15/03/2026
On Mothering Sunday, I often feel so grateful to have my own children, grown up now, and to have had a good example of a mother to follow. She wasn’t there to talk to or to ask questions to help or show me how it’s done because she passed away too soon but I had that role modelling which I was able to turn to time and again.
Being a mother isn’t always easy. Finding that strength to pour into your family, without verbal thanks at first because those little ones have no words yet but finding the thanks in that giggle or smile or hold of the hand.
Then there’s the strength needed to hold others whilst sometimes barely holding yourself. The times you sacrificed your needs, your hopes, your dreams sometimes to make sure someone else was ok.
Most mothers I know have felt do carry guilt that they were or are not perfect. Who is? It’s the first time of doing things, being a mum is not done in isolation, the world doesn’t stop, it carries on whilst you do your best to blend it all and do the best you can. Because that’s all anyone can do: the best they can. And that’s enough. So forgive yourself for the mistakes. Those times have gone but you can learn from them and do things differently going forwards.
My mother wasn’t perfect, far from it and I wasn’t the perfect daughter but her love and kindness with always be with me.
For all of you whose experiences were different from mine, that must have been tough. For those who wanted to be a mum but were not able to be, for those who still carry hurt and guilt and shame from past or present experiences, I’m so sorry.
For all the mothers, long to be mothers, soon to be mothers, we celebrate you. If you have recently or not so recently lost your mum and your heart hurts, imagine my around your shoulder because i too have known that pain.
If today is hard for you, be gentle with yourself and give yourself the love, care and tenderness you need.
Sending love and positives to all who need it today.
