Novara Counselling and Coaching Lincoln

11/05/2026

“Domestic abuse does not always look like bruises. Sometimes it looks like walking on eggshells, doubting your reality, and losing yourself piece by piece. And sometimes the bravest love story is the one where you choose yourself and walk away." These are the words of a survivor of domestic abuse. She has agreed for us to share this post in the hope it might help others.

This is her message:

“I thought love meant shrinking myself to keep someone else calm and keeping the peace at any cost.
“For a long time, I thought love meant tolerating shouting, name calling, control, and fear.
“This year, I am choosing something different. I am choosing to love myself more.
“Loving myself looks like boundaries.
“It looks like blocking numbers that hurt me.
“It looks like therapy, medication, rest, and saying no without guilt.
“It looks like teaching my children that love should feel safe, kind, and respectful.
“If you are reading this and you are in that place, you are not weak, you are not stupid, and you are not alone. You deserve real love, including from yourself.
“Here is to self-respect, healing, and starting again.”

Thank you to this survivor for her determination to help others back from where she has sadly been.

If you need help, please call us. If you are not ready to call us, there is help and support regardless of if you want to report to police. You can contact the Lincolnshire Domestic Abuse Specialist Service (link in comments) or call the freephone 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

10/05/2026

This coming week is Mental Health Awareness Week 🌿

Mental health matters, always, not just when we are struggling, but every day.

Sometimes taking action starts with something small: talking honestly, asking for support, resting without guilt, setting a boundary, or simply acknowledging that things feel hard.

You do not have to wait until you are at breaking point to reach out. Support can help you feel heard, understood, and gently begin to move forward.

08/05/2026

I first came across Anthony De Mello many years ago when I started my practical philosophy course with 'The School of Economic Science.'

I find his books very thought-provoking and wise, and I especially love this quote of his because when you really think about it it's so true.

07/05/2026

This started about a year ago but changed when winter came and now I'm finding it's coming back with the seasonal change 🌞🌞

It also means I go to bed earlier though!

What about you, morning bird or night owl (although I know having kids often leaves you no choice in the matter!)

06/05/2026

Kerry Castledine explains what mother-daughter coaching is and how it can benefit relationships.

05/05/2026

Maternal Mental Health Awareness Week 4-10th May 2026

Maternal mental health matters deeply, not only for mothers themselves, but for the relationships that grow around them.

When a mother is carrying stress, overwhelm, anxiety, or emotional pain without support, it can quietly affect the connection between mother and child too.

So often, what goes unsupported in one generation can be felt in the next. This can be especially powerful within mother–daughter relationships, where patterns, expectations, emotional roles, and unspoken pain can be passed down without anyone meaning for it to happen.

This is where mother–daughter coaching can offer a gentle space to understand those patterns, strengthen communication, explore boundaries, and support healing between generations.

This week is a reminder that support matters, healing matters, and compassionate conversations can change so much.

03/05/2026

As Freud reminds us, unexpressed emotions do not simply disappear. They often stay beneath the surface until they emerge in ways that feel heavier, louder, and harder to manage.

💚This is why therapy can be so powerful. It offers a safe space to name what has been buried, process what has been carried for too long, and begin to heal before pain turns into overwhelm, disconnection, or distress.

💚Therapy is not about weakness. It is about giving your emotions the care and attention they have always needed.

28/04/2026

Beautiful poem written by Abdullah Shoaib 🩷

24/04/2026

This review means a lot to me. I also think it’s an important reminder that therapy is for men too.

So many men carry grief, stress, pressure, and loss quietly. Reaching out for support is not weakness, it is strength 💚

23/04/2026