31/01/2026
Great post from The Way Of The Horse! I seen so many clients for anger issues… not a single one of them was an a-hole (although this is what they believed about themselves)… Every single one of them was managing a nervous system on high alert. Every single one of them wanted change.
🙌Trust the process 🙌
Sometimes it’s not that you’re angry.
It’s that your nervous system is in fight.
Fight doesn’t always look like rage.
It can look like:
• irritability
• snapping at people you love
• feeling constantly on edge
• needing control
• strong opinions that feel urgent
• frustration bubbling just under the surface
• feeling defensive or easily triggered
• a sense of “I’ve had enough”
Inside, there’s heat.
Tension.
A readiness to protect.
This isn’t you being difficult.
It isn’t you being aggressive.
And it isn’t who you “really are.”
It’s your nervous system saying:
“I had to fight to survive once.”
Fight develops when boundaries were crossed.
When your voice wasn’t heard.
When being passive wasn’t safe.
So the body learned:
If I stay strong, alert, ready — I won’t be hurt again.
There is nothing wrong with this response.
It’s intelligent.
Protective.
And once, it kept you safe.
Healing isn’t about suppressing the fight.
It’s about helping the body learn:
“I don’t need to stay in battle anymore.”
Through safety.
Through being met.
Through regulation — not restraint.
When fight softens, what often appears underneath is tenderness…
and exhaustion from holding the line for so long. 🤍🐎
