Perimenopause: The A-Z Guide for Us Idiots

14/04/2026

Proud to have been included in the article from Make a Difference Media

“What would men say to other men about the menopause?”

This isn’t about perfection or expertise, it’s about men being willing to read, listen, and admit they’re learning.
These conversations don’t need medical language or awkward silence. They need curiosity, honesty, and a bit of courage to start saying:
“I didn’t know that! … but I want to understand.”
Progress doesn’t always shout. Sometimes it’s quiet and sitting right here 📖

07/04/2026

Extract 📖

Weight Training: Her Secret Superpower

Weight training becomes one of the BEST things your partner can do during perimenopause, not for shrinking herself or chasing some diet culture nonsense, but for strength, confidence, mood, and hormone support. As oestrogen drops, muscle mass naturally declines and joints feel weaker. Weight training helps reverse that. It boosts mood, steadies blood sugar, strengthens bones, and makes her feel capable again.
Your job? Encourage her, don’t coach her.
Go with her if she wants company, leave her alone if she doesn’t.
Celebrate effort, not numbers on a barbell.
And don’t act surprised if she’s stronger than you think! because she will be.
Weight training won’t make her bulky. It’ll make her powerful.
Exactly what she needs.

02/04/2026

Menopause and Men.........it’s finally becoming a thing!
Really happy to have been involved in this latest article from Make a Difference Media & Events with Katie Finlay

https://lnkd.in/ePQa-Vu2

More men are starting to get invovled, learning, listening and taking part in the menopause conversation. It’s so good to see.

Change happens when everyone’s part of it.

01/04/2026

Podcast interview today from Houston, Texas 🇺🇸
Chris reached out to me through a Facebook group: Menopause Support Group for Men.

We had a great conversation about my book and something we don’t talk about enough: men opening up!

One line that really hit Chris:

“It’s not you vs her, it’s both of you vs the problem.”

So many relationships fall apart not because of the issue itself, but because we turn on each other instead of working together!
The real s**t happens when you stop asking, “Who’s right?” and start asking, “What are we up against together?”

01/04/2026

“I was caught in the act, just read A to E and really liking it pal.
The terminology is just right and it’s an easy read for idiots like me that’s for sure whilst giving us a better insight to what is happening 🫶🏻💙”

This feedback from is amazing! The whole point of the book 📖💙

30/03/2026

Perimenopause: The A–Z Guide for Us Idiots

It might be aimed at men, but its more than that!
Perimenopause isn’t just a woman’s issues.
It’s a workplace issue, a productivity issue, a leadership issue, and a culture issue.

Yes I wrote the book for men, but should it also be in every Manager’s office and HR department?

Katie Finlay from NHS Borders answered my two questions....

1. Why is there a need for this type of book or language specifically for men, about the menopause?

From my experience delivering menopause training to workplaces, it’s clear that many people, women included, still feel hesitant discussing women’s health. That stigma naturally makes it even harder for men to engage confidently in conversations about menopause. A resource written specifically for men helps remove that barrier. It gives them permission to learn without feeling blamed for not already knowing the information.
Sam Anderson’s book offers a straightforward, relatable explanation of what menopause is, why these changes happen, and how men can provide meaningful support to partners, colleagues, friends or family members. Its down‑to‑earth, humorous tone makes the subject accessible rather than intimidating, while still providing factual information. This style meets men where they are and encourages them to take part in conversations that are essential for improving understanding and support.

Question 2 in comments

29/03/2026

I wrote this book to make sense of perimenopause… but I didn’t do it alone.

Dedication

This book is dedicated to my partner —
the absolute legend who survived my constant questions, my confused expressions, and my “is this fu***ng normal?” moments without launching me out the nearest window.
Without you, I’d still be wandering around clueless, wondering why you were roasting one minute, freezing the next, crying at adverts, and threatening me with a fan. I wouldn’t have understood perimenopause at all — never mind thought, “Aye, I should write a book about this chaos.”
Thank you for the honesty, the oversharing, the eye rolls, the patience, and the “right, sit down and LISTEN” talks. You’ve taught me more about hormones, emotions, and survival than any doctor or textbook ever has.
You’re the reason I learned.
You’re the reason I stuck with it.
You’re the reason this book exists.
And honestly?
You deserve a bloody medal for putting up with me through the whole thing.

27/03/2026

When perimenopause hit my partner, I had no idea what the hell was going on. Nobody told me about this. When I spoke to a few mates, I realised we needed a guide. So thanks to my workplace training and some very supportive colleagues and friends, I put together an easy to read A-Z guide to help blokes make sense of the perimenopause and hopefully know how to support their partners and not £@ #% it up!

Available on Amazon now.

Link in bio

27/03/2026

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🎉 𝗪𝗜𝗡 𝗮 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗰𝗼𝗽𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝗦𝗮𝗺’𝘀 𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸! 📘

We’re giving you the chance to get your hands on a signed copy of Perimenopause: The A–Z Guide for Us Idiots by Borders College lecturer Sam Anderson — a humorous and honest guide helping to open up conversations around menopause. 💬

To be in with a chance of winning:
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🗓️ Winner will be drawn on 2nd April – open to everyone!

📖 Find out more about Sam’s story here:
https://www.borderscollege.ac.uk/news/sams-humour-helps-men-understand-menopause

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26/03/2026

Lunchtime today I attended the Healthy Working Lives Scottish Borders, Online Menopause Café hosted by
great session.

As the only man in the room, I was completely welcomed, says a lot about the kind of space this is! Relaxed, Supportive, Inclusive, and built around the Menopause Café model to help people of all ages and genders build understanding, share experiences, and strengthen peer support.

Menopause isn’t a “women’s issue”, it’s a workplace issue, a family issue, and a male issue. The more we talk about it, the better we all do.

I’m now looking to offer a male‑only online Menopause Café in partnership with
Healthy Working Lives and This will be a space for men to ask questions, learn, and have open, judgement free conversations.

If that’s something you’d be interested in, share, drop a message and comment below.

Let’s normalise this!

23/03/2026

Have you got your copy yet?
Visit the link in my bio and order today.

Men and woman are finding this book so relatable.
It makes a sensitive subject so normal.
In a language that everyone will understand and remember.

21/03/2026

I honestly didn’t expect this in the second week! Overwhelmed by the support and feedback 📘💙