13/03/2026
A lot of people assume that practitioners arrive at this work because they studied it.
For many of us, it started because we lived it first.
Earlier in my life I experienced how deeply the nervous system can be shaped by things like bullying, feeling unsafe to be seen, and spending long periods of time in environments where control, criticism or emotional pressure were present.
As I’ve come to understand my own neurodivergence, I’ve also been able to look back with more compassion and recognise how some of those traits made me more vulnerable to finding myself in difficult or even abusive dynamics.
Not because there was anything wrong with me.
But because when you’re wired to be empathetic, accommodating and highly aware of other people’s needs, it can be harder to recognise when your own boundaries are being crossed.
Those experiences taught my nervous system something powerful:
Visibility didn’t feel safe.
When you learn that speaking up, standing out or succeeding might lead to judgement, conflict or attempts to pull you back into place, your nervous system adapts.
It learns to stay small.
To stay careful.
To stay vigilant.
For a long time those patterns quietly shaped how I showed up in life and in my work.
Many of the people who resonate with this work are thoughtful, empathetic and deeply aware of others - the very qualities that can sometimes make us more vulnerable in unhealthy dynamics.
Over time - through therapy, nervous system work and deep personal exploration - I began to understand what was happening inside my system.
And when you understand the nervous system, something beautiful happens.
You stop fighting yourself.
You start working with your system instead of against it.
That journey is a big part of why I care so deeply about this work.
Because I know how much can change when someone finally realises:
*they’re not broken - their nervous system was simply trying to protect them.*
If any of this resonates with you, you're very welcome in this space.
