NJM Counselling & Hypnotherapy

06/01/2026

A belated Happy New Year to you all🥳

The end of last year was a little tricky, to say the least, for myself and my family, so I had to take some much needed time out to focus on what was important right then.

Now, I am back, and although I am not with clients until next week, this week I am catching up, answering all your emails and enquires and booking in for the months coming ahead.
I am also finishing some training, that's part of my CPD, that helps me to help all you amazing people.

So, a big thank you for all of you who have been patient, I really appreciate it.

Looking forward to 2026 being as successful as last year, and that's only made by the huge amounts of recommendations I get from all of you I have worked with, to which I am so grateful - recommendations are the biggest thank you anyone can receive, I am truly blessed.

So to those who finished their journey with me last year, let 2026 bring you everything you ever wanted and deserved and for those of you continuing your journey with me, lets make this year count and get you to where you want and deserve to be 😍

And for anyone who hasn't yet dipped their toe into the therapy journey, maybe who look from a distance, then please know, my door is open for you to come and meet me and find out how I can help, all you need to do is make contact.

Keep being the amazing you that you are, let go of the things that hold you back, find peace in your heart with the past, take all the learnings from every experience, to enable you to move forwards with growth and strength - and finally always, always, always remember YOU ARE ENOUGH

Nicola 🙂

25/12/2025

As this year draws to a close, I want to take a moment to say thank you to you all.

To those I’ve had the privilege of working with this year — thank you for your trust, your willingness, your courage to show up, and your commitment to yourselves.
It’s never easy to do the work you’ve done, and I personally, never take it for granted for being the one you choose to walk alongside you on that journey.

And to those I’ll meet in the year ahead — I look forward to welcoming you when the time feels right for you. Whether you’re taking your first step on the therapy journey or returning to continue working on yourself, you’ll be met with care, respect, and compassion, in a safe environment to explore and grow.

Christmas can be a time of warmth and connection, but it can also stir emotions, so wherever you find yourself this season, I hope you’re able to offer yourself a little kindness and rest.

So thank you for being part of this year, in whatever way that’s been. I’m deeply grateful for the work I do, and for the people who trust me with their stories and I wish you peace, gentleness, and moments of calm this Christmas — and a New Year that brings clarity, healing, and growth.

On a personal note, I want to say a big thank you to all of you that have been patient, whilst I've been managing some turbulent waters myself of late, and thank you for understanding when communication hasn't been as fluid as you expect, normality will resume in 2026 😊

Look after yourselves and remember, you are always enough 🙏

Warmest wishes,
Nicola
NJM Counselling & Hypnotherapy

04/10/2025

We often talk about how best to manage conversations with people that are not respecting us.
Here are some great words to store, so they are there if you ever need them ❤️

04/10/2025

If you need someone having your back today and reminding you how bloody amazing you are, and you've got this, let this guy do it for you ❤️.

Someone having our back, wanting the best for us, is so important in life, we all NEED a cheerleader.

Shared by the amazing Emma Evans today and certainly made me smile and feel lifted ❤️

20/08/2025

We focus a great deal on inner child work in the therapy room and re-connecting to our younger selves doing mirror work.
Here are some great examples that you can share with your younger self, to let them know how amazing they are, and you are today ❤️.

Give it a go, it's a powerful and beautiful thing 😊

20/08/2025

This was a great watch for me this morning, I do love listening to Gabor Mate.
If you are thinking you have ADHD, maybe watch this and see if you can relate 😊
If you don't think that, but feel your brain doesn't work like it "should" then watch this
Or if you are just interested in how child development affects our behaviours as adults, then watch this 😊

Dr. Gabor Mate talks about how big is the impact of our emotions to our physical body; and how this impacts everyone since early ages. Dr. Gabor Mate talks a...

11/07/2025

Oooh, here is one to really get you thinking 🥴🥴.

I wonder what else your brain perceives to see that may or may not be real 🤔🤔

05/07/2025

This just about sums up a dog's purpose in life ❤️

WHY DO DOGS LIVE SHORTER LIVES THAN HUMANS?

Here’s a surprising answer from a 6-year-old child 💪✍

A friend of mine, a veterinarian, once shared a touching story.

I was called to examine a ten-year-old German Shepherd named Astro. The dog’s owners and their young son were very attached to him and were hoping for a miracle.

I examined Astro and found that he was dying of cancer. I told the family that nothing more could be done and offered to perform the euthanasia at their home.

They agreed—it was the most humane choice, as the dog would otherwise suffer greatly.

As we prepared, the parents told me their six-year-old son wanted to be present during the procedure.

The next day, I felt the familiar lump in my throat as the family gathered around Astro. The little boy was calm as he gently petted the dog one last time before Astro peacefully passed away. 🖤

Afterward, we all sat together in silence, reflecting on why dogs have much shorter lives than humans.

The boy, who had been quietly listening, suddenly spoke:

"I know why."

We all turned to him in surprise. What he said next stunned me—I've never heard a more comforting explanation. 🐕

He said:

“People are born to learn how to live a good life—like loving and being kind, right? Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don’t need to stay as long as we do.”

If a dog were your teacher, you might learn things like:

🍀 Run to greet your loved ones when they come home.
🍀 Never miss a chance to go for a walk.
🍀 Take naps.
🍀 Stretch before rising.
🍀 Run, play, and have fun daily.
🍀 When it’s enough to growl, don’t bite.
🍀 On warm days, lie on your back in the grass.
🍀 Drink lots of water and relax in the shade.
🍀 When you're happy, dance and wag your whole body.
🍀 Enjoy the simple joy of a long walk.
🍀 Be loyal.
🍀 Never pretend to be someone you’re not.
🍀 If what you want is buried, dig until you find it.
🍀 When someone’s having a bad day, be quiet, sit close, and just be there.

That’s the secret to happiness—straight from a dog’s heart.

04/07/2025

Just leaving this here.....

It's ok to start over and change what wasn't working for you.
1 life, that is very short, is all we have, so make sure it's a life that serves you well and creates happiness for you ❤️

Sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is to admit that the life you're living is not the one you truly want. It takes strength to look at your world — your habits, your choices, your surroundings — and say, "This isn't it." But that moment of honesty is where transformation begins.

Be brave enough to find the life you want.
This means listening to your inner voice — the one you've probably ignored for far too long. It means asking hard questions:
Am I truly happy?
Am I fulfilled?
Is this the life I imagined for myself, or one I've settled into out of fear, pressure, or convenience?

Be courageous enough to chase it.
Once you see the life you want, the next step is even harder — going after it. That might mean walking away from comfort, familiar faces, or old patterns. It might mean facing failure, uncertainty, and judgment. But chasing your true life, despite the risks, is how freedom is born.

And if you’ve lost yourself somewhere along the way…

Start over.
There is no shame in beginning again. In fact, there is power in it. You are not starting from scratch — you are starting from experience, from lessons learned, from wisdom gained.

Love yourself the way you were always meant to.
Speak kindly to yourself. Forgive yourself for what you didn’t know before. Honor your growth. Nourish your soul. You deserve the same love and compassion you give to others — maybe even more.

You’re allowed to rewrite your story.
You’re allowed to change direction.
You’re allowed to start over.

And most importantly — you’re allowed to be happy.