16/03/2026
The 5 Most Misunderstood Behaviors in Dementia
When someone we care for begins living with dementia, their behaviors can sometimes feel confusing, frustrating, or even hurtful. But many of these actions are not intentional. They are often the brainโs way of trying to cope with changes it cannot control. Understanding these behaviors can help us respond with more patience and compassion.
1. Repeating the Same Questions: You may hear the same question again and again: โWhat time are we leaving?โ or โWhere is my bag?โ This happens because short-term memory is affected. The person simply cannot remember that they already asked. For them, every time feels like the first time.
Instead of correcting them harshly, calmly answer again or write the information down somewhere visible.
2. Accusing Others of Stealing: A person with dementia might say someone took their money, phone, or clothes. This can be painful to hear. But often the item is just misplaced. Because memory is impaired, the brain fills in the gap with suspicion.
Try helping them look for the item and reassure them rather than arguing.
3. Wanting to โGo Homeโ: Even when they are already at home, they may say they want to go home. Usually, they are not talking about a physical place. โHomeโ often represents a feeling of safety, familiarity, or a time in life when everything made sense.
Instead of explaining logically, focus on comforting them.
4. Agitation or Anger: Sudden anger or frustration can appear out of nowhere. This may happen because the person feels confused, overwhelmed, or unable to express what they need. Imagine how frightening it must feel when the world no longer makes sense.
A calm voice and a quiet environment can help reduce this stress.
5. Following You Everywhere: Some people with dementia follow their caregiver from room to room. This is not meant to annoy anyone. It often happens because they feel safer when someone they trust is nearby.
A little reassurance can make a big difference.
Dementia changes the brain, but it does not erase the personโs need for dignity, comfort, and love. The more we understand the reasons behind these behaviors, the easier it becomes to respond with empathy rather than frustration.
Sometimes what looks like difficult behaviorโฆ
is actually a silent call for reassurance.
โค๏ธ If youโve experienced one of these moments with someone you support, share your story in the comments. Your experience might help another caregiver feel less alone today.
-Florence Mankhanamba