03/10/2025
📝💻 Nicky writes:
'It can be easy, if having come from divorced, or even unhappy parents who stayed together, to feel sceptical about marriage or long term commitment, and that belief or doubt can negatively impact upon your long term relationship. On the other hand, many of us are brought up on the “Disneyfied” ideals of “happy ever after.” Does meeting the right person magically make everything okay? The reality is probably all couples go through difficult phases.
Some couples are very forward thinking and have Couples Therapy before they move in or get married. Here they can learn helpful relationship tools and positive communication styles. Life changing events do get thrown at us, such as: having children, redundancy, bereavements, mental health issues etc. So it makes sense to feel able to support and rely on each other, and feel confident that your partner will do the same for you.
It really does matter how you communicate. Are you blunt or more sensitive? What does your tone and body language convey? Your interpretations and perceptions feel real but are they accurate? Are you able to resolve conflict? Does your way of communicating get you the result you want? Utilising this knowledge can help bring peace and tranquillity to life at home.
Many people come to us at crisis point when it can feel more difficult to get things back to where you want them. However, the couples who are more forward thinking can be well prepared for these life changing events or daily challenges. They have learned how to support each other and learned about deterioration prevention so they are equipped to deal with the unpredictable future.
Either way we can help you do the work; to feel closer, to feel more heard, loved and valued. Perhaps work towards more intimacy. Invest in yourselves and in your relationship. Have a wellness routine rather than wait until you need crisis management. Grow together, enjoy your relationship.'