22/11/2023
Anger is a strong and valuable emotion that should not be ignored or suppressed, it tells us that something is wrong, it is a signal that we are in danger of losing something that matters to us. When we suppress our anger, we are teaching ourselves to dissociate, to be out of touch with ourselves, to devalue and, discount what our emotions and energy are telling us.
Unprocessed and repressed anger can manifest into psychophysiological disorders, such as headaches and ulcers, character disorders, such as passive-aggressive behaviours, the inability to work, serious depression and panic disorders. Another problem with denying anger is that it turns into bitterness and leads to a critical and unforgiving spirit.
Instead of denying anger, we must own it and find its source. As we examine our anger, we can find out what we are trying to protect. Anger may be protecting an injured vulnerability or a will that was controlled. We may be under criticism from someone and need to break away from perfectionism. Whatever the source, anger tells you there is a problem, and it should never be denied.
We may discover that our anger is protecting a negative behaviour, such as pride, jealousy, fear, or perfectionism. Maybe we feel angry because we are losing control of another person. In either case, if we deny our anger, we can't get to the source.
learn to be comfortable to sit with your anger, allow a safe space in which you can bring it to the surface. This may look like channelling it through physical activities such as a boxing class, or running, screaming into a pillow, writing it out in your journal or through a healing session.
Witness it, channel it in a safe way and release it from you before it spills from you in an unhelpful or harmful way.
Your anger is valid!
