and the council’s work to reduce violence against women and girls by 50 per cent over the next decade.

“At a time when women’s rights are being undermined in many parts of the world, commemorating the struggle that secured women the vote in the UK feels especially important."

Posted in honour of .

Suffragette statue granted planning permission – Brighton and Hove News https://share.google/FPE1Wj7yBJFXKdNsM












THE TAOIST MAP OF THE NERVOUS SYSTEMTaoism and Traditional Chinese Medicine, TCM, mapped the intentions of the autonomic...
07/03/2026

THE TAOIST MAP OF THE NERVOUS SYSTEM

Taoism and Traditional Chinese Medicine, TCM, mapped the intentions of the autonomic nervous system thousands of years ago.

Taoist physicians did not know about nerves. Instead, they understood that spiritual health, consciousness, mental well-being and emotional vitality are rooted in the functional activity of the body’s five Yin/solid organs.

Within TCM, the Five Spirits (Wu Shen) are seen as guardians of our emotional and spiritual health:

💚 Hun - Liver (3) - The Ethereal Soul: creativity, dreams, vision, planning and life direction.
❤️ Shen - Heart - The Sovereign Spirit: consciousness, emotional presence, and clarity of mind.
🧡 Yi - Spleen - The Intellect: focus, study, memory and the organisation of thought.
🤍 Po - Lung (7) - The Corporeal Soul: instinct, bodily sensation, and connection to the present moment.
💙 Zhi - Kidneys – Willpower: determination, courage and motivation.

This framework recognised something modern neuroscience has rediscovered in the last 30 years: the body senses and responds to danger before the thinking mind can name it. In this sense, TCM has been working with what modern times now represent as the Polyvagal Theory for over two millennia.

When the Five Spirits are harmonised, just like a well-regulated autonomic nervous system, life expresses balance and purpose. When disturbed, we may see:

👉 mental health issues such as anxiety, depression or manic states;
👉 emotional dysregulation; and
👉 physical symptoms such as muscle and tendon stiffness, insomnia, palpitations, digestive issues, weak immunity, lower back pain, or deafness.

In other words, what modern medicine calls nervous system regulation, Taoist medicine understood as the harmony of spirit within the organs of the body.

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 HOW TAOISM IDENTIFIES OUR EMOTIONS:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1FmXgVBePY/

📌 HOW EMOTIONS MAINTAIN HEALTH:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DwqV6gY1d/

📌 HOW EMOTIONS MODERATE HEALTH:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DFBxMFK9k/

📌 TAOIST ENERGETICS OF NEEDS MET
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/17WVZGTrdw/

📌 TAOIST ENERGETICS OF UNMET NEEDS
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/17Nzco9Rdu/

📌 Emoturity - Nervous System Emotional Maturity:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16Hh4tXebz/

📌 EMOTURITY IS BUILT ON NEUROPLASTICITY
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1CFA4pMemf/

📌 Emoturity Affects Life & Health:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19LN8uu4Pt/

📌 Emotional Intelligence Is Not Emoturity:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/15HmjdyGMc/












RANDINE LEWIS – SYMPTOM RESOLUTION ALONE…"Symptom resolution alone, taking away someone’s discomfort is the lowest form ...
06/03/2026

RANDINE LEWIS – SYMPTOM RESOLUTION ALONE…

"Symptom resolution alone, taking away someone’s discomfort is the lowest form of medicine. And, it can actually prevent people from changing and from transforming.”

Randine Lewis
Author and Teacher of Chinese Medicine

Because … symptoms are information about what we can’t see.

Because … symptoms are signs of imbalance.

Because … symptoms are invitations to realign to the Tao.

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 FALLIBLE ASSUMPTION OF WESTERN MEDICINE:
https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=1066099845531322&set=a.457198723088107

📌 IMPROVING LONG-TERM HEALTH OUTCOMES:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1ALBWBK3s4/

📌 EMOTURITY AFFECTS LIFE & HEALTH:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19LN8uu4Pt/

📌 EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IS NOT EMOTURITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/15HmjdyGMc/

📌 MENTAL ILLNESS OR WHOLE-BODY RESPONSE:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1CssuCBdXZ/













IS “CRY IT OUT” OUTDATED?More than 700 psychologists in Denmark signed an open letter, (August 2019) urging authorities ...
05/03/2026

IS “CRY IT OUT” OUTDATED?

More than 700 psychologists in Denmark signed an open letter, (August 2019) urging authorities to reconsider sleep-training advice that encourages parents to ignore infant crying [1].

Why?

Because crying is not bad behaviour.

For a baby, crying is communication. It signals that the nervous system needs safety, comfort and connection.

Research increasingly shows that prolonged distress without response can elevate stress hormones such as cortisol, potentially influencing the development of the brain and the body’s ability to regulate stress later in life.

Babies are not manipulating their parents.

They are seeking co-regulation.

When emotional signals are met with consistent attunement, the nervous system learns something fundamental:

Connection is safe.

Within Attachment Theory and Polyvagal-informed perspectives on nervous system development, this distinction is important.

When emotional signals repeatedly go unanswered, the nervous system must adapt.
This adaptation is BEN — Babyhood Emotional Neglect.

When emotional signals are consistently met with attunement and responsiveness, emotion energy is metabolised and integrated.
This is BEA — Babyhood Emotional Attunement.

Development does not begin with independence.

It begins with attunement.

Because before a child can regulate themselves, their nervous system must first experience being regulated by another.

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 BEN & CAREGIVER PARENTING STYLE – SLEEP TRAINING
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1MaSfNkAfB/

📌 Introduction of BEN: https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=894198262721482&set=a.457198723088107

📌 INTRODUCING BEA – BABYHOOD EMOTIONAL ATTUNEMENT:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DHEbELSCW/

📌 Emoturity - Nervous System Emotional Maturity:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16Hh4tXebz/

📌 EMOTURITY IS BUILT ON NEUROPLASTICITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1CFA4pMemf/

📌 Emoturity Affects Life & Health:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19LN8uu4Pt/

📌 Emotional Intelligence Is Not Emoturity:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/15HmjdyGMc/

📌 THE THREAT IN BEN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BHBRhLTpY/

📌 EVIDENCE BEN IS INTERGENERATIONAL:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19qoVjjsmq/

📌 BEN & Caregiver History of BEN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1GLpM8h9sn

RESEARCH:

[1] Lassen, M.-S. & Bjørnfort, M.B. (2020). Study of guidance and practice in relation to child sleep and sleep training in Denmark, Greenland and the Faroe Islands. https://soevnvejledning.dk/english/ [2026 03 04]














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Somatic Tao is an integrated, holistic approach to treat all manner of physical and emotional symptoms ranging from: panic and anxiety; to rage and depression due to abuse; to pain from physical injury or surgery. It is a neural-somatically aware therapeutic approach that tracks and teaches how to attune to the nervous system speaking in the body. Working with:


  • the body awareness of Somatic Experiencing (SE) to track the nervous system;

  • the biological and emotional aspects of trauma; and

  • the Taoist philosophy of Chinese Medicine,