Kelly Thistlethwaite

01/05/2025

This feels like a full circle moment ✨

Five months ago I sat in my friends living room tired, nervous and so excited to record this podcast episode. It was a big moment for me.

I look upto and feel so grateful for for many reasons. The biggest one being that after hearing her speak with about Matrescence- for the first time since becoming a mother I felt seen, supported and understood.

My shoulders relaxed, I took a deep exhale and cried. As the tears rolled down my face I knew that I needed to hear more.

I bought her book (I can highly recommend it ladies- I will link in my stories and highlights) , signed up to her coaching course and decided to become an accredited Matrescence coach in the hope that my words could too help someone feel this way one day.

I loved this conversation. I got to share my story, the work that I do to support mothers both here abd and have a moment in time with the lady who shaped the Women and Mother I am today ✨

If you would like to listen or watch this episode I will link it in my stories and highlights. And as always, I would love to know what you think ❤️

Let me know in the comments or DM me.

Enjoy ✨

Sending love.

Kelly 🙏

30/04/2025

I’ve often found it hard to relax and esp since becoming a mum.

It takes me time to come down from all of the doing, planning, sorting, thinking ahead, reacting, regulating emotions, risk assessing on the go with a toddler, answering all of the questions (ALL of them) the over stimulation of sound and so on.

It often takes me time to switch lanes. To regulate my own nervous system and to be honest since becoming a mum of two I’ve started questioning if it’s even really possible to fully switch off anymore. You know- for a decent period of time to feel rested, reset, energised and some stillness.

It’s often fleeting. Like all of a sudden I’m pulled back to thoughts about my girls- I miss them I hope they are ok. Did they have their hat today? We are out of nappies- I need to order those, we need a birthday gift for the weekend, did I handle this mornings melt down ok? I hope they are happy, what shall we have for tea? Will they even eat it! and the list goes on.

I find everything that surround mothering adds weight. Loving them is easy. It’s everything else.

I think our nervous systems work overtime. They are slammed and have little time to recover. Day after day, year after year- this adds up.

We function in a fight and flight state more often, our window of tolerance narrows (the zone where we feel calm, rested, chilled, present etc) and it’s harder to make our way back to it. Esp on little sleep.

That’s why little and often is key for me. To weave moments and hours into my week that allow me to destress, come down from it all, rest, energised, look up and breathe slowly. Not answer questions, not hear mum, not react.

Yoga, running, cycling, crafting, swimming, walking, sitting in the garden hammock listening to birds (like in this photo), gardening (my latest hobby that I’m obsessed with 🪴) and watching house renovating programs.

Time for me and just me.

They say you teach what you need- and I need yoga ❤️

What helps you?
Can you relate?

Let’s make time to edge our way home as often as we can. Little and often ✨

Sending love

Kel x

12/04/2025

I nearly didn’t go.

All the reasons to not go were loud-
😩I’m not ready
😩It’s too much of a rush
😩I don’t know anyone
😩What if I’m too slow
😩What if I get a flat tyre and can’t fix it
And it went on…

My hubby was encouraging me and helping to get my bike ready (bike admin is a faff!), whilst also reminding me that ‘it’s just a bike ride, I will love it and to get myself gone’

He doesn’t mince his words 🤣

Lily -May then came upto me and said ‘mummy, it’s ok. We can be scared and brave” And I was reminded again that in moments like this we can acknowledge the challenges AND we can stand tall, take a deep breath and step out of our comfort zone ✨

So I was getting ready literally saying to myself
✨ I can do this
✨ Everything will be fine
✨It’s just a bike ride
✨ I will meet people and they will help me
✨I will feel amazing after this

And off I went. Scared, nervous, excited. All of it.

Today I joined and it was fab. The ladies I cycled with were lovely and everyone was so friendly.

The scenery was beautiful (it was hilly obvs) and I feel so proud of myself.

It’s a week of first for me. And I feel better for them.

If you are scared to try something- can you take a deep breath, stand tall and feel the fear and do it anyway?

I bet you can ❤️

Sending love.

Kel x

: Session done 🙌🏻💪 🚲

10/04/2025

Lots of people say that online classes just don’t feel the same as in person classes and I totally get that .

The physical interaction with others, the change of scenery, the smell of the studio, the feel of it all- but one thing that I have to disagree with is the often commented lack of connection that online classes can have.

Today I thought a Yoga class for the lovely retreat ladies in Spain with and and I felt it.

The connection to the group, to the space, to the time that we had together.

I think that online classes and groups can bridge the gap from feeling isolated and alone to feeling apart of a group. From feeling unmotivated to being inspired. To feeling disconnected to feeling connected.

As mums we may lack childcare, transport, be time poor, be feeling exhausted and anxious to try something new, feel unable to leave our children or scared to go out in the dark.

There is a place for online classes and community’s - a big one.

I felt it today ❤️

Thank you for having me and . Enjoy the rest of your retreat ladies.

And for any mums wanting online support throughout their pregnancy and postpartum (which we always are)- checkout my online platform .

Sending love.

Kel ❤️

03/04/2025

“Into the water I go to loose my mind and find my soul”

After tea yesterday my husband suggested heading to the lake for a cold water dip. He could see that after the week we have had (well longer with the prep of moving house) that I was hitting the wall and not behind my eyes.

It be beautiful and overwhelming. On top of the house move, Lily-May starting school, Mother’s Day, an epic 10k, the girls birthdays- Rosie hasn’t been well and I had my period (thanks universe).

This was exactly what I needed.

Cold water is so anchoring. It brings you into the moment in an instant if you can regulate your breathing.

There is no where else you can be but in your body and focusing on your breath.

Looking across at the mountains and the sunset - I was back. For a short while at least- I was in that sweet spot where I felt calm, present, at ease, clarity, stillness.

I talk about nervous system regulation lots and this was my way of finding my way back to it last night.

It isn’t always. Sometimes I need different things. But more times than not- nature is a sure thing for me.

Nervous system regulation and emotional regulation is a lifestyle choice. A daily requirement. Like your 5 a day for fruit and veg (albeit we know that’s dated). But you get what I mean.

I teach this and still need reminding. Sometimes I need to do things more than once a day.

We must weave things into our day that support us. And do them again and again. Try something and if it doesn’t work or isn’t enough- then try something else.

Thank you for often seeing what I need when I can’t hubby.

What do you need today as you read this? Can you make time for it in some way?

Sending love.

Kel x

Note: Cold water isn’t for everyone and puts our body under lots of stress. If you have the capacity for this in your system then its benefits are incredible but please always build up to the exposure, seek guidance and check that you are able to try it by a medical professional.

High blood pressure, heart conditions, medications, pregnancy (and the list continues) can be high risk factors alongside others to note just a few.

02/04/2025

Lily-May ☀️ and Rosie 🌈 are now 6 and 2!

I still can’t believe that they share their birthday with each other.

I love it tho. It feels so special.

We love you with all of our hearts girls .Keep being you- you are both amazing☀️🌈 ###

23/06/2024

Signs that your nervous system is dysregulated postpartum ⬆️

Some of these to some extent are expected- you’ve given birth and are straight into sleep deprivation, hormonal fluctuations and the responsibility of being a mother.

Nothing is an issue until it’s an issue and three things to reflect on are:
1. Frequency
2. Duration
3. Intensity

Asking yourself how often do I feel this way? How long does it last? How intense is the feeling?

These questions can really help you to monitor if a fallout of nervous system dysregulation is increasing and is something which you may want some support with.

If we stay in and function in alternative nervous system states for too long (which is possible and too common) we burnout and our mental, emotional and physical health are impacted . It can lead to conditions such as postpartum depletion, postpartum anxiety and postpartum depression.

You are not failing if you can relate. You are not a bad mum. You are an amazing mum, you are doing an incredible job and know that you are not alone in feeling this way. You can and you will get through this stage and feel different.

Try some of my suggestions on how to reduce your stress/treat response and regulate your NS and see how they make you feel.

If you would like more help check out our support bundles and my in person support groups. You can also contact me if you have any questions about them.

Sending you all lots of love and support.

Kel🙏

*Worth adding- we are always postpartum and we can feel this way at any stage of motherhood- not just in the first year.

📚 Nervous system Info…

A dysregulated nervous system is a sign of stress in your system.

Stressful events can be big or small and the negative effects of them can build up over time if not noticed and released.

A dysregulated nervous system can present in many ways and you may experience some symptoms more than others.

Often we don’t notice the effects of the small stressors and they stack up.

They stack, stack, stack and then they surface. The body makes us listen. The good news- we can always come back to regulation and ease in time.

One step at a time. You are not alone 🙏

20/06/2024

08/06/2024

Happy 8th Wedding Anniversary to us ❤️

And what an 8 years it’s been. We have had so many beautiful adventures and we have many more to come. Still the best decision I’ve made. I love you ❤️

06/05/2024

Join us for a Women’s Wellness Retreat with a wholesome line-up for mind, body and Soul.

Discover ultimate rejuvenation and tranquility. Immerse yourself in a holistic experience tailored to enhance your wellbeing.

Delight in an empowering HIIT workout, Relaxing Yoga session, an educational workshop on nutrition, a calming soundbath a nourishing lunch and some fashion therapy.

Unwind, connect, and embrace self-care at this supportive retreat day. Indulge in a truly revitalizing escape for women seeking balance and harmony.

You will experience a Bootcamp style HIIT workout from Nina , followed by a relaxing Yoga and breath work session with me. Then enjoy a nutritious meal and receive an educational talk by Jane from followed with an immersive soundbath by Kelly from .energy.holistics .

Thats not all, end the day chatting away over some cake and fizz/tea/coffee while enjoying some fashion therapy with Rebecca from .wardrobe and find out more about colour analysis.

Leave feeling rejuvenated, supported, loved and like a new woman!

To find out more or to book your place- visit the link: https://healingenergyholistics.com/services/ola/services/women-s-wellness-retreat-1

I hope to see you there ladies ❤️🙏

25/04/2024

I am so excited to be apart of the amazing team at .

I will be bringing my skills and specialist interests of supporting Mothers with emotional regulation and trauma healing.

The combination of neurosensory exercises, trauma informed Yoga and Breathwork, (cold water therapy where possible and appropriate), nervous system education and Matrescence coaching.

Alongside the skills of others in the team, we are going to support so many parents and families.

The mission is big but so is the team’s ambition, experience and skillset.

I am grateful for the opportunities that have and are coming my way. And especially for this one. Laura is one of my soul sisters and bloody amazing at her job. What she has created is special and much needed. I’m buzzing to be apart of it ❤️

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